To me it's someone with whom I feel a real emotional, intellectual and physical connection.  I don't kid myself that I am 'in love' with him, or he with me, but just that he's someone who lights up when I'm around and who brightens my day.  And that usually means a man who makes me laugh and lets his guard down when he's with me.  He lets me see the real 'him' without the bullshit.  It's rare, but you know it when it happens, and as a provider, it makes me feel very special indeed.

...by the two ladies I've been described as an ATF client is that I notice/appreciate the little things the lady does to make the session fabulous for me.

Oh Emma,Im glad you feel that way about me...sigh. On a serious note, You just "Know" when your matched up with the right person. Nothing, and I mean nothing, is worst than meeting up with a person you just can't seem to connect with. Everything will feel mechanical and your thinking of ways to get out the door. On the other side of the spectrum, When two people click and the vibes are there, it can be an incredible experiance.

The ones who make me laugh are always on my "must see" list. The ones who take themselves, or me, too seriously are so emotionally draining. The ones that make me laugh make me feel energized, they fill up my cup

on his head than his back?  

A true gentlemen who knows how to treat a woman.  He respects her boundaries and doesn't try and compromise her values. He realizes he's not perfect and doesn't expect perfection.  We have a certain chemistry together and connect on certain levels. He shows patience and listens when I express myself and he's not afraid to communicate or express his feelings.  He's understanding and cares about what's important to me.  He loves being affectionate, sentimental and complimentary.

Most importantly, he loves his masculinity and respects himself as a person.



-- Modified on 7/30/2004 7:26:02 PM

Do you call him? Because my ATF is calling me every week. I guess I'm her ATF client.

Great question, Emma.
Some surfers travel the world in search of the perfect wave, and some gourmets try every French restaurant in search of the perfect Chocolate Mousse.  I am always searching for the perfect guy.  Because I am a part-time provider who sees very few clients, my goal has been to have just a few regular clients who are each ATFs.
Here is what my ATFs seem to have in common:
They respect me and easily go beyond the fantasy and are genuinely curious to learn about who I am as a human being. They are sensual, playful, and funny. They are open and share with me the struggles of their lives, their families, their work, their joys and their sorrows. They seek me out for emotional as well as physical nourishment and, in turn, they are able to be emotionally supportive of me. We become friends in every sense of the word while understanding and respecting each other's boundaries.  They let me know that I am truly enriching their lives and they help me to feel good about myself as a woman. The chemistry is all about soul and not at all about looks. When I meet a new hobbyist, I know after the first few minutes whether or not I want him to become one of my regulars. Just as many hobbyists enjoy the search for their ATF, I, too, get a kick out of searching for my own ATFs.

I never, ever, call gentlemen to request a visit. I have sent an email or two just to say, "Hi, haven't heard from you in a long time, is everything okay?", but never because I was fishing for a visit, just out of general concern.

-- Modified on 8/1/2004 12:15:40 AM

There's actually a cafe in the Paris hotel in Vegas that sells the best Chocolate Creme Broule.  I go to that cafe to taste that chocolate creme broule every time I'm in Vegas. When I was buying it one time, a guy remarked - that's expensive for a small piece. It's about 3 or 3.5 inches in diameter and sells for about $6. I mean you could get a whole Black Forest cake in Walmart for the same amount. But what the heck, it's the best tasting Chocolate Creme Broule for me.

Well, ladies, I'm still in search of the best tasting pussy to DATY - one that squirts a load of hot pussy juice on my face.

1. Creme Brule au Chocolat
2. L'abricot au jus