Sorry to break it to you, but there is a risk anytime any activity happens. But you know what? I would trust that the provider I meet is cleaner than a civilian girl I meet at a bar. Provider is much more likely to get tested frequently. How many civilians even get tested? When was the last time you got tested?
Please let me know if this post comes across as offensive or rude.
But, I've recently contemplated getting into the hobby but haven't fully gone through with it. So far my experiences have been at FBSM places but never with a full-service provider.
I see countless providers offering BBBJs, if not BBFS but in these cases, how does one work through the fear of STDs, specifically herpes?
Given that the providers (high-end or otherwise) offer BBBJ, would the risk of transmission not be significantly higher?
I’m sure most ladies would do it covered if you prefer.
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So I'll. be gentle. Please do a search and you'll find YEARS of discussions on this subject.
in the odds between BBBJ and BBFS, so you should treat them separately because the risk is not even proportional. As Rafi says, most providers will be happy to use a cover for BBFS or BBBJ. While I dabbled in BBFS many years ago, since 2019, I have always used a cover. However, I have never used a cover for BBBJ, never caught anything from a provider, and I have seen over 1000 providers since I started in P4P in 2007.
Each monger has to choose their own comfort level with these risks. I have caught a few STD's from providers when I was doing BBFS years ago, but I just put myself on the bench until the meds are finished. I'm single, but if I had a SO, I would not have taken some of the risks that I have. If the risks make you anxious, try stamp collecting. You never lick anything that can hurt you.
The danger would expire waiting for a stamp collector to lick a stamp. They just look at them. They buy regular stamps for their erection tests.
I offer non-GFE services for those who prefer to keep it safer. When I first started working as an adult entertainer I would give hand jobs with a glove and covered blow jobs only. I used to go to Dr after every encounter in fear of bringing home something to my SO at the time. Abstaining is the only 100% risk free option.
I truly believe as a professional escort I am extremely safer, than most people. I am happily STD free. I like to keep the lights on to explore body parts because you can see herpes outbreaks. 🤔It is estimated that about 60% of adults in the United States have herpes simplex virus, but the majority of them have HSV-1, which is not typically associated with genital infections.👁️
Not all providers are created equally. Cleanliness is essential in all aspects of life… physically, mentally & emotionally. It’s important to know whom you’re sharing your time and energy with choose wisely. 🗣️
Doing what you can to be safe is better than doing nothing.
May I suggest visiting the Noobie board?
It’s important to know whom you’re sharing your time and energy with choose wisely. 🗣️
This part of your reply is laughable, how can a client know this without your real info.
I have a standing appointment in the Sexually Transmitted disease clinic of an accredited teaching hospital. I go every two-months for full screening and medication review.
A game changer for me has been an antiviral that I receive by intramuscular injection at this appointment. It lasts 2 months. There are also antibiotics which, taken shortly after sex, will significantly lower your chances of contracting a bacterial STD.
A vital, but sometimes overlooked preventative step is taking a vigorous shower after your tryst.
I remain STD free.
Stay safe out there!
Vigorously shower to prevent STD after going bare...okay. That's a new one for the medical journal.
Total 'kooku de kooku pots '.
Total "Duh" response,
Who said anything about going bare?
Please learn to read before making an unintelligent response.
ATTB
Practices know as CBJ ,CFS, hand job, no DFK...ever heard of these safe practices ?
Thanks, Bubbleboy!
You must shower with a raincoat on!
ATTB
Shut the fuck up because you're just a troll and leach on TER.You dated no one and never will so GTFOH (get the fuck outta here).
You can kiss my ass in Macy's window, Boobie!!
Please stop boring us with your lack of knowledge and advice.
You are simply not important to me.
ATTB
To start you in your journey in the FAQ for Newbies, make sure you see https://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=48178&boardID=10&page
Silicone lube application even if it a small dab drastically reduces chances of catching some thing..
Warning , it just REDUCES...does NOT eliminate or avoids the problem.
Correctly and repeatedly (do drying out) applied silicone lube forms a thin layer akin to a condom.
Would you please provide a link or reference to research showing this? I hope there's something to it.
Calling BS on this.
Check for yourself!
Yes, you correctly notice that I called BS on this.
Sorry to break it to you, but there is a risk anytime any activity happens. But you know what? I would trust that the provider I meet is cleaner than a civilian girl I meet at a bar. Provider is much more likely to get tested frequently. How many civilians even get tested? When was the last time you got tested?
Stop making assumptions. you have no data to back this up. Just repeating what has already been said before.
The responses on here are frightening. A shower and vigorous scrub will help?!? Lube reduces your chance of catching something !?!? Jesus - this just makes me think going bare is much, much more dangerous than I would normally think if the other customers are approaching sexual health like this. These kind of 'tips' are debunked in 7th grade health class.
Think of it like this - if you don't wear a condom during sex, your chances for catching something increases. If you're hooking up with someone and you're not monogamous, you're chances increase as every new partner (for both participants) increases the chance of catching something. Now consider what that means for a provider who sees, what, 2-8 customers a day. Those chances skyrocket.
Every discussion like this is basically a group of guys trying to convince themselves it's ok to go bare. We all know better. You'll eventually catch something...you just gotta hope it's cure-able and not herpes. Herpes, btw, can be spread via blowjobs and you don't even need to see signs of an outbreak for it to spread (look it up on CDC's site). And don't think all most these providers are on prohibitively expensive PrEP (2-3k/month w.o insurance). HIV is a possibility.
Long story short don't try to convince yourself you'll be fine. If you're OK with the risk, that's one thing. But it's a legitimate and real risk. And this isn't a knock against the providers - I just don't trust horny mongering dudes enough to believe they're testing at the rate they should.
i second everything just said .. have i rationalized going bare wayyyyyy too many times, yes ... but i didn't do it blindly, i just tried to use good judgement and hoped for the best ... of course i didn't go bare with some KGirl with 248 reviews , it stuns me that guys are fine with that.
in Vegas the casinos just added a third 000 to the roulette wheel to enhance their odds. so why make the odds worse for yourself. of course there is a famous case of a playboy centerfold who may have caught HIV from her first lover. (rebekka armstrong)
if i think i am going to meet someone more than once i ask them to get tested for everything. have done that on a number of occasions .. been surprised , the girls i thought would be dirty turned out clean ... and a sweet girl who was in law school turned out to have 3 STDs, go figure
as for me .. i passed all the many tests .... except for one ..................................................... the performance test !
Some providers takes great care of themselves than civilians. So just never know. More precautions lower the risk.
Excellent, concise, and accurate response.
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Yes,believe it or not , he said a shower. Make you cringe at people's stupidity. That's how dumbed down America has become.
Hey Dumbo!
No one said to go bare back and simply take a shower for protection.
It was your simple-mindedness, combined with arrogance, that led to you that stupid conclusion.
ATTB
Don't.
.
That is, don't "work through the fear".
Instead, do the research (in decent medical sources, not here!!).
Then if the fear persists, simply don't fuck.
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If the fear is abated by knowledge, behave as required to keep the risk within your tolerance.
For example, choose your fuck partners from those with lower chance of STDs.
.
And remember to calibrate the risks against the other risks in your life, such as
- driving to an appointment
- driving to the grocery store
- eating pre-packaged produce, candy,
- drinking alcohol
- breathing maskless (flu, Covid, hantavirus, pneumonoconiosis, measles, ... ... )
- social interaction (conflict, marital conflict, gang suspicion ...)
and so on and so forth. Each of these has a risk and a benefit. The tradeoffs are yours to make.