i wish i had seen an post like this in my early days ,,,  and look forward to any added suggestions  
required to hobby  
1) separate phone number unlinked to your real world  ( i don't care if you are single, all it takes is one crazy to cause endless headaches)  
2) separate email  ( see #1)  
3) car that is not unique  
4) no vanity plates  
5) separate Credit card - paperless, online only  
6) MD not affiliated with your family care
7) pharmacy not affiliated with your family care  
8) PC / MAC / phone privacy erasing software   ie "Privacy Eraser"
9) for the diehard, VPN software  
10) Spare clean shirt and underwear in office / car  
11) required viewing movie " Guide for the married man"

And don't see providers when I am in a relationship so some of that list doesn't really apply to me. I'm pretty open about my partaking in the hobby with my friends and business partner. I'm more concerned about LE rather than being outed socially. So what I would add is that:

- I will never park on property if there is parking. I usually cruise by the address and then park a block over. No one needs to see my car. I've actually canceled once because a provider wanted me to park in her spot so she could see me arrive.  

- I use an expired ID with an old address for verification and blur out ID # and last name. I'll carry it with me to see provider in case they want to see it. I won't do linkedin checks but will offer deposit instead (online cash card). I've got references so this is generally not even needed.

- I will delete all texts, contact info and block the number if I have zero intentions to repeat.

- I always ask what area of town they're in because I won't go to shady areas.

- I always set a time when it's still light out for the first visit.  

- I never do outcall to my house

- I treat providers really well and with a lot of respect but I will stop seeing them at the first hint of drama of any kind.

1) Wear a mask while it is still acceptable, particularly in hotel and other public places
2) If it is daytime, wear sunglasses as well.
3) If at hotel, carry a backpack, even if it is empty.  Makes you look like you belong and can offer a place to put the donation envelope,  water/other beverages you want to bring. Be sure you let your date know you have a backpack.
4) If she has a pet in the room or in the home, bring a treat for the pet.  You do not have to give it to the beast, let her do it,  It shows class.  
5) My first newbie mistake.....DO NOT BRING FLOWERS TO A PUBLIC LOCATION!

Are you some high profile person whose life will get ruined if it becomes public that you see prostitutes? In that case YES. That's a good list. Otherwise it's an overkill.  

 
The only two things I have is separate email and Google Voice.  

 
I have good reliable cars, but not a very fancy cars - and that's only because I don't care much for fancy sports cars. Also Vanity plates don't interest me much.  That would have been true even if i weren't a monger.

thanks for everyone's comments ... makes me think of the following additions:
12) never send a deposit - even if you have met before  
13) never send your photo or gov. ID via any communication
14) Flowers - tricky- just hide in a bag or backpack
15) Treat for the dog ... thats clever and yes sweet
16) Suggested - Bringing your favorite condom brand

of hours of pussy with no strings or are you going to propose marriage?   Just curious.

I am thinking at this point nevertoolarge and gdaddy might be hooking up together, no?

The whole point of paying for me is that I don't have to go through all of the bullshit I do with civvie girls to get their best effort.  I have one civvie girl in my rotation right now and she requires more of my time on the bullshit aspects and feel-good niceties because I'm NOT paying for her time.    These two seem to want to keep the bullshit, and STILL pay.  What's up with that?  

Some people just love Bullshit.. Jury is still out on what they love more. The "BULL" part or the "SHIT" part.. LOL.  

 
Was seeing a SB/gf during the pandemic. Without her to my rescue i'd be fucking those sex dolls during the dark days of the pandemic.  

 
Put up with some nonsense during those days.  Sometimes you have to put up with nonsense because either they are really good at what they do, really cheap, or times are tough.. Sometimes all the above. LOL.

A couple of points you should know if you were to really see providers. . . .

 
A.   Providers don't do this for flowers.  Just ask one, "Would you rather me spend $50 on Flowers the next time I come, or just give you the cash?"  They are with you for the cash.  Give it to them and skip the pseudo-romantic bullshit.  

 
B.    Whether to enter a hotel with a back-pack or a carry on depends on the number of stars the hotel has earned.  But the best thing is to carry no luggage at all. In the bigger picture, if you take a suitcase of a backpack into a hotel lobby, why are you NOT stopping at the front desk to check in first?  You will likely have security follow you to wherever you are going if you have baggage and don't check in.  If you walk in WITHOUT a backpack or carry-on, the assumption by staff will be that you are ALREADY a guest.  If you MUST carry something in, then put it in a grocery store plastic shopping bag.  (It will cost you 10 cents in California, but free everywhere else.)  This will make it look like you are a guest who has gone out to buy something and are RETURNING to your room.  

 
Since you are most likely a lurker rather than a hobbyist, you wouldn't know this.  Your response reeks of how you THINK this should go, but have never really been in this situation.  Once again,  if you carry any kind of luggage or backpack into a hotel lobby, and they will EXPECT you to stop at the front desk to check in.  If you don't, you bring the suspicion on yourself.  

The Village Idiot is definitely a lurker. If you've noticed, he appeared bragging that he'd seen his ATF 78x. That was over a month ago. He's still stuck on 78x in this post. Apparently he isn't even smart enough to update his fiction. We'll all be better off when he's gone.

17)
30 minutes before you leave for your appointment take a 20 minute scrub down shower.  Wash your hair, trim your fingernails and toenails.  
At the hotel spend about 30 seconds in the shower rinsing your balls.

OMG !  cant believe i forgot that one!   thanks GDaddy100  
17) serious shower post appointment !  
18) bar of unscented soap with you when meeting someone new - just in case !

I wish everyone thought to bring a bag or even just carry a folder. I tend to give them a folder when they leave that way if some noisy neighbors are watching they don't think the person went there to shag or pick up drugs but rather an appointment for something. I have some people who look at me funny when I hand them a folder. I am like just walk out with it. You can toss it once you have gone. It pretty non descript so if you have a significant other and you forget to toss it it s not going to be questioned why you have a folder. The point is blending in and looking normal. Someone should really make a post on this. Spread the word.