: TER General Board Discussion : If only it worked on the flipside as well (edited)

stepongzi 1358 reads

posted 11 years ago

1 / 28

I am being cyber stalked by a provider - what do I do ?

So I see this provider for the first time back in early 2014
Have a great time and write a nice review, accurate and complimentary
I see her a few more times and each time better than the one before- but I have moved on and have decided not to see her

Then the emails from her begin with 'when am I going to see you again?'
This progressed to her emailing me and commenting every time I post on message boards or post a review of another provider- now she is threatening to blacklist me on TER-
Advice I have received from other providers I have known for a very long time has been to just ignore her and she will go away
Any thoughts? Do I contact TER? What if anything can they or will they do ?
Using my alias here because she is obviously tracking me via my regular handle

skarphedin 470 reads

posted 11 years ago

2 / 28

It's your fillings bro. She is tracking you via those. Pull'em out. Only hope for escape. -e-

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MasterZen 34 Reviews 634 reads

posted 11 years ago

3 / 28

Settle it politely and respectfully if you can...

Explain to her that you do not want to see her again, and ask her to stop emailing you. Communication can work wonders and should always be step #1. Document the communications, they may be useful later.

If communication doesn't work, try Radio Silence...

Block her emails and/or set your email to NOT send read-receipts to her. Change email and phone if you need to.

If you are on P411 or Date-Check, contact them and explain the situation and ask if they will block her from viewing your profile (before changing your email/phone if you decide to do that).

Put her posts on "Ignore" or simply ignore them. Do NOT respond! You could change your handle, too or just take a break from the boards for a while.

Avoid escalating anything and give it some time. Odds are it will end eventually.

There is no "TER Blacklist" per se that I am aware of. There are other BL sites out there, though. The question you need to ask yourself is whether she has the info to harm you with a BL. How much of your "real" info does she have?

There are many things that you can do if she escalates, but no sense making things uglier than they are at this point

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 402 reads

posted 11 years ago

4 / 28

Great advice, I couldn't have said it better myself!

And smart is so sexy to me!

Steph

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 526 reads

posted 11 years ago

5 / 28

SMH!!! eom

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MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 332 reads

posted 11 years ago

6 / 28

Well make sure it has lots of chunks in it ...

before you blow chow!

Steph

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 342 reads

posted 11 years ago

7 / 28

Some do it with style, others go overboard...

and it looks more like a BSU kinda thing. And I'm so glad you found the boards here. Are you enjoying yourself here?

Steph xoxo

Blowing Chunks 279 reads

posted 11 years ago

8 / 28

about to vomit. eom

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Blowing Chunks 324 reads

posted 11 years ago

9 / 28

Thanks captain obvious

100% certain he knows the obvious answers already

LtNeilBriggs 293 reads

posted 11 years ago

10 / 28

wow

What fountain of wisdom do you glean your knowledge from? It's mesmerizing to say the least!!!

LtNeilBriggs 385 reads

posted 11 years ago

11 / 28

Is this how guys

get the ladies here?

mrfisher 115 Reviews 389 reads

posted 11 years ago

12 / 28

I caught you on my iphone camera the other day....

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Related Link: Would you like a mint?....

random133 117 Reviews 248 reads

posted 11 years ago

13 / 28

I think Wisconsin now has a right to stalk law.

Or is that right to work? The two are so easily confused.

Posted By: RodTidweLL

Tell her you will report her to TER. If you don't want to take it to that level, set her emails to spam and get a new hobby phone. It would also be smart to just set her to ignore here.

Sorry this is happening to you, no one should be getting stalked, guy or girl.

Does she know any of your real world info?

skarphedin 510 reads

posted 11 years ago

14 / 28

Why do you hate me so? -eosadfacem-

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JohnMilton_Esq 221 reads

posted 11 years ago

15 / 28

^^^^^ an example of overboard^^^^^ -eom-

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JohnyComeAlready 408 reads

posted 11 years ago

16 / 28

Pyrotechnics.

This always works in the movies

Posted By: stepongzi

So I see this provider for the first time back in early 2014
Have a great time and write a nice review, accurate and complimentary
I see her a few more times and each time better than the one before- but I have moved on and have decided not to see her

Then the emails from her begin with 'when am I going to see you again?'
This progressed to her emailing me and commenting every time I post on message boards or post a review of another provider- now she is threatening to blacklist me on TER-
Advice I have received from other providers I have known for a very long time has been to just ignore her and she will go away
Any thoughts? Do I contact TER? What if anything can they or will they do ?
Using my alias here because she is obviously tracking me via my regular handle

Arovet 62 Reviews 443 reads

posted 11 years ago

17 / 28

Hi Steph!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wow your pics look great and I read your blog and it changed my life and can you make chocolate lava cake it's my favorite and do you ever visit DC gee I sure hope so because I just added you to my favorites list and check your PMs, like a lot because we have so much to talk about! Hugs!

Gonad-the-Contrarian 358 reads

posted 11 years ago

18 / 28

Re: Why do you hate me so? -eosadfacem-

Probably because your contributions are worthless.

Posted By: skarphedin

MasterZen 34 Reviews 201 reads

posted 11 years ago

19 / 28

Yes. Screw 5:00; I need a drink now!...

maybe blow chunks later. We'll see how the thread goes from here....

LtNeilBriggs 475 reads

posted 11 years ago

20 / 28

Yes thanks but there's one cranky poster here

Who I don't think is very newbie friendly. What's his deal?

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 295 reads

posted 11 years ago

21 / 28

Well you just keep posting and being yourself!

You seem quite nice, BTW!

Steph xoxo

skarphedin 346 reads

posted 11 years ago

22 / 28

Sorry, tl;dr. What are you saying exactly? -e-

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LtNeilBriggs 364 reads

posted 11 years ago

23 / 28

Thanks! You seem really special!!!!!

Posted By: MatureGFE

You seem quite nice, BTW!

Steph xoxo

Jstgttnstrtd 18 Reviews 338 reads

posted 11 years ago

24 / 28

realistically, ignoring probably is the best option

Because when someone has an obsession like this, any type of contact is just feeding her need. It very likely will have the opposite of the intended effect and will only encourage her to contact you again. Hopefully she gets straightened-out and in a better place, but most likely you can't be part of that, other than having your silence stead-fastedly deliver the message that you are not in her life in any way shape or form.

Gemma Coreana See my TER Reviews 336 reads

posted 11 years ago

25 / 28

Tell her to GROW THE FUCK UP!!!

Seriously? She doesn't have anything better to do then to cyber stalk a hobbyist... It's called hobbying so they can pick & choose which girls to see... I've heard about a incident like this from a client I've seen too... Ridiculous...

And stop threatening guys with blacklisting just cuz they don't want to see you anymore, it takes the credibility away from actual ASSHOLES who needs to be blacklisted....

TaylorSteele 353 reads

posted 11 years ago

26 / 28

If only it worked on the flipside as well (edited)

It's too bad the ladies here can't block certain gents from viewing our profiles over and over again even after we've politely asked them to PLEASE STOP doing so......cause we always know.

T xx

(let me add and maybe this will give you a small idea) I had one gentleman tell me during our appnt I am saved to his "special hard drive" at home....everything about me. I mean EVERYTHING. I was like WHAT???? Freaked me out to tell you the truth. Did I see him again...nope. Only GOD knows what goes on behind the scenes here. I don't wanna know. That was enough for me.

Posted By: stepongzi

So I see this provider for the first time back in early 2014
Have a great time and write a nice review, accurate and complimentary
I see her a few more times and each time better than the one before- but I have moved on and have decided not to see her

Then the emails from her begin with 'when am I going to see you again?'
This progressed to her emailing me and commenting every time I post on message boards or post a review of another provider- now she is threatening to blacklist me on TER-
Advice I have received from other providers I have known for a very long time has been to just ignore her and she will go away
Any thoughts? Do I contact TER? What if anything can they or will they do ?
Using my alias here because she is obviously tracking me via my regular handle

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hungry101 64 Reviews 324 reads

posted 11 years ago

27 / 28

What is her name and where is her web site?

I like GFE serivice. Pass her on to me.

Jamie.Solo See my TER Reviews 301 reads

posted 11 years ago

28 / 28

As other's have said...

I think you should tell her one time that you no longer wish to see her, and then set everything to ignore. And, only tell her you dont want to see her IF you haven't already. The beauty about this business is that there are AAALL types of ladies that can and do provide, but it's also the downside of this business.