I decided to take the plunge and join one of the civie online dating sites. Let's just say it's the biggest of those.  
Im browsing women's profiles and come across a provider I've never seen in person but who has been on my radar for a while.  
I noticed recently that someone had posted on the local board that they hadn't seen her for a while and did anyone know how to reach her.  
next thing I know she has seen that I read her profile and writes to me telling me she finds me interesting and would like to meet  
My basic life philosophy is that we all have history and pasts and what anyone did for work, kids etc before I met them is none of my business. Kind of a good for the goose good for the gander type thing.  
But I'm reading her profile and it's a better piece of fiction than James Patterson could come up with LOL
Regardless she wouldn't be someone I'd want to date IRL for a few different reasons, none of them because she has been a provider. I am more sensitive to saying no thanks to her because I'm thinking a major life change like that for anyone is a major step out of their comfort zone and I don't want to be insensitive.  
Has anyone ever come across a provider in a situation like this or ladies have you ever bumped into a hobbyist in an awkward situation in civie life?

Men there want free sex and women want to get paid for it. This is just another of her investigation into the same thing. She just trying to dig gold. It is all in this life about sex and money ( and power over it). This is good resource, so try to stick to it. I am recently heard good things about SD/SB scene, so maybe you should try this one. Dating is total waste of time ( on internet dating sites though).Xo

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she only has that profile on that dating site to attract more business?  Maybe not, maybe she is genuinely looking for a civvie relationship.  But..........in my experience, have heard from many of my friends on certain "dating" sites, that they have encountered providers seeking appointments.

Just another perspective to ponder.

A former (or perhaps current) provider who you find attractive and has been on your radar for a while has written to you, has told you she finds you interesting, and wants to meet IRL for dinner or drinks?  The only way to find out if her profile is real or fiction is to meet her and get to know her. You might be surprised to find out that she is far more interesting than she thinks you are.  Are you really getting SO many offers from attractive, interesting, and intelligent women that you don't want to learn more about her?  

To answer your question, about 16 years ago I met a lady in DC who advertised herself as having ALL SORTS of top-notch educational credentials. I met her many times, on-and-off the clock, and over time I learned that every credential was legit... and she also happened to come from one the wealthiest families in the world. (Intelligent and beautiful women can still have daddy issues... especially when their daddy truly is not nice! LOL)  To think what this on-your-radar lady wrote is pure fiction MIGHT be a big mistake.  Only one way to find out...

That is, that she's "working" the dating site?  

I'm not saying that's the case, but it does happen.  

As to awkward situations.... oh hell yes. Many times.  I've also had run-ins with people from my personal life in the biz.  Those were mainly when I worked with agencies, and didn't know someone's real name prior to meeting.  
That alone is a BIG reason I now require real, full names.  

 
So let's see; some of my greatest hits (more like misses lol).....

Many years ago, when my kids were little, we were out to eat when a guy who was walking past suddenly did a double-take, came to a dead stop, and loudly said "DEBBIE?!?"" with his mouth hanging open.  I refused to acknowledge him, but from the corner of my eye I saw he turned really red and walked out.  Idiot.  

During a long hiatus from the business, I was on various dating and swinger sites.  People I'd either met or simply recognized me from my old ads would send me crude/insulting messages asking me "how much" or even threatening to "out" me as an escort to the site if I wouldn't hook up them.  Instead, I got them kicked off the site lol.  

 
Once (again while I was out of the business for several years) I was actually at a swingers club when a guy approached me while I was with a group of people.  "Debbie?  What are you doing here?"  I played it off as a case of mistaken identity but later on, he cornered me when I was alone.  
"Debbie, I know it's you.  We met 3 times!"  I replied that was a while ago, please don't use that name here.  He didn't get it. "So you're WORKING tonight?  How do we do that?"
NO, I'm here just like everyone else.   But of course he was still suspicious because, you know, once a provider always a provider.  LMAO.  
Then his WIFE CAME OVER, telling me it's their first time at this type of club, they had just decided to get into the lifestyle;  now they both wanted me to play! Oh no.... I mumbled something and slipped away.  
Unfortunately, it didn't end there.  Towards the end of the night he caught me coming out of a play-room, and grabbed my arm to pull me aside.  I held my ground and simply asked him very quietly, "Does your wife know that you and I have already met?"    
Hated to have to do that, but it worked.  

 
The absolute worst: this was a client I'd only met a couple of times.  Long story short, more than a year after I'd last seen him it just so happened that I'd moved and we were now living in the same town.  And our children attended the same school.  
I didn't even see him, but the day after a school play, he started sending me very alarming emails.  HE was playing the victim!!!  Accusing me of stalking him, telling me how wrong I was to be there, he was going to out me for doing this, etc etc etc.  I was able to get him on the phone and eventually calm him down, explaining the situation, but then he demanded that I not attend any more school functions.  Called me unprofessional to have allowed this to happen in the first place and that he shouldn't be made to feel uncomfortable this way in the future.  

Naturally, I wouldn't agree to that so the conversation ended badly.   The next day I found out he actually called the school's principal in an attempt to anonymously "out" me! What he didn't know was that I had a very good relationship with most of the school (and school district's) administrative staff so he wasn't believed for a second.  
The principal and her office staff were actually more alarmed that I apparently had a stalker and wanted to know who he was so they could assist me in reporting him!  Yeah, thanks but..... LOL.  
I noticed him a couple of times after that, at parent-teacher nights and so forth, always staring at me.  Sigh.   A long time later he emailed me to apologize.  Called it a knee-jerk reaction.    
Uh-huh.   Well, he got the "jerk" part right. LOL.  

 
No amount of screening can weed out the guys who will behave unpredictably when bumping into one another in civvie life.    

 
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NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit

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So you signed up to a civvie dating site, happened across a provider who had been on your radar, she sends you a PM on that site, and simply because she had a profile that may or may not be fictional, you wouldn't give her the benefit of the doubt and meet her IRL....Yeah that's a crock of shit if you ask me, you were perfectly fine with paying her before you read her REAL profile on that site...Yet you say it's fiction? Way to show how much respect you have for a woman trying to have a real relationship in my opinion. Did you expect her profile to say "I have slept with hundreds of men, I know my way around a cock." ???????

Wow, thank you for sharing your story.  I am new in the business as of now, but someday I won't be, or someday I'll be out of the business and will have a "civvie" life to juggle.  It's very helpful to be aware of the possible situations I may run into later on in life so I can keep an eye out down the road.  What a nightmare, but it sounds like you handled it masterfully.

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Never judge a book by its cover. I would go on a date with her. I met someone recently who I never thought I was going to have the opportunity to meet in this world. She blew me away as she was much more grounded and down to earth than I would have thought. At the end of the day we are all people with feelings. We just did dinner and for one night I felt like the luckiest guy in the world. The profile might be who she really is. Every experience is an experience worth having.  

Enjoy the date.
Zak

 

Or is your bio fictitious?

Yeah, you are blonde, and without knowing anything about me you have a lot to say.
If you had half a brain it'd be looking for help.
So take your hair brained attitude somewhere else, clown

That's part of the entire point, zak: I never really liked her enough to do anything but keep her on radar.
I probably didn't present that well enough.  
Always had sort of a "not really my type, might do in a pinch" thing
Since I don't hobby much at all the occasion never came up.
If I liked her more from the start I'd probably pursue it  
I put myself thru school on the GI bill and as a major city cop/detective.  
Even though it's been decades since my sister got into the medical biz (thanks, sis!!!), that old skepticism is always lurking somewhere.  
Tell me one untruth and I'm done  
For that particular reason I've always enjoyed/admired the girls who post on this board. It's like "this is me, take it or leave it, if you don't like it stfu and go away" LOL. I admire that

Nope, mine is 1000% accurate.  
My sex life, as everyone else's, is my own personal business.  
Like I said earlier in the thread everyone has a history  
Not interested in calling anyone out on theirs, not offering my occasional fling preferences to anyone else.

I'm that way too.  

But other than your natural inclination to distrust, what made you think her bio was a work of fiction?

Not being argumentative, I'm just curious.  

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NOONER: (noun) A sexual encounter during lunch hour, especially one that is illicit.

I'm not the fucking idiot who believes everything he reads on the internet...Nor am I on the worlds largest dating website trying to get my life together.  

If you cannot handle criticism from the general masses, I'd suggest you keep your computer turned off and keyboard out of reach.

i gotta say i wondered the same thing... how come she was attractive to him as a provider but not as a civvie?

maybe civvie dating in general is too much for this guy...

I can't imagine myself on a dating site to begin with, but if I were I would think that having a "hooker past" would be a positive, not a negative to me.

The OP did say she wasn't his type to begin with. I can sort of relate to that after being on the SA site. I have recognized a couple of providers on the site, if they were "my type" I would jump all over them in the SB world, but alas they just don't do it for me so I simply skipped over them in favor of women who are my type.

I read her reviews at one point, know what she's into  
The civie profile was wayyyyy to the other extreme like "I've been married for a long time and just getting back into dating"
I know that's not close to the truth

Like I said in an earlier post, mine is completely honest
Even included the past cop thing because some people have a problem with that  
I get it, it's all a matter of choice.  
I'm also aware some folks don't like veterans, though I don't understand that, so it's in there too
Nowhere is there a box to check •hobbyist monger😈

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So you're saying that because she was a provider, obviously she wasn't married and is NOT just getting back into dating?  PUH-leaze!!!  
 

Sorry to dispel any illusions, but no you do not know what she's into.  All you actually know is what she was able to convince her clients she was "into".  And that could be very different from her own preferences, proclivities, and inclinations. Okay, HOW do you KNOW that isn't the truth?  Did you learn  her real name and do some sleuthing?
She very well could have been married for a long time and really is just getting back into dating.  You truly do not know.

Unless you somehow think that being a provider means she is unmarried.  And that providing is like real-world dating.

And if that's what you think..... ABSOLUTELY.  Every provider I know is a single, horny, hot-to-trot babe gone wild. Yup.
Every one of us.  And every client we meet could be Mr. Right because hey.... this is just another form of dating, right?!

 
I apologize if I'm being overly sarcastic or condescending but your evidence is no evidence at all.  Please think about it.

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