In either case, you are leaving breadcrumbs. Bringing providers to your home can be risky even if you are single because neighbors talk and just because you do it during sunlight hours doesn't mean someone hasn't "seen." If you are using a small hotel nearby you also risk exposure because locals may know you even when you don't know them, unless that doesn't matter and I think it does. The best hotels are ones that attract convention business. They are busy typically right up until 10 PM or so. They might even be known for their bar area. So long as foot traffic is steady and your session mate doesn't look like she stepped off the block. These hotels can be a bit pricier so use Priceline and the other discounters. I recently got a 5-star for $89 using Priceline, a Thursday night deal and it was quite nice.

SO boys, I am curious. In the past I have used my persona; residence (private and secure) as my incall...However, there are appointment times that I am not comfortable with usng MY place as my incall...IE..evenings, when neighbors are home etc...NO NEED to bring preying, nosy neighbors anything to talk about...SO I have on a few occasions booked a decent hotel nearby, (obviously taking into consideration the enterence and consideration of things like that) and using THAT as my "Incall"... Just wondering how you feel about that. DO you feel just as secure arriving at a hotel, as you would a home? Would it change your mind either way? Any and all thoughts welcomed...
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I feel much more secure in a hotel than I do visiting a woman at her residence.

I screen my paid dates well and if I am contacting you I know you not to be LE. So as long as you have an incall, and it is clean, I am happy. It is often to much hassle for me to get my own room, so I rarely outcall.

I don't have a problem with hotels if their set up is good.  A large hotel in a semi urban area that I have been to before helps.  Often they have a rear entrance that leads to the elevator in a pretty direct manner.  It's also nice if they have a stair that leads directly outside, and the appointment is 2nd or 3rd floor., makes for a smooth exit.

If its a place that I am unfamiliar with, it helps if its a chain like Hilton, Westin, etc.  They have web sites where you can sometimes see pics of the lobby, etc.  Another plus for me is parking nearby, not at the hotel itself, where I can wait for the call.  Then I can drive into the hotel lot and go into the building immediately, like I had some business being there, which I do.

I actually prefer an incall at the kind of hotel you describe.  I don't really want to know where a provider lives and also don't want neighbors peering at me, wondering why I'm there.  I actually feel less vulnerable at a good hotel with the kinds of access/exits described by the other posters.  The only important attribute not mentioned is the elevators must not require key-card access unless there are stairs you can guide me to (and you're not too many floors up!)

I also prefer busy hotels. While I've done incalls at private homes, I like to blend in with the crowd.

I agree - I have done incalls at private homes a few times, and was always more nervous than going to a hotel...  I guess that comes from living near some extremely nosy neighbors, who monitor all comings and goings.  That being said, I have visited providers at apartments that were less obvious - gated communities, large parking lots, and more people coming and going, so you are not as obvious.

Re the provider's residence, another issue is whether it's clean.  I spent time with a perfecftly nice gal at her condo, but it was a mess (a box of empty liquor bottles by the door, grungy bathroom, etc.).  I'd have been much happier at a decent hotel.

Well thank you Boys, that was exactly the input I was looking for...You always hear "no I prefer a home" OR the complete opposite, I HAVE to use both options, so I am glad to hear BOTH are acceptable (that being said MY home is museum like clean) Id just be too embarrassed to have ANYONE over otherwise...and I always make the obeisance as inviting and "romantic" as possible, regardless of where I "entertain"!  
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OK, just so long as the museum you're referring to isn't the Cairo Museum!  LOL!

out having to go to the lobby are nice all the amenities without the crumb trail.  Not that I have not visited the cheep hotels but it is nice not meeting at the side door.

Maybe we are making too much of this. Not everyone thinks someone who comes and goes is seeing a hooker. Our paranoia is going overboard because we know we are doing something illegal. I don't give a shit about the ones who think they are paying for companionship and sex just happens. Get you head out of the sand. I have had local friends come buy where I am staying for a drink. Is the front desk person picking up the phone to call the cops? I don't think so. Act like you belong and not some shiftless bloke oozing into the lobby and all wil be fine. As for apartments the smae holds true. Have some self presence and not a giant woody sticking out and it will be cool. Now if the lady in question is so obvious that she is on the local LE radar you are fucked no matter where you go. So bottom line use your big head when setting up trysts to satisfy your little head.

I have to say I've not done an incall at the lady's home before. I've always thought the neighbors would catch on rather quickly that a "home-based business" was operating, so I would avoid. I prefer hotels with outside entrances to the rooms, and I'll arrive a few minutes early, park nearby, and casually check out the parking lot. If its a larger hotel with an elevator and inside entrances to the rooms, I'll try to use a back or side entrance (usually unlocked during the day). For some reason, I HATE walking past the reception desk- its like I have a huge sign on my back which states "He's Here To Get Laid And He's Paying."

I much prefer hosting outcall in a hotel room I have reserved and paid for. I can arrive early, chill the wine, put on some music, shower just before the appointment time, and relax for bit when the session is over and the lady has departed. Also, you don't risk encountering the next client in the lobby, a real risk in the small city in which I live. Finally, I would think an LE sting would be much less likely than at an incall.

YOU have just MADE my night!! LMAO!! I have often thought the same thing about the over paranoia!! I have friends over plenty, and I know a neighbor that DOES have a legit (or so she says) business out of her home. I think it is wayyyyyy overthought!!

I have used my private CLEAN townhome as my incall (with the evening exceptions) and as far as I know they have ALL enjoyed my accommodations.  As in life there is a time and place for everything.  I am actually quite surprised by the HOTEL preferences, I would think it would be opposite, but hey, clearly, what do I know???  Thanks for the clarity and the laugh!

Just today I walked up to hotel security and asked how to find the hotel elevators to meet my friend for the hour.  I never mentioned that I was going to fuck a hooker and the guard didn't seem the least bit rattled by the question.  When I'm at the Hilton, I go in like I'm Conrad.

Being invisible meaning, pretend like you are resident. The reality is no one gives crap why you are there or what you are doing, especially, if it is a busy hotel.

Take brief case (computer bag really), pretend like you are on your smart phone doing work or pretend like you are talking to someone on you cell phone and be confident and look like you have right to be there and act normal as you pass others and what you would normally do on a business trip.

It is same as going to fancy restaurant by yourself, asking to be seated and enjoying the dinner.

Some can do it and some can't.