do you both receive equal punishment?
Do they have to catch you in the act?

People need to realize that all their nonsense LE checks, are pretty much useless when a cop is in the room with them. They can and will bust you for just showing up to a meeting...public or private, and you can fight about your rights after you are humiliated, spend the night in jail, and your family finds out you met with a hooker but "did not have sex with that woman."

What should we do then to be safe?
What do you ladies do to avoid being busted?
I'm kinda scared to do this now.

Follow the attached link and educate yourself.

Thank you sir.

The punishment is the most severe imanginable . Makes no dif if a crime was commited or if you are even indited.  A life is ruined.