I often wonder how I would rank in sexual performance as a male.

every performance, every gal is different. Connection, chemistry all pay a role. Performance is perceived as much as "is". Your answer will vary by each gal and each date with each gal. You can't be "the best" every time with everyone.

Get yourself a civie girlfriend, have some sex with her, then surreptitiously attach a wire to her just before she goes out for a girls' night out.  You might get an honest opinion  that way, especially if she knocks back a few

Come to me or I wil come to you...one of the MILFiest things out there is just this.  The honest chance to just be you...to improve and to practice techniques that you may or may not already feel accomplished at.  I am approached with this question frequently.  Most men in the hobby find it hard to really beleive that we will tell the truth...the truth is that it is a combination of skills, desire, and motivation to please.  Having been with multiple men, I can quite truthfully say that there is no particular essence to the perfect partner...it is the connection.  Being truly present is huge....we tend to be so distracted in general.  

Escalade's ATF e-mailed me this review.  She asked me to post it on the board. --z

Ask a providwr you've been with recently....

One really needs to focus on the normal tell tale signs. Were the bed sheets soaked? Did she slam her arms against the walls? Did she make any unusual sounds, other than the 'Meg Ryan' moan? Did she ask you not to stop? After faking her third cum, did she look at you with glowing eyes, and a smiling face, and say "I love you"? Did she ask you for one more daty cum as you are walking out the door? Did the session go way over? Does she smother you with kisses that never stop during the entire session? Does she ask you to spend the night? Does she bring you gifts? Does she send you a quick message at 4:30 am, telling you she wants you at no charge right then, and it happens? Those are just a few little things that let me know she was pleased with performance. There are many more.  

Every woman you see will tell you that your are a great lover because they want you to come back. If they ever critiqued you do you think you would be as willing to see her again? Would you maybe say bad things about her to other hobbyists? It would be very difficult to not take it personally. It would be bad for their business to tell you you are anything less than awesome.

I would see that provider again.  

They all tell me I'm their favorite.     # 1..      What will worry you is that 10 might be high.     Lol.

never ask a question you don't want to hear the answer to...

what seems to make your partner happiest you can probably stop worrying about your performance

I would suggest that if your dates and experiences are satisfying for you and there aren't any problems per se, during your time shared with women, then I would just enjoy it and not overthink it. However, if you are on a journey of improvement or exploration then I would just ask your dates/partners as you go along for some feedback.  There have been times where I have tried new things and have asked my partner afterwards for some feedback especially someone you see on a regular basis.  In order to finetune their experience with me on some new "activities" it was good to know what felt good and what didn't so as not to waste their time going in a direction that didn't hit their hot button.  Obviously there is the clear "end goal" that is either achieved or not, but it is great to be humble and discreetly ask about feedback once in awhile.  I think it is healthy.