but i would gladly pay ~$50 (perhaps as partial payment towards the subsequent date) to see if i "click" with a girl (visually and mentally) before forking over ~$300
if this "pre-date" is a success, then great! and if anyone else other than her shows up at my place after that, i'll gently and slowly tap the door shut in her face (like Al Pacino with Diane Keaton in Godfather II!
i can think of MANY a times, when something i (almost) dreaded showed up and -- cursed with being the "nice guy" that i am -- i just said to myself "oh what the f**k, just go through with this and get it over with quick" or reminded myself of the old cliche of "in the dark, they're all ..."
i have to be honest, i ADMIRE you guys (with alleged "kohones") who would just slam the door shut right in their face at the slightest excuse or sign of disappointment. i really do!
There is a situation where a provider has just posted new pictures of herself that have to be years old (or severely doctored) She has received several compliments on them but the woman I saw last month must at least five years older than most of these photos. Note she is in her late thirties and the pictures resemble someone no more tan early thirties. What is the board's opinion on exposing(if that is the word)new pictures that are misleading. How can this be best handled? In the interest of full disclosure, the provider is well regarded. I saw her a year ago and gave her a great review. This time things in the looks department had changed. Then I find, SURPRIZE, new drop dead pics on the website which are not representative. How best to handle this? I do like her but feel this is false advertising and would like people to know what you see is not what your going to get.
I would try to talk to her first, not publicly, and if she didn't put a disclaimer about the pics being old, or remove the misleading pics, then submit a problem report. Perhaps an update on your review and state in it that the pics are old.
I would ask the provider if those pics were doctored, in any way, and see what her response would be. I also just had pics taken about a week ago by my webmaster, and I was luckily enough to have my best friend wildlinda there (another escort), who would be able to verify when/where/and at what time they were taken. I just added them up on my site, this past weekend. Anyone can tell that it is still me, plump and all (thank god for being a bbw lol). But, if you ask her nicely, maybe she will respond back with a polite answer. Maybe they are her, taken in a different lighting, etc. If you truly feel that may be the case that she went from a size 2 to a size 22, then yes, I would contact her..
I hope it works out.
Mel
ADDENDUM: NO IT'S NOT ME HE IS REFERRING TO FOLKS LOL..I just wanted to add my 2 cents in here
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given that women have been playing these tricks for eons, whether with makeup (flattering lighting, clever poses, belly scarfs, whatnot) or with airbrushing and nowadays the miracles of photoshop, my policy is to just let her live her dream. there does come a point where it just breaks down.
i EXPECT a little fudge-factor with every girl i'm about to see (that's why my last review was such an uplifting surprise). if you feel you have to say anything, be subtle.
IMHO, "exposure" or "outing" a lady is only 100% justified for performance not looks. and by performance i mean a consistent pattern of providing sub-par service (often resorting to false advertising or lies) and of course being a ripoff.
if you believe the results of the TER survey, 7 out of 10 men prioritize performance over looks anyway.
that for the escorts that TER members are seeing and reviewing that appearance correlates with price slightly better than performance.
However, appearance used to correlate with price lots better than performance. I suspect that it is the influence of TER reviews that is changing the situation.
See link. (In reading the report remember that I sum the last 10 reviews for each escort and therefore the range for appearance points and performance points is 10 through 100, not 1 through 10.)
-- Modified on 6/5/2003 12:54:01 AM
but how dare you perform a regression without providing standard-error bars, confidence intervals and a stated p-value!
but seriously ... interesting indeed. i'm new to TER, but knowing what i know about the internet community, i was almost convinced that SOMEONE wouldn't be able to resist the temptation of doing some kind of statistical analysis and/or data-mining on TER's database ... LOL
that said, i would hasten to add the following hodge-podge of observations
1. your sample is (as you acknowledge) geographically biased. LA is probably the one place in the US (next to South Beach) where "beauty" is prized above all else (even without the PSE factor)
2. the value of rho = ~0.6 for all 3 correlations is a bit weak. as is the ~$1 margin between what a provider earns for appearance vs. performance (but still high enough to be notable)
3. i think what would prove most illuminating is a multivariate data visualization on the TER database (with thumbnails of the girls used as icons! ROTFLMAO
as for myself, i'll say that all THREE factors are important to me: appearance, attitude & performance (note the distinction between attitude and performance). at the same time, since i'm not on TER to win a popularity contest, i have no qualms about stating openly that i hobby for exceptional BEAUTY and YOUTH! (mainly cuz the converse is all too readily available in the civilian population)
When you review her ... then state just that ... her pics are not accurate ... "swim at your own risk" .... This is a major problem and your not the first ... I know of many providers that state that they've just turned 21 ... funny thing is that the pics and banner have been up at least 6 years ... imagine that ... hobby safe, hobby well, hobby all you can be ........
-- Modified on 6/4/2003 11:30:08 AM
I noticed the same exact thing
I was looking at this suspicious review on
this new girl named Kelly her site says
she is 20yo just out of curiosity I searched
Las Vegas for any other Kelly's Guess what
same girl comes up under the name Kelly Koxx
last reviewed in 2001 and low and behold she was
20 back in 2001 and she is atill 20 in 2003 Mind you
she looks closer to 30
I remember a funny comment recently on one of the regional boards. The hobbyist was making casual conversation and asked the provider, aged 21, just how long she had lived in California.
"For 25 years," she said. Oops! LOL.
Yankee,
..why do you feel the need to do anything at all, or say anything? You've already seen her, and how she looks - and can decide what you want to do for yourself. I think most pictures look differently from the person in person. Now, DRASTICALLY different is another thing..but if you say it's THAT much different, it may 'catch up' with her eventually and do her more harm than just being more honest would have been. How it affects her will cause her to make some changes on her own, I'm sure.
Maybe in your review you can subtly mention that although you realize that pictures rarely look the same as the person - better or worse - you felt that there was quite a difference and leave it at that.
If someone PM's or emails you to be more specific, you can always suggest that if interested in seeing her, you might want to see if the lady will agree to meet for a drink, for $50, to see if they are compatible first, before making the date. Certainly nothing wrong with that - nobody loses; everybody wins, and you're not a bad guy.
Hope this helps,
Sedona
-- Modified on 6/4/2003 5:04:02 PM
"...you can always suggest that if interested in seeing her, you might want to see if the lady will agree to meet for a drink, for $50, to see if they are compatible first..."
ahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
First some unsuspecting chump hase the old "bait and switch" pulled on him, THEN should waste $50 on an unscrupulous deceiver????
You must be smokin' some really good stuff.
but i would gladly pay ~$50 (perhaps as partial payment towards the subsequent date) to see if i "click" with a girl (visually and mentally) before forking over ~$300
if this "pre-date" is a success, then great! and if anyone else other than her shows up at my place after that, i'll gently and slowly tap the door shut in her face (like Al Pacino with Diane Keaton in Godfather II!
i can think of MANY a times, when something i (almost) dreaded showed up and -- cursed with being the "nice guy" that i am -- i just said to myself "oh what the f**k, just go through with this and get it over with quick" or reminded myself of the old cliche of "in the dark, they're all ..."
i have to be honest, i ADMIRE you guys (with alleged "kohones") who would just slam the door shut right in their face at the slightest excuse or sign of disappointment. i really do!
"...i would gladly pay ~$50 (perhaps as partial payment towards the subsequent date) to see if i "click" with a girl..."
Sure, that's reasonable, and I might, as well. But that's not what was suggested.
I think you've got the idea, and see that you read the post!
BTW, I understood bait and switch to mean an entirely different person shows up..no?
He's saying it's the same person, but doctored photos, and if I understand..he continued with the date, just wondered about the whole picture thing. Well..that's her deal, I guess.
Now, as far as wanting to 'forewarn' other hobbyists, I think my suggestions will serve well for them all.
So, the next Hobbyist comes along, reads the review, sees the mention of pictures not looking quite the same, and so he wonders and PM's the other guy who says how he felt. He listens, thinks well, she has good reviews, he said he enjoyed his time and only issue was the picture thing, so maybe I'll invite her for a drink and see what I think...
This works really well. The $50 is just a commone practice we've all seen in posts, and on ladies' websites and so I mention here..doesn't mean you have to - whatever works, or whatever her policy is. I dunno..
Hope that clarifies it better..?
Sedona
I have met ladies for drinks before ... BUT .. have never paid $50, why the $50 when drinks will do just fine ... if she has nothing to hide, she already knows that she will be nicely rewarded .......
I mention that, as, in many posts, as well as on websites, that's what I see mentioned. To meet with them ahead of time is $50 - for their time, etc.
Just posting what I've seen..
Duh,
Submit a review! Then, post on your local board a link to the review.
It's the american thing to do. You'll be saving the local economy thousands!
Peace,
flash
-- Modified on 6/5/2003 2:43:31 PM