My apologies if this subject has been discussed before. Im always a little nervous walking past the front desk of an upscale hotel on my way up to see a provider. Dont know why, I just am. Has anyone ever been stopped by an employee of a hotel and asked where they were going or what they were doing. If so , how did you respond?  Its not like we can tell them who we're going to visit, the name we have is certainly not the name the provider uses to book a room. My initial thought would be to tell them its none of their business, but giving it further consideration, it reall is their business. Any thoughts?

The better you dress the less likely you are to have confrontations - in hotels and in life.

Know in advance where the elevators are, so you are not looking lost.

whenever i go on a vacation with girlfriends and we all share a room.. we have done nightly getaways to dc to see a concert and booked a hotel room so we could have a few drinks.. anywhooo.. not all four of our names are on the room. its usually just one. asking for a name so they can check if that person is registered wouldnt work.

I smile and blow them a kiss if it's a cute girl behind the desk as I walk by. I'm visiting a friend if they ask. At that point I'm past them. They never stopped me asking who. Act like you own the hotel and know where you are going.  

I have ZERO problems walking into a five star hotel dressed in shorts and flip flops. and I have never been accosted by hotel staff.

I can't say I've ever had this come up but I'd simply say I am there to visit a friend. If pressed, you should at least have the room number by then and I would simply provide the given name she uses, provided it's not something like "sugar tits." If there's still a question you can simply ask them to ring her room to verify you're an invited guest. Irrespective of their suspicions I can't imaging hotel staff interrogating anyone further. Guests are entitled to a reasonable expectation of privacy.

I actually talk to no one on my cell discussing "going to the room, getting changed and we'll head over in an hour or so". Not loud but audible. Small talk. Makes me feel like I belong there.  

...but if they are going to stop you, you are most likely screwed.

Honesty is the best policy.

It is always a good idea to look as though you are a guest by dressing well, looking like you know where you are going, and avoiding any appearance of waiting around in the lobby for no obvious reason. This is obviously easier to pull off in a large hotel. In a small boutique hotel, it is probably best to meet her outside and go in together.

Nobody but you knows you are there to see a hooker, just do what you would do if you were seeing anybody else for any other reason. All this cloak and dagger shit is over the top and completely unnecessary, not to mention a bit foolish.

Just what are they going to do to you for walking into a hotel even if you have no valid reason for being there? You haven't committed any crime, not yet at least. There is no such charge I know of for "intending" to solicit a prostitute. There is absolutely nothing hotel staff can do except ask you to leave the property no matter what your intentions.  

you must have already committed some act, whether it was p4p based or not.

and yes, I still get a bit nervous.

But only through PMs from established contributors

Come on! GaG and many others on this thread have already said everything that needs to be shared.

Everything that's been said......plus a couple other helpful suggestions I'd prefer not to publicly discuss.
For the same reason I won't recommend specific hotels on the boards.

Dressing to "fit in" and acting like you belong there is more important than dressing "up." Wearing a suit into a beach resort in Hawaii will look just as out of place as wearing shorts and flip flops at a business hotel in NY. It's more important to blend in than to stick out like a sore thumb.

My methods have worked perfectly for me for 30 years, and no secret handshake is required to get them.

end up spinning around the lobby looking lost & confused. Yes, I ask the lady where is the elevator. No, I do not always get accurate guidance, and sometimes it's because there are multiple entrances.

To act like I do in hotels I stay in 150+ nights a year, every year for last 10 years. Walk and act like you are going to your room. Hell half the time you can't get the employees to notice you when you want them to. Just don't hang around lobby pacing back and forth waiting for that room # text.  Knowing where elevators are helps.

But I am a business traveler and I look like one, so nobody has ever thought any different, I guess.

Head held high, walking with a purpose saying hello with a smile to the bell boy or to anyone I should pass along the way that works for the hotel. I have never considered this part to be a concern.

If you were in a hotel for any other reason and you didn't know where the elevators were, would you give even a single thought to asking where they were?

Put on a hard hat and strap on a tool belt, and you can walk into the freakin' White House and not be challenged.

I think others have provided everything in the way of advice (didn't read all so if someone's already hit on this...)

the best is to pretend you're chewing someone's ass out over something.  Believe me, ain't no one gonna mess with you then

Its noones business why you are anywhere. If you look all sweaty and nervous...it will raise eyebrows. Be confident, smile and walk the runway walk like noones business and not a soul will question you lol.  

How about tying your shoes?

You may or may not be talking on the phone. I agree, unless one likes the role play doing too much cloak and dagger crap is silly. However, there is the aspect of putting oneself at easy. If using one of these tricks makes the person feel more comfortable they will look more natural. In doing that they then look like they should be there.

might be a giveawy. Whatever blows ur dress up Gaga .... not that over the top. IMHO ... I'd prodably meet my guy friend, who I'm not banging, outside, in the lobby or at the bar ... with  a FC for Jordan  ...  pay up time

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... today I saw an escort and as I walked in there were literally dozens of NY State Police checking in. The cabs lined the block. I was surrounded by them even as I took the elevator. Not a problem. They weren't there looking for me. Apparently they were there for a conference as I could see them all congregating in a conference room.

That reminded me of the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: "Don't Panic". Of course the other bit of wisdom from the book it so make sure you always have a towel. That may or may not clash with the suggest "well dressed" approach you take

Still nothing to get nervous about. If you're getting lost then you can be sure that other guests are too. Asking for directions is the normal thing to do -- wandering around lost maybe notsomuch.

Exactly right. What this whole discussion is dancing around is the fact some feel guilty or overly nervous because some stupid law says this type of relationship is not legal so there are, potentially, serious consequences.

This is exactly what I try to tell people about traveling. When you are in a new country/city look as if you have been there forever, and never look frantic or stressed.  

LOL.  I just walk in like I own the fucking place.

The worst thing you can do is wander in to a hotel and look to all the world as if you've never been there before. Just walk in as if you're a resident and go straight to the lift. It always helps if you're visiting a hotel you've been in before, that way you know exactly where everything is and you'll (hopefully) look like a resident.

if they have an envelope you could have.

Don't have anything to worry about.  No matter how you are dressed you probably look like a guest. They aren't going to think twice about you and certainly don't want to have a conversation with you which may lead to them having to do additional work.  I've asked where the elevators are, I say hi to everyone I see. It's what "normal" people do. Just today, entering an apartment building date, I said hi to the maintenance man patching the wall on my way to a lovely ladies door. I wonder if he was watching. Actually gave me pause for about 3 seconds. Would the coppers have a guy in the hallway? Date occurred without a hitch, he wasn't in the hall when I left

After I get the room number I just put my phone on silent and hold it to my ear as if engaged in a conversation. I generally am heard saying....."well let me check on that when I get to my room.....and I'll figure it out". I just continue to the elevator and go up.....never once been stopped.

First off if someone comes to pick me up for lunch, asks where my room is, and hotel staff tells them what room I'm in, I'll have someone's ass. By no means, ever, should hotel staff tell anyone what room number I am in.

You don't walk into a place like you own it, you walk into a place like you don't give a damn who does.

come to Las Vegas...........sometimes security is a real issue and requires either the provider to meet you downstairs (which is a good thing) or leave a room key for you..........somewhere (under the third flower pot from the left........right in front of the center fish tank).........

They "spin" questions they don't want to answer and usually ask a question of their own ... where's your bathroom?Do you know if Uber comes here or do I have to take a cab? Do you give AARP discounts?

Common sense prevailed. They don't know which one of the 50-100+ guess you are. They aren't going to remember every single individual guest's face. And different people work different shifts, they don't know who checked in and when. An upscale place isn't going to hassle and interrogate their guest or guest of guest. That would be terrible customer service.

By asking where your room is, I meant "where is the 1340 wing of the hotel?" Not "Where is the room that drunk Russbbj is staying in?"

everyone's there for the same thing and They know it!

I just ask where the elevator is.  that is a pretty normal question.  if you can't engage anyone it looks like you are either mental, or on a crack run, lol..

...of a hotel.  However, the entrance to the hotel was on the third floor because the hotel is on a hillside (for the time being - it's in L.A).  I had to take the elevator DOWN to get to the first floor but she apprised me of this in advance so I wasn't wandering around the entrance level of the hotel thinking it was the first floor and looking for her room..

about the main entrance & where the elevators are, when I get the room number.  Typically past the front desk & to one side or the other but once they were on a side corridor.  Carrying somethng like a briefcase (as a business hotel) or an overnight bag (like you went to your car to get something) or a shopping bag from a nearby store.  
Yes, act like you know where you are going & it really helps if you do!

No, the fact that I drink the Makers makes me a drunk.

It's amazing what you can get away with so long as you look and act like you know what you are doing and where you are going.

you're in the hallway ready to knock and the house cleaning staff is right there.  

2 weeks ago I literally ran into the hotel  manager. He asked if he could help me. I just said no. Waiting on a friend. Made me realize there are way too many people for them to deal with and they wouldn't want to make a scene anyway.

Mickey D drink carrier with soft drinks and a small take out sack worked for me once. That and good directions.

lol  

I'm getting visions of the iWatch them of walking into the hotel and your room, keys and name are already displayed to all the staff -- name displayed on some LED or TV screen to welcome you. And then the note saying you appointment has been delayed and you're getting a free vacation accommodation in the local resort.

beach resort appropriate clothing and not a 3-piece suit. If you are visiting a high-end convention hotel, wear business casual or better. You need to fit in.

......since I doubt that I'd ever be suspected of being a client.

I sauntered in as usual and nodded to the desk person, then got in the elevator and went to her floor.  That was when the trouble started.  Her room was in a weird spot, so I walked past it a couple of times before realizing where it was.  To make matters worse, the head maid and her crew were there with their cleaning cart, right outside my ATF's door.  I said "Hi" to the maid and her crew, because I had to walk around the cleaning cart to get to the room.  My ATF got a little wide-eyed when she opened the door, but once I got in, we both started giggling hysterically.  There was no drama from the maids, they probably just assumed she was my SO.

Talk about paranoia and overkill....... I live at the beach and without exaggeration I have been in and out of hotels for business, pleasure, and private pleasure no less than 100 times in the last 3 years and 99% of the time I am wearing workout shorts or regular shorts with a dri-fit or polo shirt the majority of the year or in a nice sweat suit not lounging sweats. I am visiting hotels across the country and dress the same way no matter what, the good fortune of owning your own company.  

When a single woman checks in to her room and requests 10 extra towels ya gotta figure everyone already knows what's going on

I have a friend who drives truck for a living, he brought a shipment to a Max Prison and one of the pallets was a pallet of Vaseline, he said to one of the inmates unloading "looks like you guys are going to have a party tonight".

Exactly Bro-fessor

If you have ever stayed at a hotel, you know what to do.  If in doubt when visiting, ask her.  This isn't rocket science!