I am new at this and was wondering if you people out there could help me out. What is the policy for tipping? Or is there any tipping anyways? Is a quoted price just that, with no tipping to be expected? Any help would be appreciated...

Hiya, Colin--
I can't speak for everyone, but I can tell you about my own experience with tipping.  I've heard that some providers--especially those who work in massage parlours--ask for "tips" in exchange for specific services.  I don't do that; I have a flat, per hour rate, although if there is more than one person, I'll charge more.  I'd say that about half of the men I've seen tip (some tip more than my hourly rate).  I don't expect a tip, although I certainly do appreciate it when I get it.  I think I would probably tip, if I were the client, as I used to work in the food service industry and am therefore hyperaware of tipping (I tend to tip way too much).  

Anyway, if you enjoy the service, then tip your provider.  She surely will appreciate it.  But also, tell her that you enjoyed yourself!

All Best, and welcome to the club *grin*
Anne

Everyone has a different standard for tipping. Mine is that I tip agency ladies as their company takes a hefty chunk of the fee. However, I do not tip independents as I believe they should charge the fee they wish to receive, period.

Welcome Colin...

Here is one perspective...and I think, a valid one.

Generally speaking if you are seeing an independent, you book for a certain time.  The girl is hailed as a ripoff usually if she cuts the time short.  If going overtime to the tune of a half hour or hour, she most likely doesnt want to be hailed as a clockwatcher, especially if she prides herself as a gfe.  Sometimes guys JUST dont get the hint when she tells them time is short, or intimates that it's time to leave.  She shouldnt have to make excuses WHY she cant let you stay over, unscheduled. She also shouldnt have to bop your numbskull over the head because you are in denial that it's time to leave.

shouldnt there be a gesture of recognition for her extra time (other than trying to force another pop)?  Certainly booking one hour and getting two without her overtly demanding you leave is worthy of offering something other than something I saw a reviewer write "you can get 90 min if you book for one hour, so dont bother paying her for her 90 min rate."

Tips are very nice when you as a client are given the extra time.  Makes the girl feel like her generosity was noticed and appreciate.  At least make the gesture.  it shows that you werent just trying to be cheap by booking one hour and staying for two...and no dont think she is doing that because she is in love with you.  She knows better.  She is being gracious.

This seems to be a foreign concept to even some so called seasoned customers.  i wonder about the seasoning they are using.



-- Modified on 4/24/2002 12:22:17 AM

Good point. Just because a lady is generous, doesn't mean that we should abuse the hospitality. I bill for my time, and I know that it is the only thing I have to sell. If only people respected it enough to offer to pay if we go a little over. Yes, as clients, we work hard for the money we spend on our hobby. Remember though, these ladies work so hard for their money.

If they get caught up in the moment with us and forget the time, we should respect their time and make a gesture of appreciation. It might go a long ways towards a happy and generous attitude the next time.

I don't appreciate those who demand tips as soon as they have my money and make the phone call, but there are so many ladies dedicated to pleasing us who are so generous with themselves and their time (it is all they have) who are we to withhold our appreciation for something extra? After all, it is not all about what we can get, but also what we can give.

I cherish and appreciate the providers who so willingly accomodate me. Thank you so much Ladies.

I agree that if extra time is graciously offered a tip is an obligation. No doubt about that. However, I believe Colin's overall question was aimed at whether a tip was expected for normal services.

Exactly my rule, for exactly the same reasons...though if things go overtime, or I had an EXCEPTIONALLY good time, then I will tip an independent.

although I do get tipped often, especially for fbsm as my price is lower than my s&m sessions.

I would think for escorts, especially agency escorts, if you've had a particularly nice time or she went out of way or overtime with a wonderful attitude, a tip would be appreciated.

MM

I always tip unless there is something said or done that offends me.  (Only example:  A provider at a Nevada brothel said, in a nasty tone of voice, "Hey, you can't touch my hair" and then wondered why I had visibly, ah, lost interest.)

A Woman of Pleasure in Sydney records your tips in your computer profile which I find irritating because after, say, a nice but uninspired session with a provider who really did her best I feel I have to tip her in line with prior tips because I don't want to hurt her feelings.  Since I don't want that to happen, I am placed in the position (so to speak) of tipping less than I otherwise would have for spectacular service.  Many other places probably record tips also.

One place they do NOT is in Pahrump where I have been told by providers at both of the adjoining joints (I didn't mean that the way it sounded - i.e. I am not gay - not that there would be anything wrong with that....) that if I wanted to tip I should do so out of sight of the hall monitor since if I was seen tipping the establishment would demand a cut.

Colin, welcome, and thanks for your openness.

Depending on the type of service you use, (as someone else brought up), agencies, mps, hostess clubs or independents (did I leave anyone out here), there are varying situations leading to different hopes/expectations.

Speaking as an independent, which I am, I think you'll find that most independents (short of ripoffs) will expect only their asking price, given you stay within a fair amount of time and dont overstay your welcome as originally agreed, especially if she tells you she needs to be somewhere. I dont ask for a tip, but I do feel that overstaying the time limit over say 20 min or so, like everything else,  needs to be consensual, overtly consensual.  I.E. DISCUSSED.  

Your awareness of keeping to your time limit goes a long way towards making her life easier, as she may encounter difficulty if you keep her overtime. She should let you know when time is up;

She may not be the type to keep reminding you about the time ... that sure is a drag to have to do that, more than 2x.  At least it is for me. A lot of clients do try to be aware, others wait to be hit over the head (I keep my rolling pin handy for that reason, lol. )

Remember going into a session that time really flies when you're having fun, so an hour may go by much more quickly than you've realized ...

xoxo

ff




-- Modified on 4/24/2002 12:38:30 PM

Hello there, and thank you all for your helpful comments. Needless to say, I am new at this, and guess I was not being as clear as I would have liked. Like someone mentioned, I was referring to independents, and an "ordinary" session; ie., time as agreed, up front.

Guess I just didn't want to look like an idiot. My first impressions are to tip, but then I am not sure whether this would be considered as normal or not. If I did, what would be a reasonable amount or %(of course, assuming everything is great)? I respect the fact that providers provide a service and thus want to give a tip, but don't want to offend anyone by giving them a less than usual tip, due to my ignorance.

Once again, any help would be appreciated, and thank you all to those who replied!

Tip, absolutely you should tip. Anywhere from $20 to $100 is typical. Tip more toward the $100 if you particularly enjoyed the service. Tip more, if at the end of the encounter you think you will be calling her again. She may remember your tip when you see her next time, or at least have a subconscious recall of the warm, fuzzy feeling the tip gave her.

It's not quite like a restaraunt, where you're figuring 15%. Most independents I know distinguish themselves from the agencies by the fact that they don't have to split fees or do any additional negotiations for particular services. They seem to take pride in the fact that thier fee is flat and there's no need to ask for more. I like the attitude, because when I do tip, it's met with sincere appreciation.

I think it's nice that you're asking the question. Everyone has thier own tipping style - and you should just decide what yours is. Some tip before the session in hopes of better service. I've seen no evidence that this is effective. Some tip only providers they plan to see again. Others double the fee and tip before, during and after the session, because for them, the spending of money is an important part of the hobby. I tip before the session, either $50 or $60 depending on the denominations I have on me. I only do this because I don't like exchanging money at the end, and certainly not twice. To me that's just too much business mixed with the pleasure.

I do not expect, or ask for, tips.
But my rate is pretty low, especially for the service I provide. I actually do have plans to raise it at some point (seems DC rates went up when I wasn't looking LOL), but haven't done it at this point, and... if I really really go above and beyond the call of duty for a client (and you guys KNOW when that happens. If it hasn't happened to you yet, come see me! LOL), it surely does feel awfully good to see that he noticed and *appreciates* the extra effort.

It's one of those weeding processes... if I try extra hard over and over again and people continually ignore it, I'll stop bothering because obviously no one is noticing the difference anyways. It's not that different from how I have many times given gentlemen the benefit of the doubt when they've run way, WAY over their appointment time, to *allow them the opportunity* to pay for that time... so many of them took advantage of it (you know, that sneaky peek at the clock before they walk out bravely refusing to notice they've stayed an extra hour?), that I won't do that anymore.

So I don't think you should have a rule based on whether or not a lady is an independant or an agency... YES agencies take a large cut of the fees, but the reason so many girls like working for agencies is a) they see MANY more clients that way (I see maybe one or two a day and that's about all I can keep up with), b) they do not have to do any of the work that independants do with advertising, promotion, or screening, etc.  Instead, IMO, make your rule based on the type of service you are provided... if you leave that room feeling weak in the knees and smiling, take note of it

Hugs*
Nicole

I'd tip you just for being incredibly gorgeous!
*drool*
wow,
Hugs*
Nicole

I always tip afterwards because I don't want to give the impression that I fear the providers' preformance would be anything less than stellar and that I need to insure against this.  On the other hand, afterwards, even if I do not plan to return, I never make a big deal out of it.  "Hey, sweet-cheeks, here is some extra dough.  Ain't I something?"  WRONG.  I usually come prepared with an extra bit of cash in a seperate pocket(amount depending on the upfront charge) and discreetly leave it under her purse or somewhere.

Once again, thank you all for the help and insight...