In reading another thread, I realized that not one provider I've ever seen has called me by my first name. Even the ones I've seen many times. They haven't called me anything but "babe", or "sweetie', or that sort of thing.

Have you ever called the lady you are with something different?

I vividly remember the few times my current friend "slipped" and called me by my name. Twice out loud  
and once in a stern email ... she then signed off with
her real name. I think me likes "sweet plum" better lol

Why should they care about learning your name if you're one and done?  For agency Kgirls, they call all of their customers "honey."  

I will use a person's first name... at first. Once we've built a rapport or exchanged a bit of correspondence I may throw in a "Hey there, love...".  

Other than in written communication, or in a group situation, how often does anyone address you by your first name - friends and family included?  

I recently went on a trip there, and was always addressed as 'honey' and 'sweetie pie' and 'doll.'

The closer you become to someone, especially someone who deals with the public, the more likely it is that you become a name instead of a number.

Pet names seem disengenous until you actually feel some affection for the person.  

Or baby, or any pet names. Lol

... but once we meet I don't remember either of us using any names at all.

Hun
Doll
Dear
Sweetie
Papi
Daddy
Pero
Fuckface
Mi Amor
But NEVER by my real first name.  Except for a select few.
I love them.

They say we're young and we don't know
We won't find out until we grow
 
   "Hey, Babe."?
 
Well I don't know if all that's true,
'Cause you got me, and baby I got you.
 
   "Hey, Babe."?
 
I guess that's so, we don't have a plot
But at least I'm sure of all the things we got.

You must have some Latina lovers.

In 15 years I've only given my real first name to four of them. Out of them only two have ever used it in communications, sparingly. At the same time only two have shared with me their first name. My real or hobby name (s) are rarely needed in communications anyhow.  

I may be wrong, but the transparent phoniness of these pseudo-endearments is a big turn-off. It's somewhat like a diner waitress calling a customer "Hon" —except we're not bargaining for intimate contact with the waitress. And to paraphrase The Talking Heads ca. 1979, this ain't no diner.

Some people are not good with names...I would not take it personal or feel bad...I rarely call clients by their first names, including my regulars. Everybody is "honey" to me, including the checkout person at the grocery store!

"pero" means "but" not butt, but "but". lol

And that's better?  LMAO!

It's like listening to a chicken being strangled.

Whatever they sent me through massaging is what I call them or will ask them what they prefer to called. Personally, I think it makes a nicer more personal experience. But I do use terms of endearment as well.

Absolutely! I was in. casino industry for over 8 years and it was very customary to speak to them by name(players cards were a god send) and have their favorite drink ready or what not. Maybe it's Vegas hospitality industry stuck in me, but I prefer to use names.

And completely understandable.  I have been know to do the same thing in return... it's just easier.  That said - there are woman who use my real name occasionally - but I have seen them a number of times.

is hot-looking, he already knows he's a "babe," so its okay to call him that.  If he's not hot, then it might come off as fake and disingenuous.  Its a fine line if you're not certain the guy is universally hot-looking.  I get called babe all the time.   (Not true, but I had to say it anyway - lol)

and you were shocked when no one had any idea what the fuck you were trying to say. jaja

Yes, if the guy is an Adonis, sure, "Babe", "Gorgeous" or "Handsome" work.  If he is short and portly with his nose hair braided into his goatee, maybe it's best to pick a different name.

..... my name into my ear as they are just about to cum. "Oh.... Mick!"  
Sounds bloody beautiful.

For some reason that I can't explain, I don't like being called hon. All I know is that it goes back to a childhood assciation. I also find it annoying if someone keeps using my name. Unless there is some possible confusion on who is being spoken to, an unusual event during a session, its just inefficient. I know who you are talking to, you don't have to remind me.

When they said, "Oh Shit" as they came.  

I've also seemed to have fallen prey to the southern tradition of using terms of endearment.  I use "hun" for clients regardless of whether or not I remember their names and "doll" for my female friends and family members...Funny how living in the south can switch your vocabulary around...I can see how it seems condescending though as that's the way I viewed it when I first moved here.

I've been called by my first name and variations on my first name, too. I don't think it's important either way.

"Babe" has the connotation of "good looking" in certain contexts, but not all the time. I take it in the provider context to be short for "baby." Merely a diminutive of a common pet name.

I'm sure the Japanese are hard at work on a perfectly efficient conversational sex robot for you. In the meantime, you probably could just tell your provider not to use your name.

Why is everyone getting all riled up about this? She calls you Babe and you call her Babe. So what? I call my new ATF Babe and she calls me Babe. It's no big deal for me. Actually I think it's cute. Even when I text her I text her as Babe. Yeah I know her real name. And no I'm not going to give out her info. And Yes I see her BBFSCIP. It's her preference. So everyone just relax already. Besides when was the last time you married guys had your wife call you Babe? I'll bet not since the day you got married. These days I'll bet she calls you a four letter word and it's not Babe.  LOL!!!!!!!  

I really really hate when the guys knows that I'm latina start to call me MAMI.

superlative adjectives would be in order.  
Ciao "gorgeous"

Hung ... but I'm very sensitive to being called Bigballs
.... now if you get it to stand up straight and hard ...  
what nickname might I be heard calling you?

'Handsome"    as in " hand some $$ over"  with an outstretched open hand

He can't get rid of that odd accent.

Call me Otto.  And here is Otto's favorite clip on the subject.

but I know her real name. I still like her "stage" name better, though.

Wouldn't 15 to 20 three to four hour visits constitute being a "regular"?

Not close as in I'm falling in love.  

As I think about this, I would feel more valued as a customer if I were called by my real first name. I give my real first and last name for screening, and sign off on all emails and texts with my real name. Sometimes I think it's just too much trouble to remember the customer's real name, or maybe there's a concern about blurting out the wrong name when things get heated.

Okay - maybe I'm the weird one!  When I meet a friend for coffee, say, the likelihood is that we never address each other by name.  It would seem oddly formal, actually.  So, in regard to your question, I wouldn't automatically assume that a playmate not addressing you by name is some kind of hookerish behavior.

OK, funny.  Why not?  Beats "Hon."

I don't mind the pet names as much as some, but I make it a point to call my clients by their first name so they know I am present with them and not with someone else in mind, or worse - that I care so little I don't even remember his name at all.

Yes there are Otto's in Italy but the name is German and any Italian with that name has a German ancestor way back. The German names Oddo, Odo, Otti, Oti, Oddi, Odi and Oto found in both Germany and Italy all derive from the German name Otto whom moved from Germany into Italy hundreds of years ago and are from the same family roots.  Even if the name is semi common in Italy, it is a German name and any with that name likely sport a German ancestor along the way. Look it up. History of names is facinating. I just thought I should enter into this who can be the bigger putz contest. How did I do?

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And she knows my 1st name before we meet.  (I've never given my last name to ANY Provider, including Providers who I've seen 20, 30, 50 times).

At least you finished strong.
Did you watch the video.

It makes it more personal...

It's extremely cheesy is all. Lol.

I've been called both by my real name, yes I do give it out,  as well as pet names.  

If familiar with Dale Carnegie; he wrote:

Yes, I am the biggest putz on this thread. My life is complete! Maybe I should go for a SPOTY?  

Haha!! Good one.  That works for me too!!

"darlin"'   darlin

and a favorite at that, refused to call me by my nickname that I've used all my life but rather by my real name but even that not very often.

No, I'm NOT the ex-Laker.  The ladies call my johnson "Magic" because they love the magic it does to them!  ROFLOL