This public display of mutual affection might harm the morals on this board.

In case anyone isn't aware of this, Ciara and I normally get along just fine.

Having said that, obviously there was a misunderstanding here today.  For any part I played in that, I am very sorry.  Ciara is someone whose sense of humor and intelligence I am very happy to have on this board, and I would never want to say anything to her that would discourage her expression of these aspects of her personality.

Ciara, sweetie, I am very sorry to hear that you had bad news this morning, and I sincerely hope that it is not "lasting".

If it is a man's world on TER, that is news to me, only because I rarely think in those terms.  Naive, I am sure.  However, I think many of my posts have demonstrated that I tend to support the ladies here very strongly, oftentimes more strongly than they guys.  When a guy says "whatever the heck he wants to say", and it is negative towards the ladies, I am usually one of the first to jump in and defend the ladies.  Anyone who has paid attention on here knows this.  The "unappreciated" thread above about the guy who is disappointed in his provider "friends" not being grateful enough is a good example.  You also posted on that thread, Ciara, and no one jumped you (albeit, your post was gentler than mine was).  I also don't agree that when ladies counter a guys negative post, you always "get bashed severely".  I have seen many, many threads that a lady has posted something conflicting to that the subsequent posts are mostly if not all in support of her retort.  As a matter of fact, I have been "bashed" several times by men on the San Diego board for being TOO supportive of the providers there.

One of the reasons I AM as supportive as I am with the ladies is specifically because it is your livelihood.  I just posted something on the San Diego board which documents my support of this.

http://theeroticreview.com/msgBoard/ViewMsgBody.asp?BoardID=7&Page=1&Messageid=26001

As for other providers that thought I was being rude, what can I say?  I put my funny faces up from the first post, indicating to you and to everyone that I was kidding.  My whole point in the first post I wrote was that I didn't post to your thread because I thought that the posts to it were in a different vein than how I interpreted your thread.  I didn't mean that I thought the thread itself was unclear.  If they are providers who know me and who thought I was being rude to you, then I am sad, because I would think they know how respectful I am to ladies on here.

You also posted to my post on the "unappreciated" thread that I am being mean lately.  Hmmm.  Was I mean to tell someone who was saying that all women don't know how to be appreciative that they likely have issues?  If so, then I am mean.  I think that ANYONE who generalizes genders like that is dead wrong, and I will say that until the day I die, even if the world is against me.  If that is mean, then so be it.  I admit, I don't always say things in the most gentle manner.  Why do you think I called myself Mr. Self Destruct? :P  When I see something that I think is injust, at times, I feel that to get the attention of the writer, I have to word my post more strongly.  However, I am not always that way, and two posts don't make a mean man.

Ciara, in closing, I would like to say that you are one of the most accepting people I have seen on this board, and you try to be fair and generous with all.  That is why I thought the absurdity of posting "Don't crash Ciara's party" would seem just that...absurd!  However, I obviously was wrong...to you, and to those few "other providers"...so I just want to say once more, I was kidding, and I am sorry that anyone took it otherwise.

To quote the legendary John Sayles, "It's a joke, Precious".