Which is fine with me cuz I have no one to blame but myself, lol!

But some, like myself, are beyond handsome... Girls wish they had a piece of me.

When you receive a call from a new client, do you try to make a mental picture of what your new client will look like? When you see them for the first time, what's the first thing that you look at and do you think to yourself, oh boy, he is obese, or he is hairy, or he is not attractive? Just curious. How do you get yourself in the mood? And I'm not looking for feedback from the providers that just lay there...you know who you are.

You might go of course when I say this but eyes (I look for crazy eyes lol but also to see no one is buzzed), then mouth/smile. Looks meh......if he's hairy or obese I don't care as long as he's fresh and if he's not attractive I definitely don't care since i'm not looking for a boyfriend in this biz.  And I guess I don't have to "get myself in the mood" per se because if I accept the appt i'm already well READY to please/get it on (give the good time i'm know to give) so *shrugs*....yeah.  Did I nail it? Nailed it.

It's only fair, in my opinion. I can go to their site and see dozens of photos and make an assessment on that and their reviews.

Why can't I give them the same respect and send a pic or two?

Makes it easy when you know who to look for when you're meeting in a public place, and the fact that you show her the same respect has always worked out for me.

I have to confess sometimes I do try to create a mental picture of what the gent will look like.Most of the time I am way off on what I thought and on more than one occasion pleasantly surprised.When we meet the first thing I look at is his face of course.Looks do not have anything to do with it so I would not be thinking he is overweight etc.I am not on a dating site looking for a SO.
As long as the gent is a polite respectful gentleman we will have a good time.
I am there to provide a mind-blowing time and that is what I do.When I knock on his door I am ready and I hope he has taken his vitamins!One thing that really turns me on is when the guy opens the door and he has on his business attire still I do not know something about a man in a business clothes is such a turn-on for me.Not to say that I would not be turned on if he had on T-shirt and jeans I think it is more of the attitude and the confidence.

Makes you think the rest of us are ugly?

Has the thought ever occurred that discretion is the primary reason quite a few of us partake this way?

Yeesh.

You haven't heard "how much" yet. lol

That's a bit risky sending your pic...Can I assume you send pics without your face?

LOL. Easy there, PrimusSucks. I'm not insinuating that the majority of hobbyists are ugly, fat, hairy. And I'm definitely not insecure. Just like there are a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and looks that providers come in, the same goes for hobbyists. Speaking for myself, I can't have sex or get hard for a woman unless they are pretty, slim, and fit. I have never had issues meeting civvie women, but have gotten tired of the BS that comes with the territory of younger civvies. I'm 40, look 30, and usually date twenty somethings...no need to assume that I was categorizing all.

I like confident man in any situation.  doesn't matter if it is work or friend. a man who is confident and looks at me with his eyes and not his mind, makes me feel good.  guys want a girlfriend experience, treat me like a girlfriend and see me, be confident and have fun.  if you make good impression you make a memory for both us.

~Moca xoxoxo

make appointments with...its usually a sign of a big ego or too much insecurity...either way I don't put up with that.  I also don't put mental images up.

Look. I'm not married. Don't have to answer to anyone. Providers might be providers but they know where their bread is buttered and I seriously doubt they would use my pic for a quick fix when they know fucking well it'll bite them in the ass even harder sooner or later.

So no. If I'm going to meet a lady, I have no problem sending her my pic.

Maybe the fucker's just comfortable in his own skin and doesn't feel he needs to hide what he looks like?

Oh. Let's not forget sometimes the ladies ASK for a pic.

This guy gets it! I will tell you, I respect a mans need for discretion. But, I don't believe how many of you guys don't care at all whether we made to feel comfortable about meeting you for sex. I know some guys are in high profile jobs and need to remain anonymous. But what's wrong with agreeing to send a picture? It makes the first meeting a lot easier, especially if you're meeting in a public place to screen.

Obviously not all providers care about the clients looks, but when a guy sends me a picture of himself I have just gotten a sign that he's ready to put me at ease and I'm past one hurdle in getting to that GFE he's looking for. I know there are tons of guys on here who become offended if a girl asks for personal information, and pictures, but our main goal here is safety and professionalism, right? If you don't use one of the verification services then we end up doing the legwork to figure out if you're LE!  And if you look at it from a provider perspective, if you don't seem willing to cooperate with us, why should we bother? Honestly I've done the same thing asking for certain details about someone, and when they fail to respond politely and get offended, I just move on to the next message. There are too many of you guys out there for me to become worried about whether you think I'm going to try to blackmail you or stalk you or whatever it is you think we'll do. I'm trying to keep from ending up in a garbage bag somewhere!

It's like I told someone once, this isn't exactly a game where you're going to remain impersonal, is it?

I feel much better about it.  Anyway, if you and fisher are gonna throw me bromantic softballs, I've just gotta swat 'em!  lol!

I just stated my experiences...and no I don't request it.

REally MP...no need to get so worked up

what about other ethnicities? Middle eastern, asian?

or, if need be, during?

Same. I'm honestly hoping more that we'll get along on an intellectual level; for me, chemistry with my clients doesn't come from appearances, but how well we communicate while together (before, during, and after playtime)

Just so we can get back to the OP instead of accusing each other...

... To me, it doesn't matter if you're black, white, brown, magenta (although you might want to get that last one checked out). I don't go into a rendezvous with any preconceived notion of what you're going to look like. As I say in my bio on my website, if you have a kind soul, an open mind, and are sincerely interested in making a connection with another human being, then I look forward to offering you the same.

I never make a mental picture and I am rarely disappointed. Looks mean nothing to me. I would rather have a respectful, honest and fun gentleman than some hottie. Any day!