How do hobbyists feel about providers who have set "routines"?

One provider I went to is like that.  She's extremely hot and the first time I saw her, I was smiling for days afterward.  The next couple of times, we went through the same sequence of acts and I got a little bored with the predictability.

I think she does it so that when she's reviewed, if people are fair, her future clients know what to expect and don't make unusual demands on her.

So, predictability or spontaneity?

From a provider standpoint I don't think it has anything to do with reviews, but that just like with one's SO it's easy to get caught in a repetitious rut.  (I'm a TS, but we get our 'routines' too.)

It sounds like you tend to let her lead the way, so she likely does what she's used to doing, and what she has probably found pleasurable to most of her dates.

Also, consider there "is" sort of a sequence to this.  Most girls like some foreplay, and don't want to give head after intercourse.

Maybe what you are looking for is to mix it up with some fun on the couch or kitchen table?

What I'd suggest is talk to her about how you feel and that you'd like to do someting a little different next time.

I know your post has made me more aware to try to mix things up with my regulars.

Best,
TS Jamie

In the former case you have the ability to mix it up.  In the latter case although
she may follow the same routine, you can always speak-up and ask her to alter the typical play sequence.  If you remain silent she'll likely stay in her routine comfort zone.

Needless to say visiting other providers at times is another way to assure you the newness that comes with variety.

I hear you exactly on the predictability of routines Kings. For first time visits on the hobbist side I think sometimes the new face/body/environment helps us overlook the predictability of the sequence of events. On her side I'm sure there is a comfort zone and Justa suggests in following a routine that others seem to have enjoyed. It's human nature to find comfort in some degree of predictablity especially when so many other elements are unknown and unpredictable; will she be like her pictures, will she perform as reviewed which itself leads to a similar series of events. After all how many people here write reviews or post complaining that a provider did not perform as reviewed, that would suggest many of us not only enjoy but expect some degree of predictablity.

Just like spicing things up at home, for those few providers I will see a second time things like specific outfits or role play scenarios help to keep things fresh.

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It does not even have to be a second visit to become aware that a routine is in play.  I have visited some highly rated providers who seem to have a time table for everything.  5 minutes of this, 5 minutes of that, etc.  I got a sense that it didn't matter who was in the body, everybody got the same treatment.  What a drag.

That is why when you find an ATF you need to treat her nice.  I see a couple of ladies on a somewhat frequent (whatever that may mean) basis and we both get so into it that whatever happens is just great.

I think it is the connection you make with the lady that is more important than the routine.  As they say, the biggest sex organ is the brain.  I would add that a touch of the heart doesn't hurt either.

I know exactly what you mean.   Some highly rated providers have a lot of traffic & after a while they become a bit "robotized" without really intending it.

I like spontaneity... if I feel it's developing into a routine I move on.

i prefer spontaneity!

I don't think I've ever had a session go the same way twice, even with regulars

let's face it, for me?  these are pretend dates...  they stand in place of a civie date and provide me with an assurance that I will not have blue balls at the end of the evening.  

I know that I pay them to be pleasant, laugh at my jokes, do what I wish within reason without me having to justify my every desire.  I know that, I get that, I embrace that!  When a routine kicks in, that shatters the illusion.  It departs from the script in my mind.  When a lady asks what would I like, that to me is ok, and for me, to ask "what do you like" and to be given an honest answer?  that is truly nice.

Many times, I know if a lady has an O.  Physiologically - it is, in some ladies, hard to miss.  In some, easier to miss.  and in some, no matter what, it's not going to happen.  

When one does occur, and the sex has been mutually enjoyable, that is the best and would suggest to me, that it is a mutual pleasure (with some sponteneity in the process).  

Routines?  yea, I guess we all develop those in work... but this is so much a personal service that you would hope that some of the personal connections are real, and not a "routine."  Just my hopes.

Why would the girl not want to give head after intercourse, I think its great to have the variety?

I can mix things up--no problem.  But the question is, does he want them that way?  It's HIS session.  He needs to speak up and say what he'd like me to do.

Some times I ask new people I meet "What would you like to do or how do you want to start?"  They most times reply "I'll let YOU do your thing."  To which I do.

Another time/example, I was with someone I had seen on a regular basis and thought I'd like to try something different because I thought he was tired of the same thing each time.  I asked HIM if he'd like to try something different.  He replied, "No.  I like what you do, that is why I come back to see you.  So please do what you always do."

You see?  It's hard to please everyone and I don't want to change on people if they don't want me to.  
Basically, if the man wants something different, he should speak up and communicate that to the provider.  I'm quite open-minded and have a wide repertoire but unless someone suggests something else, I'm not going to unload things on people they might not want.

A lady may do the same types of things with a number of gents, but the duration of each thing or the style it's done in or the order...could be different with each gent.  So even though activities are the same, every man is different, so the activities differ every so slightly.

If he walks in the door and doesn't start out with any direction like:  pouncing at me from the get-go in a heated kiss and we go from there, or beginning to undress me himself, or grabbing my hair and making me to kneel in front of him--then I'm just going to start a different way.  I try to follow his lead first.  If he doesn't provide one, then he'll get mine.

Tia


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In photography that’s what you call the process of editing your pictures for usage. Most of it is pretty routine and automated, but some pictures need extra attention, just like my almost 60 yr old little guy or; “Unpredicktable Dick,” as I call him, and I’ve found most-but not all- providers more then happy to break their routine anytime Dicky stops playing by the rules.

I will admit to having a routine when I first enter a room.  Because I do outcalls only, each and every room is different.  It helps me to establish a certain level of comfort to set up my music, set out the candles, and chat for a minute while I do that.  However, that being said, setting up the room is the only routine I've established.  Each time is different with each person I see.  I find routine boring myself and try to "go with the flow."

I have one provider with whom I go through a routine and I would sooner change Hamlet than upset the routine; it's like a religious service.

With other providers, I never know from one meeting to another what we're going to be up to.  It's a constant surprise and I like it that way.

Different strokes, as they say.

The provider I'm talking about is gentle but insistent that she does things her way.  Her service is great and it's nothing to argue over so I just have to let it go if I decide to see her.  I guess if I want variety I just have to see different providers.

Got many takers on that one?!  also - could that be ammended to be pseudo stand-in date with ex... at kids events?!  lol!!!

love the list!  Wish more providers would provide a list like that!  it would make for very interesting times....  Nice approach!

Geeze, sounds to me more like a wife than a fling. Take control and lead or make a suggestion. It can't hurt.

Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower
Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower
Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower
Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower
Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower
Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower
Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower
Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 69, FS, Shower

that due to review boards like TER men expect a certain amount of acts to be a good service. If you schedule an hour and want BBBJ, DATY, multiple positions, good conversation, 2 pops etc it is necessary for the SP to manage the time properly. This is what causes the routines. If the hobbyiest would just like some real down and dirty sex w/o all these expectations providers would have more freedom in letting a session just flow. It is unfortunate that internet communication has created a standard of acts rather than a total sexual experience as the gold standard of good providing.

Each client is different therefore I follow his lead as to what comes next. Routine is why every married client I have is a client!

Her is something to try

Shower, Massage, BJ, DATY, 77, FS, Shower
It *is* a lot like the other routines but you get ate more.
B

Miki, you are the MILF "gold standard."  "Beam me down Scotty.  Energize!"

Have I gotten any takers for that offer (found on my web site) at all?  Not lately for that particular offer of mine--the "pseudo stand-in date with parents", but something similar.  

I was someone's "supposed" long-term girlfriend date at a wedding he had to attend for someone at his work.   He filled me in on all the background details (how long we'd been dating, where we lived, etc.).  It was fun to play someone else.  I think it went off without a hitch.  I had a fun time at the wedding too.   I guess he didn't want work to know he was single or he just didn't want to show up at the work wedding alone.

Thank you for the compliment on my "OFFERS".  I'm glad some of them made you smile.  


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So many times I would love to to something new with a client I have seen more then a few times and they aren't open minded.

What's up with exploring, why don't guys like to do it. I love wierd positions toys costumes and imagination when it's joined by touch.

Now back to provider routines, maybe she thought that was what you liked or wanted. So many providers tend to go with the clients flow. Now on the other hand everyone walked a rocky road getting to where they are today, I know one provider that only does CG position and she says it's for safety reasons.  

I say to each their own and a closed mouth tends to not get fed, My suggestion is that you let her know your interested in trying something different and what she says or does.