There comes a time in most provider's career where they feel its the time to leave. I dont mean because they have been hassled or had bad clients or bad times, but its just time to move on to another phase in their life, or job career maybe. I guess I have a few questions about this. When they want out, do you let them get out? If they have shown their faces and have become pretty well known and then just decide to change their lives, do you let them? Reason I am asking is because some providers go on to take public jobs after this, maybe a news broadcaster, famous movie star, god maybe even a political career. Do you let them? There are so many hobbyists who are so resentful to providers and you can see it by the alias attacks or non alias negative attitudes. But do these people keep it limited to TER? Or do they take it off the field then also? Doesnt every women deserve to leave when she wants to? Without having fear that she will get her former life called out on her? Is it the worst mistake ever for a women to be a provider. I wonder to myself. Does this one phase in her life, ruin any chance for a better future? I would like to think that when she leaves this job and goes to her next career, that even the haters here on TER would leave her alone. What do you think? All opinions welcome even the women haters opinions. Id like to know what they plan to do also when a women retires. Will they leave her alone or never let her live away from the memory of doing this?

She has as much right to quit as I do to quit my job. If someone wants to quit that is thier choice!

Yes, everyone deserves to quit and start over in another job but if you were providing for more than a few weeks and met more than a few dozen people, I'm sure at least one of them will have no problem outing you if you are ever in the public eye. Look at all the recent reality TV examples. The girl on the British (?) talent show that Simon Cowell also judged (sorry, can't think of the title), Nene of the Housewifes fame and many more. They were outed as soon as they became known. It only takes one client.

there are a couple of ladies that have retired that i know. i still keep in touch with those who welcome post retirement contact. there is no hanky pank, no dates. we do talk about life, investing, music, movies and such.... perhaps have dinner.

who are so resentful??
Who???
I've seen it on occasion, but to say their are, "SO MANY"
Got any proof of that fact???
I would say 99% of the guys on here, respect them. ( providers )

Just take down the webpage and have your TER profile pulled.

Some have difficulty finding other work due to the gap period on their resume...among other issues.  One of my ATF's got her certificate in nursing.  I helped her get her first job by writing a letter of reference to the hospital using my real name and address.  True story.

The OP might try a career in entertaining.  She obviously has plenty of drama in her life.

to make a proper change of something, someone may consider a vice,
is to change "everything". your geography down to those whom you
share interactions with.

i am now a "kept" woman and wouldn't change a thing. soon to relinquish even
"this".

If a woman retires she retires.  There isn't much her customers can do about it.  Does that mean she doesn't worry about her family finding out somehow?  I guess it's probably always in the back of their minds but no woman with half a brain is going to spend the rest of her life looking over her shoulder.
Lets not forget that any guy who tried to start trouble is also openly admitting to being involved in illegal activity.  He is putting himself, his family and his job at risk.  

Somehow I just don't think it's that much of a problem...

...she has a plan, wants to move on outside of the hobby, do it.  Take everything down, move on.  No one lasts forever, no matter the profession.  I give alot of credit to those who have a plan, work as long as they need to and then fade away into other endeavors.....

your choices, unless youre just having a bad day, are to stay miserable at something you know or to move on and make the best of it.  it will be great.

could make an easy exit difficult if she left on bad terms with multiple persons. A lower profile provider could easily fade into the sunset and never be missed.
Then other factors need to be considered. How much of the provider's info, such as photos are out there? How much of her provider profile can be linked to social network sites and blogs.

I believe that providers should be able to retire and move on with their lives without the hobby following them, but how much of a trail you leave behind could make a difference.

I should also state that there is no excuse for a hobbyist to stalk a provider, especially if she has moved on.

to work their way through college or grad school & graduate with NO loans!  In most cases, there is a life after providing...   It is the wise lady who saves & plans well for the next phase in her life.   WE should be overjoyed it a lady we were fortunate enough to know, moved on & became successful.  
More than a few Hollywood actresses made their start in porn.  More power to them!   It is however one reason for ladies to conceal their faces.  Anybody who outs a former provider is a jerk.   I continue to see a Fav provider whose ads are down...  I suspect she is winding down this business...   I'll miss her if that day comes but I'll also wish her every success.
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Sounds like you got some hang-ups, pal. What a lady wants to do with her life is her decision and her's alone.

'Do you let them get out'?... Really? Am I correct to assume YOU have a choice in this matter? Are you her sugardaddy? Do you pay the rent, the utilities, and take care of her kids if she has any? Who appointed you her guardian? Does she know this?

Let's say for instance the lady did infact get a high profile job. Journalist, movie star, WTF ever. Are you saying you'd out her publically cuz you didn't want her to? That you wanted to keep her all to yourself? That's pretty fucking twisted if you ask me.

Just WTF exactly are you trying to say here?

I hate these alias' coming up with hypothetical questions cuz we all know that what they're asking is the very thing rolling around in their mind, trying to pawn it off on someone else's sense of right or wrong to justify the conclusion they already had made up in their fucked up shit.

I am a provider not a man. Sorry to confuse you. Its New Years and many ladies may be making goals for 2012 to move on.

I have this 'thing' about ladies being fucked with and when I see an alias that doesn't say they're a lady my natural being thinks it's some dickwad. Again, I apologize.

But what I said I still stand behind. It's nobody's fucking business what you do with your life but you. There's no reason in hell why you can't get a high profile job, or meet a man and live happily ever after just because of this shit.

It's a fuckin' job. How many other ladies, with more dubious characters, got high paying high profile jobs in the public eye? Selling their wares or their phylosophy? Writing books, for fuck sakes?

And if a guy falls for you now, WTF difference does it make what you did back then? You don't owe him an explanation for what you did before you met anymore than he does you. The only thing that matters is the here and now and what you two do with your time together there on.

Fuck what other people think. I'm sure you have family, friends and supporters that'll stick with you thru thick or thin. THOSE are the ones you should be asking these questions to.

It is a risk of the business that you can be outed at any time. Not just when you retire, or years afterwards.

Yes, it is your choice to retire, and other people should respect that. But, there are crazies out there. You can try to screen them out, but sometimes a loon gets through and becomes a stalker.

LOL.  Are you sure about that?

everyone deserves their privacy and I'm sure for most ladies, it's not too hard.  but if you are choosing to enter a new phase of your life that includes exposure/public celebrity, like MHR said I'm sure there might be at least one guy out there who who will have no qualms saying "so-and-so used to provide."  it's not a fool-proof safeguard but maybe that's why so many providers choose NOT to show their faces.

Not really an escorting story, but this makes me think of Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Had sex with the maid.  Thought he was clear.  10+ years later, the boy grows up to look exactly like his father....oops.

Depends on the lady if it,s only about the money she will never survive in the real world.

yep

I think only a pimp, may be more upset if a provider that worked for him tried to quit, and she was making him a lot of money. That could be very dangerous too.

The only clients I see, getting that upset, as you described for a provider quitting, more then likely are stalkers, and would eventually become dangerous, or simply annoying.

I've know a few providers who have stepped away for a while or fully retired, and it does not bother me. One young lady I use to see a whole lot (lol! I think I paid her college tution for one semester) has retired, & I wished the best of luck when I last time spoke to her. I am actually happy for her.

Then I went and found me a new ATF, that I'm enjoying just as much now.