OK this has never happened to me before tonight and i'm feeling extremely unconfident right about now

I'm primarily a GFE/Massage provider (no intercourse)

A client came to see me tonight, it was his second visit to me. The first time he had no problem getting it up.

But this time when we began everything was fine, he got it up but asked me to divert away from his cock because he didn't want to explode too fast, so we kissed and cuddled, DATY, etc.. then aroudn the 45 minute mark i started to go down on him again and he couldn't get it up. He tried doing masturbating, i tried bj for about 10 minutes, after awhile he said it wasn't going to happen and he had to go.
His comment was "this sometimes happen when you get older"
he was about 55 years old.

He said he was still happy with the sesssion and enjoyed spending time with me etc..

But now I feel like a failure.

And then to make it worse I asked a porn star friend if this had ever happened to her, where a guy was unable to get it up, and she said "No, never"

so now I feel really insecure about my abilities

Has this happened to any other providers?

Any comments?

As an older guy this has happened to me and with a pornstar no less so don't sweat it.  I had an orgasm but I couldn't get hard enough to penetrate for some reason that day.  

Remember this is why they developed Viagra.

The only thing surprising here is that you haven't run into this before. I've been the guy in this situation and believe me it has nothing to do with you. Sometimes it just happens, especially to us older guys. Believe him when he said he stil had a good time and don't be at all surprised when he calls for another session. Worst thing you can do is to make a big deal of it -- no one's fault, no one's inadequate. Just happened.

It happens to me sometimes and I'm only 41. When it does happen it doesnt effect how much I enjoy the time nor is it a reflection on who I am with. So when he told you he was happy ana still enjoyed himself, believe him. Now get back out there and do what you do best

Vicki...it is nice to know that you take the clients' enjoyment so seriously!  One of my most enjoyable experiences ended up like the situation you described...it has NO reflection on you.  SOmetimes a man can get OVERstimulated at which point he slows the situation down but for some reason it is hard to keep going afterwards.  I do not know if this is age or simply the fact that as men get older, they are more emotionally involved in sex than when they were in their 20's...yes even in a provider-client situation.  I would be surprised if less than 80% of the providers out there do not have the same story as you...if I ever get up to Boston though!....

But, it doesn't always mean that it is your fault, girlykins If he is saying that he had a good time anyways, then accept what he has to say about it. As long as you are giving him 100% of your service, don't sweat it

Mel

58 years old here and it does happen on occasion. Unfortunately, maintaining an erection gets more difficult as some of us grow older. Other factors can play a part as well: stress, alcohol, drugs, lack of sleep, etc.. Don't worry little lady, it probably has NOTHING to do with you.

You say you are a GFE(Girl Friend Experience) yet you dont have intercourse??? Thats like Army intelligence. The two words dont go together. What do the rest of you think? If someone says they are GFE, doesn't that equal intercourse??


Rocket

She is a Massage Provider

With some of the GFE qualities, which does not include full service.  Most providers who only give massages (that I know of, personally), don't do full service. As you can read her passage, she does offer some GFE qualities. I am not sure what is wrong with that statement? I don't see  your point, Toledo ((


Mel



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The reason I say I'm GFE is I asked someone once what does it mean and they said it's when a girl kisses and gives bbbj so I was like "oh that's me"
I also like to treat each of my session as if that person was my boyfriend, try to make them feel special and it also helps me feel "comfortable" cause sometimes I have "issues" with feeling like a hooker. Sure it's all a matter of terms but in my head if I act the same way with my clients as I do when I'm someone's girlfriend it's a bit different from the cold vision of a streetwalker.
BUt please by all means do correct me if I'm using the term GFE incorrectly

I don't think there is a list of things that you have to do
that makes you a GFE.

Some aren't looking for around the world, but still love the kissing and cuddling and companionship a GFE can bring.

Every person has their opinion on what makes them feel
special.

Even the 100mgs of viagra cursing through my veins didn't help recently when my office interupted some stolen moments with my ATF. Nothing works like stress or anxiety to take away from a mans sexual perfomance.

 Oh!; Yes ladies I still compensated my ATF

  Cm.

you are one of the few people I have heard use that expression. I am convinced that there are some number of gals here who have no idea what that means which has led to some unfortunate situations. Can think of two instances where I used that expression in verifying services offered, only to discover later (after arriving for the appointment) that some things were NOT on the menu. Perhaps there was some wool pulling going on, but I don't think so. As your post implies, GFE means different things to different people for both hobbyist and provider.

Vicki, I've seen a provider on more than one occasion just have her kiss and cuddle me. Some guys on here might think I'm nuts but that's all I wanted on those particular occasions. Sometimes that's all I want and a SW or $20 whore is not going to give that. So don't sweat it girl, and the next time I'm in Boston....

Hello Muffy,

OK, I guess that I used the wrong wording, as I was trying to be
tactful.....My opinion of Around the around the world, would be Full Service(alittle Suckee and Fuckee) and that doesn't include greek. Sorry, LOL

Also, I think that GFE pertains to the Hobbyist, as he is the one looking for the experience.

Hey, are you trying Blow my Mind! LOL

Remember, your client was satisfied -- Isn't that the most important thing? Erectile failure happens to men when we hit middle age: some sooner, some later. If he's worried, about it, he can seek various treatments. But you shouldn't worry at all.

--b.

No big deal.  I'm 52 and sometimes I can't get it up, sometimes I can get it up but can't cum.  That's life.  It doesn't bother me and I can't remember a lady that was bothered by it.  Whatever happens, happens.

A) Not everyone (regardless of age) pops every time.  It happens, get over it, you did nothing wrong.

B) GFE has been normally defined as FS, BBBJ, DFK, DATY.  

C) If you provide a "girlfriend experience" that involves everything but FS (intercourse) then you are not strictly GFE.  You are however highly sought after by a majority of older males of my persuasion.

D) Get over the guilt trip stuff sister, it will eat you alive!  If you are happy in your labors, enjoy your clients and feel you provide a good service, be proud.  

E) I saw your pics on your web site. Damn girl, your another very beautiful woman of color!  Now I have to see both Melinda  (the other cutey I lust after) and yourself when I am able.

Warm Regards,
Loarthan

Or, should I say "Roarrrrr Roarrrr" (?) LOL Here's to you, boo:

Chocolate kisses from me to you,

Mel

Please Vick, don't feel like that...

I have a provider I really like, and she is great, but due to some medication I am on (Prozac) sometimes it happens great, sometimes at first all seems well, but then fails a bit later.  To make matters worse, I got a prostate infection a few months back that lasted forever, and it sometimes hurt even to try.  None of that has ANYTHING to do with the wonderful provider, her beauty or skill.  The male body can be a real SOB.  I've gotten to the point that I carry little blue pills, just in case, and I am only 34.  Please do not take it personally.  

I know that is one of my reason's for visiting this provider - she understands this better than someone I was seriously involved with might, and she helps me to feel better.  Believe me, as bad as you feel, that guy probably has felt much worse about it.

Yes that happens to us older guys.  Please don't take it personally.  (That's the guy job!)

I urge you not to say you provide a GFE if you don't provide full service.  I agree with those who believe that a GFE includes at a minimum: DFK, BBBJ, DATY, and intercourse in a variety of positions, such as missionary, cow girl, and doggie.  (Greek and BBBJ-TC are not part of a GFE according to the definition I learned when I started in this hobby many years ago.)   When I was in High School, we called a girl who got a guy hot but wouldn't go all the way a "cock tease"—and it wasn’t the kind experience we wanted with our girlfriend.   Instead, why don't you say that you provide a very sensuous, full body massage--that way nobody will expect more from you than is on your menu.

A few months ago, I scheduled an appointment with a provider one evening.  That morning, I had run a half-marathon (13.1 miles).  I couldn't perform that evening and I blame it on the race that morning.  My donation was wasted.  The lesson I learned is not to pursue this hobby a few hours after a long-distance run.