I made a some friends on the high end ($500-1,000 PH)

... and they know I roll into town every month or two...

So a couple of them have emailed me, "When are you coming to town next? I hope to see you then...", and I've no problem with them reaching out to me...

But with the economy as it is... I'm taking things down to the $500 or lower range...

And I don't want to offend them by:

1. No reply at all
2. Reply which comes off as negotiating, which I never (ever) have done in the past
3. Just saying "No thanks", which might lead her to think I didn't enjoy myself the last time.

I've come up with a reply on my own...

but I'm curious, from the ladies, but also the men, how to handle this type of situation... tactfully.

My many Thanks in Advance.

(Sorry about my use of Alias now, but both these ladies, I've reviewed, and they've both whitelisted me also)

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I would be honest. Thank them for contacting you, let them know you have been thinking of them. But, due to the economy, you have had to cut back on certain expenses. You find yourself having to meet with others that are more within your current "budget".  Also, let them know that you do not/did not expect them to lower their rates, so you didnt' contact them.  End with "hopefull the economy will be turning around soon and I will be able to hobby with  my first choice."   Maybe times are tough for her as well and she rather give you a discount than have you go elsewhere.  Or she will say see you in a few months.  lol

Good luck,

Kari

Kari is right tell her the truth, it is no secret that the econmoy is RAVENously for the Birds.


Thank you
XLIII = 4

I have a feeling this scenario is going to play out frequently for a lot of us over the next year or so, so don't expect them to be surprised if you come clean. You'll feel like you're letting them down, but they have to understand.

Maybe the market will roar back and save our asses. Sure.

.....especially if you did enjoy your time with them.  Be upfront with your situation, you never know, if you are top notch in their book they may or may not cut you some slack.  They may also be e-mailing you because things may be slow.
Everything is on a case by case basis these days.

When things are Tight, Wink
The problem is that all 401K's are now 201K's.


Thank you
XLIII = 4

Its no secret that things are slow, and will continue to be for some time......or so Ringo tells me

best, the still dead Beatle,

John

If an escort, doesn't understand your explaination, well what are you gonna do.
BTW, I'm in same situatuin as you, and I'm only seeing my atf for the time being.

I agree with the other posters, honesty is usually the best policy. Just tell them honestly and politely that you need to cut back. I'm sure they will understand.

C_K

I have many old friends who have had to tighten their budget and I do understand. After all, I have been a very special part of their lives for awhile now and it goes a lot deeper than an hour of sensual delights.  You do share private intimate tidbits of your lives..

I would be very hurt if my friends did not contact me to say hello..I'm not a high price lady here but yes, even the guys in my price range are having problems. Instead of every week  or every other week visits it is once a month. Depending on the friend, I have been suggesting a meeting for coffee to chat. It's a chance to be human and share some time without putting a price on it. I know some lady is going to jump on my ass for this but yes...Meet my good friends for free and help alleviate a little stress with conversation. After all this too will pass in time and I know who will still be my friend.

I see only good from answering the ladies you have seen on a regular basis to let them know your thinking of them but that things have changed financially for you at the moment. They contacted you and know very well what is going on with the economy.Let them bring up the subject of getting together after you have mentioned the lack of funds.

Kisses Haley

Yes, the economy is a GIANT problem. But with dedication and hard work, we will be in the BLACK (and PURPLE) again.

What a great answer.  You have a wonderful attitude.  I hope your friends know how lucky they are to know you.

tennis

Let me say that I will have your back if someone jumps on you!  lol  

Once again, I agree 100% with you (we do that alot)  Yes there is a financial aspect to this business.  BUT for me, it's about the companionship and connection that is made.  If it was all about the $, I would have quit by now. Money is not the end all.  I have made some incredible friends (men and women) through here. And, yes, I do consider them friends. The ecomony is not going to be bad forever.  Things will turn around. I am not willing to give up my friendships while waiting.

BTW, this is not to slam others who do not see anyone "off the clock".  Everyone has their own way of doing things. One way is not necessaryily better than others.

Have a great weekend!

Kari~

The ladies on the high end KNOW that they are on the high end. There is no shame in having to be careful about spending in slow economic times. Yes the hobby is how they make their living but it is discretionary spending for any responsible adult. Anyone who gives you a hard time about this isn't really worth worrying about...or seeing.

total understanding of life in general.  On behalf of all hobbyists, thank you for your compasion.

My budget is more moderate but really has taken a beating...  I can't go less expensive & get decent quality.  
My ATF told me she thought I'd found someone new to visit!  I explained as best I could...  I just had to save up longer.
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