How many guys have wives that "enjoy" hobbying with them? How many of you guys have wives that hobby with male providers? Or is that not OK with you?

If you hobby with the wife, who initiated the first doubles?

Did you hobby before?

How did you initiate the first one? Say, "Honey, guess who I've invited to dessert"

who play together. In the cases of the couples I've been with, it's been for the sake of spicing up the relationship and mostly centered on the woman's pleasure. Usually the women have felt more comfortable starting with a woman, but occasionally it goes in the direction of a male provider for her.

I "know" my wife likes women... Some of her college day "fantasies" revolve around women and when we are with friends. Those that hug and kiss (especially on the lips), she will comment on. When ever I mention bringing another woman into the bed, she says, what she would like, is to see a couple of strippers, male and female.

One of these days, I will invite a provider over for dinner, with the request that the provider flirt with my wife and see where that leads

My wife enjoys the hobby, even likely more than me in fact. She enjoys providing if the guy is clean, nice, and respectful. Some more than others, but she enjoys most of them. She enjoys it with me. We have done FFM, FFFM, FMFM, and MFM together. It is her 8dea to do a double more often than not. And she hobbies as a solo client seeing both men and women, but mostly women. As I said she on occasion sees male providers, but with me and by herself. She sees more women then men as her clients and I keep her in dick. We have rules and as long as she follows them, comes home to me, and does her wifely duties in our bedroom, it is fine by me. She did. The whole open marriage, hobby, thing was her idea. She was a sex worker before we met and enjoyed it and wanted to come back to it. It was a bit evolved but we worked it out.
    Sort of. I tried once before I met my wife. I didn't know how to screen so I ended up getting robbed instead. At my wife's encouragement my first time was solove as welL, but my wife done the screening and choosing.  
       
 She asked after the first time since I married with another woman if I enjoyed myself. She said she wanted to try her out so she booked another appointment for the both of us. Later that day I learned somethings that I was less than happy about. But we worked things out. We put in place some rules and we now both enjoy the hobby and each other.

One thing I must make clear NEVER push you SO into this. NEVER spring a lady (or guy) on your SO. If you do this be open and honest. Plan this together. And make sure she knows she can back out if it becomes to much and stop it at anytime. Set up ground rules you both will follow. Book a longer time. Let her and the provider talk a bit first with or without you there (their choice). Focus on her and make sure she gets hers.  Just trust me on this, do all of the above if you do this. Make it about her and her needs and wants, OK?

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Thanks for the great responses. Especially with disclosing that she is also a provider and sex worker before you were married... Did you "meet" her via the hobby?

I understand that you do not feel that me bringing in a flirty friend is a good idea.

Thanks for that input

We met when she found herself in a bad situation and I helped her out. We became fast friends, later we became a couple, then she said yes and I became one lucky man. I was never her client. I attempted only once to see a pro before my wife showed me how to do it right, years after our marriage. That one time I was literally robbed. That thief wasn't my wife.

As for you assuming I think bringing a flirty friend is a bad idea, I didn't say that. I told you to make it about her. Make her comfortable. Big difference. I don't know your wife. I do not know if she would be game or not. I have trust your judgment on if she would be into it. It could be a bad idea. I do nit know. I do know as the more reluctant partner that felt pushed it did lead to bad feelings, for a while. I just telling you most people will resist if thrust on them, but if you go slow, make her comfortable, and focus on her needs it is less likely to go south. It can go south, trust me on that. Doubles with a women you love is a great thing, and if it about her you will be much more likely to repeat. You want that don't you?

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would never hobby without my wingwoman & partner in crime, though we dont invite male providers into our home - that's my double standard I guess...

I would not invite someone over. I would just take your wife- with her permission- to a nice strip club, and make the evening all about her. This will give her a chance to gauge how ok she is with another woman around. Buy her dances. Let it be her idea to buy you a dance, but don't be the one to suggest it. Let her take the lead- she has to know that she's in control of this and that it's all about her. Remain blasé about the dancers, only compliment someone's appearance if she does first. Make her feel like the queen. Watch your eye-contact, and make sure your eyes are mostly on her.  And go where it leads you!!

I have taken her to Strip Clubs when we are away from town, at her request. Just never thought of giving buying her a dance