I've been in this hobby for a long time and while I of course love being able to live out my sexual fantasies with beautiful women, I have realized that I really enjoy the entire experience that this hobby affords. From initially browsing my favorite agency sites, to researching providers, reaching out and setting up appointments. From there it's the excitement of preparing for the day from grooming and showering to driving to the location. Arriving, parking, and notifying them you are there, and the anticipation waiting in my car for the que to head in. Getting the room number, walking through the hotel lobby knowing what's in store, navigating to the room. Perhaps my favorite part is that nervous excited feeling I get in my stomach right before you knock on the door and it opens to reveal your prize for the evening.
I find the whole experience exciting and find the pre meeting ritual almost as intoxicating as the meeting itself.
Am I the only one that's like that? What are your favorite parts outside of the actual play?
But beyond even that is the making of a human connection with the woman. As I age, that has become a prime factor in my enjoyment.
Would you use "I" like that. It doesn't roll off the tongue like "my" does.
What does Conan, The Grammarian has to say? His thoughts, if any?
Not Beatles.. LMAO.. I came of age during Metallica years in the 90s ..
And BTW, that perfectly clears it up.. LOL
On the topic, I miss the whole experience, including the planning, the preparation, anticipation, the whole experience and the afterglow, and the memories.
Off-Topic, that Peter Jackson Beatles documentary delivered the goods - awesome for any fan.
How is it for someone who is turned off by Beatles, and thinks they were all hype.. I mean seriously? Beatles?
It could be either - AT my age or AS I age. Looks like both could work.
It always said “As I age.” That is not an edited post. When I first read your post days ago, I was wondering what the hell you were thinking. Mrfisher’s post was perfectly grammatically correct, and your post made no sense. I was going to say something, but I chalked it up to you PUI. Then you guys got into that Beatles discussion and I left it alone until you brought it up again. 🤣
Sometimes you just need a wet pussy.. KnowhatImean?
At times, I like to make it a part of a bigger experience. Usually, that involves traveling as well, not to mention a good steak dinner and some action at the strip clubs.
South Florida is the best place for me for an escape from day to day grind, and know some really good gals down there. Before COVID used to go there 3-4 times a yr just for the whole package.... Clubs, Food, Pussy, and Beach.
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The thrill of anticipation. The frisson of excitement as you walk in the door. The mixture of desire and apprehension at the thought of doing something out of bounds.
And one perhaps unspoken benefit of the higher prices these days is that so many of the women I see now share with me the most precious commodity--time. We can talk and laugh before, we can build slowly and with careful attention to each other, and we can linger in the afterglow. In fact, we stay in touch in between meetings--exchanging funny asides, thoughts and observations about our lives. Makes it all seem almost real.
Frisson...what a great word and perfectly captures the sensation.
All if the above is true. The research, the lead-up, hopefully the intimacy, the cuddle at the end. Prefer true GFE more than PSE.
As a provider, I find that the whole experience is much more important. The chatting and cuddling after is just as nice and the gentlemen I see prefer the same, so it works well! I would consider myself true GFE. I love CIM and being submissive but connection is important too.
the butterflies are long gone. The only thing that gives me a little anticipation anxiety sometimes before the door opens is wondering how far off the ad photos were from the real deal.
For me, the WHOLE experience includes being part of the TER community. There is a certain loneliness in participating in this hobby, because, even though I'm just as enthusiastic about this hobby as I was with my prior hobby of flying airplanes, I can't share my joy with close friends and family. The TER community has allowed me to find friends in the same situation. After many years, some morph into real life friends, but there are hundreds of others that have become anonymous friends with a shared interest in sex with beautiful women. Spend enough time on the boards and you can discover all of the unique personalities that populate TER, and whether its posting on a discussion board, or PM's, there's always someone to talk to about our secret hobby.
Back in the day, we used to have M&Gs. There was certainly a social aspect to the hobby that is no longer there anymore. At least in the DC area LE cracked down on them.
It would be good to get some of that back some day.
But that was under a previous TER username. I never went as CDL.
There was a group/website in San Diego 15+ years ago called SDASP that had regular meet and greets in North County. They were a lot of fun, a good way to get a look at the ladies and make connections. I miss those days.
Those were fun. If that was you putting them on, thanks!
Lately, you can find him on the P & R Board and sometimes on this one. Yes, he did a great job. Always organized and well-run. Can't say the same for some other cities.
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It's a shame I can't tell anyone IRL about my adventures here. Certainly would be some good stories to tell and laughs to share.
HERE to share the high's, low's and everything in between about seeing providers, many of us would get ourselves in trouble by telling people we shouldn't be telling about it. Lol
Co-worker: Hey buddy what did you do this weekend?
Me (with shit-eating grin): Well first I booked a hotel room. Then I ordered a platter of Red Bull and condoms. Next I had my 3 favorite hookers come to the room. Oh--you might want to sit down for this next part.
Well said regarding the loneliness. It's funny that a big part of the hobby is connecting with providers but on the flip side you can't share your enthusiasm or experiences the way you can with other hobbies. It would be awesome to be able to connect with other like minded hobbyists to share experiences, tips, stories, recommendations but I guess you are right in that TER provides that avenue in a way.
the butterflies are long gone. The only thing that gives me a little anticipation anxiety sometimes before the door opens is wondering how far off the ad photos were from the real deal.
For me, the WHOLE experience includes being part of the TER community. There is a certain loneliness in participating in this hobby, because, even though I'm just as enthusiastic about this hobby as I was with my prior hobby of flying airplanes, I can't share my joy with close friends and family. The TER community has allowed me to find friends in the same situation. After many years, some morph into real life friends, but there are hundreds of others that have become anonymous friends with a shared interest in sex with beautiful women. Spend enough time on the boards and you can discover all of the unique personalities that populate TER, and whether its posting on a discussion board, or PM's, there's always someone to talk to about our secret hobby.
Very well put and so very true. I have stories I can never tell except on this board.
I like the door opening. If you've never met that person it's a surprise what they look like. But, also because you know what's in store. It's guaranteed enjoyment and a break from real life. The waiting and screening I can go without.
I second "Door opening...".
I feel a sort of nervous excitement associated with the preparation ritual. Unfortunately, being who I am, I experience it more as anxiety than anticipation. I'm always concerned that I'll forget something (had to rush back home once. forgot the donation)? Or, that I'll leave some evidence behind.
I kinda dread the conversation as well. I'm naturally introspective and I can never make small talk sound sincere (I'm good with silence or random observations - 'Do you suppose they ever shampoo the carpets in here?'). Don't get me wrong, I'm very interested in whichever lady I'm with. But, not necessarily their hobbies or what they do with their friends in their free time. I'm curious about their journey to/through the hobby. But, always feel self-conscious asking (because I know that they are fully formed people outside the hobby).
I enjoy the foreplay most. I love the way women look, feel, smell, taste and sound. I love losing myself in the experience of exploring their bodies.
I never ask about the industry. IMO it's rude and most people don't want to talk about it. In eight years I've only had two ladies talk about it and that's after seeing them 2-3 times. Overall, I avoid it. I prefer the time with them to be about us, mostly physical. Plus, I side with caution. Better not to ask than pry and offend them. Also, you may look like LE. Not worth it.
Most of all, I love entering the 'bubble'.
The space where I leave all of the bullshit of the world outside the door. And I'm alone in a perfect universe with a beautiful woman.
...so I embrace the entire of the endeavor that is p4p.
Picking out a provider based on what whets my appetite. No butterflies for me, only wondering if she will look like her pics or if her face is blurred out,, how close my estimate of her beauty will be. Also knowing that her lips will be wrapped around my dick in a few minutes. When I’m done, there’s no boring conversation, just get dressed and leave.
Writing the review! If it was a good visit, I really enjoy re-living it by taking the time to write a recap. If it sucked, usually a much shorter review, with just the gruesome details.
Let the excitement, anticipation, fantasizing, and preparation ritual begin!
.....easy to have just sex...touring drummer 20yrs+....the chance to share experiences w open minded women.. is why im here...
Wow - that’s a great question! First because I feel like I could write a book on the topic, and second because I am fascinated by the answers. I guess I’ll edit my answer down to a few things I love about the hobby!
I love the freedom to browse through my mental list of regulars when I plan my next session! Tall or short? Flat or D-cup? Young tigress? Old maestro? Awesome bj? Perhaps Greek today? How about a double? No but let’s go three days in a row with three favs! I’m horny this afternoon, let’s see who’s free to play! Just having the luxury to make these decisions is the gift of the hobby that I feel very lucky to experience!
I love the little insights and thoughts that go through my mind during sessions! Two recent examples - last week I was with a true 20-year old petite natural spinner! While I was between her legs dining, I was also stroking her breast’s, abs, stomach and pubic area, and I realized it was tight! Just a perfect 20-year old body with no fat! The simple fact that I got to experience that (old geezer that I am!) while I actually got her off is mind blowing!
I was with another super experienced fav, and she went through her usual awesome bbbj edging routine, then at the exact right moment she jumps up into RCG, and leaning forward she puts just the right pressure and pace to send me into bliss! Holy sh)&t is she good! Almost every session delivers a few delightful tidbits of one kind or another, even in a mediocre session if you keep an open mind!
What a great hobby, and to think I just stumbled into it 15 years ago!
When she first opens the door and she is even more beautiful than I hoped.
She turns out to not just be one of those girls who thinks of kissing as a review item that needs to be checked off the list. And proceeds to demonstrate enjoyment of and skill at a fuller range of kissing techniques from sweet and gentle to deep and passionate.
She takes me in her mouth for the first time and suddenly takes me all the way or very close to the base. Bonus points if she winks at me and smirks a bit afterward.
She slides onto me and works me in deep and then proceeds to make it very clear that it’s not just OK but she actually wants me to fuck her hard.
That first moment when I know she’s stopped faking it and she’s starting to have a genuine orgasm. When those pupils start to dramatically dilate and she starts to get that unmistakable body flush. Note: I do understand that not all providers are going to willing or able to have a genuine orgasm with a particular customer or a specific time. So, I also enjoy the surprise when I know that her simulated orgasm is something she is doing to intensify the experience rather than just manipulate me into coming myself.
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I totally understand what you're saying. Anticipation is a powerful aphrodisiac.
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If you ask men what turns them on, some will describe a woman's looks, others might describe a particular sexual technique. But for me, scenarios turn me on. The circumstances and context of the sexual encounter excite me more than the woman's breast or how she uses her mouth.
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I wouldn't call the Agencies for a Provider/Escort. Did you know that there are Agencies that take approximately 75% to 95% of the Provider's daily income. Plus the cost of Transportation, Personal Hygiene, Outfits, Motel rooms (If she does just incalls) & Etc. Which means that the Provider/Escort is not making much (Less then what you "HOBBYIST" thinks).