I've been in this hobby for a long time and while I of course love being able to live out my sexual fantasies with beautiful women, I have realized that I really enjoy the entire experience that this hobby affords. From initially browsing my favorite agency sites, to researching providers, reaching out and setting up appointments. From there it's the excitement of preparing for the day from grooming and showering to driving to the location. Arriving, parking, and notifying them you are there, and the anticipation waiting in my car for the que to head in. Getting the room number, walking through the hotel lobby knowing what's in store, navigating to the room. Perhaps my favorite part is that nervous excited feeling I get in my stomach right before you knock on the door and it opens to reveal your prize for the evening.

But beyond even that is the making of a human connection with the woman.   As I age, that has become a prime factor in my enjoyment.

Sometimes you just need a wet pussy.. KnowhatImean?

The thrill of anticipation. The frisson of excitement as you walk in the door. The mixture of desire and apprehension at the thought of doing something out of bounds.

All if the above is true. The research, the lead-up, hopefully the intimacy, the cuddle at the end. Prefer true GFE more than PSE.

Would you use "I" like that. It doesn't roll off the tongue like "my" does.  

As a provider, I find that the whole experience is much more important. The chatting and cuddling after is just as nice and the gentlemen I see prefer the same, so it works well! I would consider myself true GFE. I love CIM and being submissive but connection is important too.

the butterflies are long gone.  The only thing that gives me a little anticipation anxiety sometimes before the door opens is wondering how far off the ad photos were from the real deal.  

Back in the day, we used to have M&Gs. There was certainly a social aspect to the hobby that  is no longer there anymore. At least in the DC area LE cracked down on them.  

It's a shame I can't tell anyone IRL about my adventures here. Certainly would be some good stories to tell and laughs to share.

Well said regarding the loneliness. It's funny that a big part of the hobby is connecting with providers but on the flip side you can't share your enthusiasm or experiences the way you can with other hobbies. It would be awesome to be able to connect with other like minded hobbyists to share experiences, tips, stories, recommendations but I guess you are right in that TER provides that avenue in a way.

Frisson...what a great word and perfectly captures the sensation.

I like the door opening.  If you've never met that person it's a surprise what they look like.  But, also because you know what's in store.   It's guaranteed enjoyment and a break from real life.  The waiting and screening I can go without.

But that was under a previous TER username.  I never went as CDL.  

Not Beatles..   LMAO..  I came of age during Metallica years in the 90s ..

HERE to share the high's, low's and everything in between about seeing providers, many of us would get ourselves in trouble by telling people we shouldn't be telling about it.  Lol

...so I embrace the entire of the endeavor that is p4p.

On the topic, I miss the whole experience, including the planning, the preparation, anticipation, the whole experience and the afterglow, and the memories.    

There was a group/website in San Diego 15+ years ago called SDASP that had regular meet and greets in North County. They were a lot of fun, a good way to get a look at the ladies and make connections. I miss those days.

Picking out a provider based on what whets my appetite. No butterflies for me, only wondering if she will look like her pics or if her face is blurred out,, how close my estimate of her beauty will be. Also knowing that her lips will be wrapped around my dick in a few minutes. When I’m done, there’s no boring conversation, just get dressed and leave.

Co-worker: Hey buddy what did you do this weekend?
Me (with shit-eating grin): Well first I booked a hotel room. Then I ordered a platter of Red Bull and condoms. Next I had my 3 favorite hookers come to the room. Oh--you might want to sit down for this next part.

I second "Door opening...".

Most of all, I love entering the 'bubble'.

Writing the review!  If it was a good visit, I really enjoy re-living it by taking the time to write a recap. If it sucked, usually a much shorter review, with just the gruesome details.

How is it for someone who is turned off by Beatles, and thinks they were all hype.. I mean seriously? Beatles?

Let the excitement, anticipation, fantasizing, and preparation ritual begin!

Very well put and so very true. I have stories I can never tell except on this board.

.....easy to have just sex...touring drummer 20yrs+....the chance to share experiences w open minded women.. is why im here...

Wow - that’s a great question! First because I feel like I could write a book on the topic, and second because I am fascinated by the answers. I guess I’ll edit my answer down to a few things I love about the hobby!

It could be either - AT my age or AS I age. Looks like both could work.

It always said “As I age.”  That is not an edited post. When I first read your post days ago, I was wondering what the hell you were thinking. Mrfisher’s post was perfectly grammatically correct, and your post made no sense. I was going to say something, but I chalked it up to you PUI. Then you guys got into that Beatles discussion and I left it alone until you brought it up again. 🤣

I never ask about the industry.  IMO it's rude and most people don't want to talk about it.  In eight years I've only had two ladies talk about it and that's after seeing them 2-3 times.  Overall, I avoid it.  I prefer the time with them to be about us, mostly physical.  Plus, I side with caution.  Better not to ask than pry and offend them.  Also, you may look like LE.  Not worth it.

Those were fun.  If that was you putting them on, thanks!

Lately, you can find him on the P & R Board and sometimes on this one.  Yes, he did a great job.  Always organized and well-run.   Can't say the same for some other cities.

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When she first opens the door and she is even more beautiful than I hoped.

I totally understand what you're saying.  Anticipation is a powerful aphrodisiac.
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If you ask men what turns them on, some will describe a woman's looks, others might describe a particular sexual technique.  But for me, scenarios turn me on.  The circumstances and context of the sexual encounter excite me more than the woman's breast or how she uses her mouth.
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I wouldn't call the Agencies for a Provider/Escort. Did you know that there are Agencies that take approximately 75% to 95% of the Provider's daily income.  Plus the cost of Transportation, Personal Hygiene, Outfits, Motel rooms (If she does just incalls) & Etc.  Which means that the Provider/Escort is not making much (Less then what you "HOBBYIST" thinks).