As an older guy this has happened to me and with a pornstar no less so don't sweat it.  I had an orgasm but I couldn't get hard enough to penetrate for some reason that day.  

Remember this is why they developed Viagra.

The only thing surprising here is that you haven't run into this before. I've been the guy in this situation and believe me it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes it just happens, especially to us older guys. Believe him when he said he stil had a good time and don't be at all surprised when he calls for another session. Worst thing you can do is to make a big deal of it -- no one's fault, no one's inadequate. Just happened.

It happens to me sometimes and I'm only 41. When it does happen it doesnt effect how much I enjoy the time nor is it a reflection on who I am with. So when he told you he was happy ana still enjoyed himself, believe him. Now get back out there and do what you do best

Re:I'm feeling insecure cause he couldn't get it up

Vicki...it is nice to know that you take the clients' enjoyment so seriously!  One of my most enjoyable experiences ended up like the situation you described...it has NO reflection on you.  SOmetimes a man can get OVERstimulated at which point he slows the situation down but for some reason it is hard to keep going afterwards.  I do not know if this is age or simply the fact that as men get older, they are more emotionally involved in sex than when they were in their 20's...yes even in a provider-client situation.  I would be surprised if less than 80% of the providers out there do not have the same story as you...if I ever get up to Boston though!....

Sometimes it will happen

But, it doesn't always mean that it is your fault, girlykins If he is saying that he had a good time anyways, then accept what he has to say about it. As long as you are giving him 100% of your service, don't sweat it

Mel

58 years old here and it does happen on occasion. Unfortunately, maintaining an erection gets more difficult as some of us grow older. Other factors can play a part as well: stress, alcohol, drugs, lack of sleep, etc.. Don't worry little lady, it probably has NOTHING to do with you.

You say you are a GFE(Girl Friend Experience) yet you dont have intercourse??? Thats like Army intelligence. The two words dont go together. What do the rest of you think? If someone says they are GFE, doesn't that equal intercourse??


Rocket

Even the 100mgs of viagra cursing through my veins didn't help recently when my office interupted some stolen moments with my ATF. Nothing works like stress or anxiety to take away from a mans sexual perfomance.

 Oh!; Yes ladies I still compensated my ATF

  Cm.

Don't worry

Remember, your client was satisfied -- Isn't that the most important thing? Erectile failure happens to men when we hit middle age: some sooner, some later. If he's worried, about it, he can seek various treatments. But you shouldn't worry at all.

--b.

No big deal.  I'm 52 and sometimes I can't get it up, sometimes I can get it up but can't cum.  That's life.  It doesn't bother me and I can't remember a lady that was bothered by it.  Whatever happens, happens.

Hey Vicki, Here's Some Straightness (Pun Intended)

A) Not everyone (regardless of age) pops every time.  It happens, get over it, you did nothing wrong.

B) GFE has been normally defined as FS, BBBJ, DFK, DATY.  

C) If you provide a "girlfriend experience" that involves everything but FS (intercourse) then you are not strictly GFE.  You are however highly sought after by a majority of older males of my persuasion.

D) Get over the guilt trip stuff sister, it will eat you alive!  If you are happy in your labors, enjoy your clients and feel you provide a good service, be proud.  

E) I saw your pics on your web site. Damn girl, your another very beautiful woman of color!  Now I have to see both Melinda  (the other cutey I lust after) and yourself when I am able.

Warm Regards,
Loarthan

Please Vick, don't feel like that...

I have a provider I really like, and she is great, but due to some medication I am on (Prozac) sometimes it happens great, sometimes at first all seems well, but then fails a bit later.  To make matters worse, I got a prostate infection a few months back that lasted forever, and it sometimes hurt even to try.  None of that has ANYTHING to do with the wonderful provider, her beauty or skill.  The male body can be a real SOB.  I've gotten to the point that I carry little blue pills, just in case, and I am only 34.  Please do not take it personally.  

I know that is one of my reason's for visiting this provider - she understands this better than someone I was seriously involved with might, and she helps me to feel better.  Believe me, as bad as you feel, that guy probably has felt much worse about it.

Yes that happens to us older guys.  Please don't take it personally.  (That's the guy job!)

I urge you not to say you provide a GFE if you don't provide full service.  I agree with those who believe that a GFE includes at a minimum: DFK, BBBJ, DATY, and intercourse in a variety of positions, such as missionary, cow girl, and doggie.  (Greek and BBBJ-TC are not part of a GFE according to the definition I learned when I started in this hobby many years ago.)   When I was in High School, we called a girl who got a guy hot but wouldn't go all the way a "cock tease"—and it wasn’t the kind experience we wanted with our girlfriend.   Instead, why don't you say that you provide a very sensuous, full body massage--that way nobody will expect more from you than is on your menu.

A few months ago, I scheduled an appointment with a provider one evening.  That morning, I had run a half-marathon (13.1 miles).  I couldn't perform that evening and I blame it on the race that morning.  My donation was wasted.  The lesson I learned is not to pursue this hobby a few hours after a long-distance run.