I had a routine STD test today - I have been doing alot of travelling this summer and now that I'm home I just want to be sure all is well before I get back at it here.

The test was administered by a nurse practioner at the health department  (my regular doctor couldn't get me in til September).  Anyway, I answered a bunch of personal questions including how many partners have I had in the past three months.  I told her 20 but I know I was alot busier than that.

After the number she wanted to know why I had so many sexual partners in the past few months.  I told her that I am a grown woman and I like to enjoy myself when I'm with a man.  End of discussion.
I got a nice lecture about safe sex and sent home with condoms and a pamplet about STDs and told I will get the results in two weeks.

So those of you who get STD tested on a regular basis,  does your doctor know the truth about your lifestyle?

also, what do you consider "regular" as far as testing goes?

It's inappropriate for the doctor to ask WHY so many sexual partners.  She may have suspected what you do for a living but if she were behaving professionally she would have withheld her judgements and simply tried to give you good info about STDs and protection.

Do I tell my doc what I do for a living?  Sometimes.  I did tell my doctor, got a world of threats and judgement dumped on me, and found another doctor.  This one was really supportive and helped me without judging.  She didn't flinch when I needed to have graphic discussions and seemed comfortable in general.

For reasons I won't go into I had to change docs and this time I am holding back the details of my profession.  I simply hold my doc that I have a lot of partners.  (At which point she scribbled frantically into my chart).

I test every 3 months.

I use tstd.org. Completely anonymous, and you get the results online. It's also a lot quicker than two weeks. It's a day or two to get the results. I'm married, and I don't want lab results to come in the mail where my wife can open them (yes, that happened once). I also don't want anyone to have a record of my STD tests or results.

how bad I am at picking invisible b/fs!  loL!!    I always tell my doctor when I request all the tests approximately every 3 to 4 or 5 months that I am getting tested because I suspect my newest b/f may be sleeping around on me, cause I found this..... or over heard that..... or saw him coming out of there.......  you get the hint.        No, I have no b/fs and prefer it that way, no not a lesbian either, just very bi!  LoL    Anyway, it just so happens the doctor I have for my testing needs, since I moved to Charlotte, is a lady who unfortunately just got divorced from her cheating hubby.  She never questions me.  She just says she understands and orders the tests.  Not like the nosy doctors I have had treating me in other cities.  Men gees!  I hate male doctors!!!  No offense guys, but I do not like it when I get a male doctor.  LoL

Please everyone, even if you always cover and never have an accident, still get tested periodically for STD's and HIV!!

Play Safe Everyone, Cover Up and Regularly Get Tested!!

Hugs,
LL

I tell you what - no one, nowhere has any business asking you how many sexual partners you have had or what you do for a living. You are there for one thing - tests - and not to give anyone any fodder for gossip, conjecture, titillation, or what have you. Why would they need to know about how many partners you've had or what you do? I have no problem telling a nurse to MYOB.

Here's how it is supposed to go. These are the tests I need, A., B. and C. Your job is to take whatever bodily fluids you need from me and go and test them. This is why I pay you.

Then you come back and it is your job to give me the results of the tests and only the results of the test. I don't need to be treated like a child and lectured on safe sex or any other silly bullpuckey. I am grown woman. I have taken the time to educate myself, make appropriate choices, and I know a hell of a lot about my own body and what I need to do with it.

There is only one thing that matters - are the tests positive or negative? Negative? Lovely. Thankyouverymuchandhaveapleasantday.

If you have any questions about my sex life, nurse, you can write them all out on a piece of paper after I leave, roll it up into a tube, and shove it right up your....nose.

They can assume I'm a big slut for all I care.
They can assume I'm an IV drug user...
I had a doc once start to grill me on 'why' I got tested 2x a year.... I told her even tho I wasn't high risk it solely made me feel better.
and I thought it was odd a doctor would discourage a harmless test that gave me peace of mind.
Really.. its no ones business , that doctor is working for me and sometimes people like that forget their place.  Very annoying.  People are so use to bowing to authority figures they start to treat docs like it's there MOM and Dad and they are 3yrs old.  But the reality is they are my employee while I'm there and if they annoy me or give me issue I'll hire someone else.

For Christ's sake, a provider sexual life is completely different from a regular girl life.

Hundreds of cocks thrusting into your uterus, fingers, tongues, saliva, toys.

Uterus are not made for 5 different cocks per day, 5 days per week! (Just an example)

Hellooooo????
Wake up girls.
I don't say this because of we are in a risk group for STDs, I actually think the civvies are the risk group. I say because of all the other gyno problems that comes along with a heavy sexual life, like infections, cancer , YES cancer!!!!
Because woman who are very active sexually are more susceptible to have cervical cancer than the normal girls.
Telling your doctor will only make him be more careful and attentive with you, scheduling exams (not only std tests all other tests too) more often and paying more attention to you.

others if you are not honest.. I can assure you that your physican has heard just about everything.. Sometimes they judge you.. Yes, they even talk about you to their
in the practice..But... Being honest with him ensures that you the patient gets the best care and test needed..

If you can't be honest with your physican it is time to find another one..

Every 3 to 6 months....There is no excuse not to. If you can't afford it it is always free at the health dept...

If I ever feel that I can't be totally honest with any one of them, I immediately start looking to replace them.

One other point on the same subject, I don't allow "lectures" from any of the professional in my employ. I expect to be told the consequences for my actions, I don't want to hire a "moral compass". I will immediately fire anyone who feels entitled to lecture me, and I have done so on many an ocassion, the last time only a few weeks ago. I hired a lawyer who thought his law degree entitled him to give me "free advice" on how to run my personal life. I fired him in mid sentence, firmly and not too politely. lol

I have very little biz.. probably as much action as a civilian.  Like I said.. my best interest is to keep my business private.  

I've had the same doctor since I was 15... I get tested every 3 months when I get my depo.. I think she suspects, but we've known each other so long, she's probably just happy I'm being "super cautious" as I told her once, when she asked a couple of yrs back. If she doesn't suspect, she probably just assumes I'm paranoid after all the cheating bfs I had back in high school, lol....

As a health care provider, it is within our rite to ask your occupation and the question activities, especially if your coming to us for tests... That just how it is....

I spent many years in college studies the business sciences(lol). I fired an accountant due his lack of 'loophole' knowledge.

you might as well hire H&R Block to do your taxes. lol

I pay good money to hire professionals who know what they are doing, to do otherwise is simply throwing your money away.

When I applied to be your accountant, you said I was too ethical.  Apparently my Enron work didn't impress you.

What is 2+2?

It depends!

Has no business in the accounting world. If they can then prove in the same sentence that 2+2 also equals 6 if the need arises, that person might just get my business.

Just remember, the guys at Enron got caught. lmao

So I go to the local health center for my screening once a month. I use the excuse I know that there can be false negatives and some diseases might not show up right away.. One of the questions on the sheet is "have you ever paid for or been paid for sex". I am a mother. Thats also answered on the same sheet with have you ever had any surgery(C-Section). The last thing I would need would be to come across somebody in that office who sees me answer yes to the paid for sex question along with the fact I have a child. And have them call cps. The Doctor/Patient confidentially goes out the door when they think child abuse or if the think sex abuse. Now anybody in that office can interrupt me being an escort as sex abuse, and additionally believe that me being an escort could cause child abuse or neglect. I tell them I young so I sleep around a lot nothing unusual there but just like to be cautious about it. My whole point is I am never going to risk outing myself to the very people who ultimately could have power to effect in a negative way the thing I love most in the world....

I have been in healthcare in various capacities since the early ninties. While I respect your desires to manage your own healthcare, I would point out that it is a highly skilled profession that amateurs should not be dicking around with.

You know the legal expression "one who represents himself has a fool for a client"? It goes double for medicine. When you lie to a doctor or try to strongarm them into doing stuff, you jeopardize your own medical health. That said, prostitution is illegal as we all know, so complete honesty is a risk, the statement about CPS was very insightful. There is something to be said for leaving out details that are not crucial to medical decision making.

That practioner was doing exactly what they were supposed to do.


Where you got your test is the reason for the inquiry: " nurse practioner at the health department." Such health providers are charged with a different set of concerns -- Public Health issues -- which dictate thier approach with each patient. You might expect the experience to be different a private practitioner, but at a Health Dept.


The public health facilities where I have been employed provided specific training to the practioners to ask such questions and to be on the watch for signs that a man or woman may be a prostitute, or are involved in "high-risk" activity (they won't actually say "slut" or "manwhore" lol!) If they can determine this, or if they are instructed to make sure that person has correct information about health risks, disease transmission, safety practices, and knows about all the resourses available in the area. They do this as Puiblic Health Policy, which is not something your private PCP has on the forefront of his or her agenda.

As a side note, these agencies are mostly under county governments, and report to the same board as the sheriff. While that may sounds alarming, the Health and LE agencies do not work together in such a way that if you admitted being a prostitute at the Health Dept, that information would be passed along to LE.

HalfHours Bargain Sex Tip: Free condoms! How cool is that. Many Health Depatments will just give them to you just for the asking.



































HalfHour

An escort would be doing HERSELF and her own health a huge disservice if she lied about her profession. That could be your life we're talking about here. I actually go to a doctor whose clinic is known for providing safe and reasonable health care ( I have insurance, but some ladies that work don't) and he knows what I do and how many partners I see every month when I get tested for everything.

Brothels here in Nevada also require their girls get tested once a WEEK.  And you HAVE to go.