is my best guess, as many men simply don't want to go to the bother of collecting various data like the provider's email/phone number/website, etc.  Also, many providers, when given references, don't bother to check them out or don't even mind if you don't provide references.  

It is best for everyone if providers can check references on a site like Date Check or Preferred 411; simplifies the work for both client and provider.

P.S.  Olivia, glad to see you are doing well now that you have struck out on your own.  You are one classy lady

I sent you a pm.  I hope you have access to that if not email me.  [email protected]

Octavia

Who knows... clients can be fickle fiends...

I know that in some ways I would prefer to be able to make contact to see if things look like a match and provide references after we mutually decide that this would be good. Also, I like to give my refs a heads up that a request is coming, as a courtesy.

I have had that happen, as long as t hey are willing to follow my laternate screening, I dont let it bother me. All I REALLY care is that they are safe, and not a boundry pusher, I dont care who they have had relations with. so if I can assure myself of that by my alternate screening so be it.

for a reference, she will be upset at him for seeing someone new instead of her.

Sometimes, that fear is justified.

I like providers who come right out and tell me that they would be happy to supply a reference any time.

I think that if more providers would make that clear, more clients would supply references and we'd all be a lot happier.