the cliches are there, boobs, ass, legs, face etc.  and those vary from person to person with respect to preference... but aside from those... what makes a lady sexy?  How does she light the fire of those interested in such stuff.


And ladies, what gets your motor reving?  When the door opens, what makes you think "I gotta get another job" or "I LOVE my job, thank you!"

How about it, what makes a person sexy?!  

unless the lady is morbidly obese, physical attributes are transient and don't move me.  The only things that really get me going -- at least these days, after 41 years -- are smarts and creativity.  Ideally, they combine in a personality that breaks the mold.  Now that's something that really makes my, uh, equipment, hard.

A woman who is: intelligent; well educated; able to carry on an interesting conversation; down to earth; possessed of a good sense of humor and lightheartedness; able to set others at ease; and who is comfortable with herself and her body.

Meeting such a lady creates an instant connection (among other things)for me.

Speaking just for myself, it has to start with a lovely face. But, after that, I think it's all attitude. How she carries herself, whether she sees you as a person, not an ATM with legs, whether she behaves in a feminine manner, whether she is upbeat, supportive, caring, etc.

Deep down, what always attracts women to men and what attracts men to women is what we tend to lack in ourselves. Men seek beauty, tenderness, nurturing, compassion. Women seek strength, protection, providence and partnership. That isn't to say men are never compassionate or that women are never strong but we seek those who shore up our weak points.

I would add intelligent humor in a lady.  I have watched the marriages of my friends, and my own failed adventure.... what my ex lacked most was just that - intelligent humor.  What the best marriage that I know of had... was the husband was a bit of a joker... his wife... was not - but once - she made "THE COMMENT" that indicated to me, that she got and understood every single one of her husbands jokes... and appreciated them for what they were, small bits of his humanity.... - Some on this board, and some that I see who are not on this board... offer that!  and some... well, they are stinkers... and I like the way they "handle me!"  and they do!  cause I need it! lol!

Thanks for the post!  it was wonderful!

I am forwarding it on to one of my friends, but not telling her where I got it from.

xo Lisa

That there is a chemestry aspect to attraction as well.  I am not sure if it is scent, or electricity, or some unknown type of ESP, but at times I have felt an attraction to some women so powerful that I can not understand it.

Neither looks nor charm not wit explains it.

Has anyone else ever had this experience?

I tell you, it's spooky.  It's when you're "ga-ga" over someone.

BSD"s remarks about humor are very appropos.  My ex never appreciated my er, "delicate" sense of humor ("Brit" humor Cat called it?) and I think that doomed our relationship from the start.  On the other hand, my love, Bev,  can't stop laughing from the moment I see her till the time we part.  I hope that we can make love someday!

can have a aspect of attraction to them.

No cologne, just their naked smell.

xo Lisa

do it for me every time.

As was stated above, physical attributes can fade over time.
But the self confidence and positive attitude of a woman will always make her sexy.
Honestly, in my experience, I have met only a few ladies I would define as sexy.
CiaraPhx, Anneke, and sexy Toni fit that definition.

Just my opinion...
B

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I appreciate humour, but there are many people that make me laugh that I am not attracted to in a sexual manner.

I enjoy intelligent conversation, but some of the most intelligent conversations I have had, have not led me to desire.

I appreciate physical beauty in many, many forms (I believe that each person has at least one physical quality that it absolutely, breath takingly stunning) but there are many people in whom I see great beauty, but am not arroused by.

I value kindness and compassion, but some of the kindest and most comapssionate people I know do not stir in me any erotic responses.

Attitude, charm, personality are all qualities that I am attracted to, but that attraction is not necessarily of a sexual nature.

Perhaps it is simply the combination of qualities, that the whole is greater than the sum of it's parts, but much like the old saying about art, "I don't know much about Art, but I know what I like." applies.  That I don't know much about "sexy" but I know what I like, I know it when I "see" it.

I can't qualify or quantify what qualities one may possess that causes my heart to race, my pulse quicken, but they do exist, they are just ethereal and indefinable, but very real.

Oooo-Wahhhh, Ooooo-Wahhhhh.

... with women who were less conventionally beautiful, but who were vibrant, passionate, smart, funny, etc.

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but she has created an aura of quick clever sexiness with absolutely no physical representation.... Now that IS hot!

just ask anyone that has met me.

In the 3D world I am but a small troll-like creature.

...she's in the bed next to me, touching me gently, telling me how sexy I am.

I was wondering when you'd quit cavorting around with Parker Posey on that islet and return.

Good movie by the way.  You stole the show.

...but he never gets the girl.

my nickname is actually "Wolfie" and I have a t-shirt with a wolf on it that reads  "The better to eat you with."...but alas, so far I haven't had any ladies that want to take the challenge.

I'm little when horizontal, can wear a red cape and always wear a hood. Oops! I mean that I make them wear a hood. Wink!

Hugs,
Ciara

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Do women have to work at being sexy or do you just "have it"? I don't mean makeup or clothes, I'm referring to a certain walk, a "come hither" glance, a subtle touch.

I mean, do you practice this in the mirror or amongst yourselves when we guys aren't around?

As someone that's met you "offline", I love you here and in person!!!

Altough in my escapades in the hobby have been with smaller/athletic body types, the part taht makes them sexy and makes me want to come back are her personality and illegence.  If we can talk like olds friends and make the "connection" are far more important to me.

thanks...
You're just saying that cause you're my evil twin...but I'll take it.  
That and i likes you too.