I realize this post is long, longer than I had intended, but I appreciate you taking the time to read it and respond.

I am having a difficult time wrapping my head around something that happened to me yesterday.  And I am conflicted about what I should do now.

First off, let me just say that this is a great problem to have and nothing bad happened, in fact, something quite incredible happened.

I wanted my 60th review to be something special and as luck would have it, I got to see a lady I have wanted to see for a while.  However, I may have overshot the whole special thing a bit.

I originally met this lady at a hobby social event and found her to be quite different than I had envisioned her from her board postings and ads.

I was pleasantly surprised with the person I met and decided I would like to "see" her.  Then over the course of the next few months we tried to get together, with no luck until yesterday.

Then it happened...okay, hold on...I want to clear the air about a few things...I did not fall in love with this lady.  I do not want to stalk her.  I do not think we are destined to be together.  I am not obsessed with her...nothing like that.  And yes, I realize her "job" is to make me happy.  And yes, I realize that she is in the fantasy business...and very good at it.

So anywho, yesterday came and I went to meet this nice lady.  The second I entered the door, I knew I was going to have a great session.  We clicked right away.  We started kissing and she kissed me exactly how I like to be kissed, the right pressure, moisture, moves, everything, she even touched me on all the right spots while we were kissing.  

She moved the right way, not once was there an awkward repositioning or fumbling over each other.  And either she is an Academy Award caliber actress, or she actually enjoyed herself as well.  

We talked and cuddled, spent what seemed like hours having the most erotic foreplay, and had some amazing, amazing sex (not easy when I am one of the participants...lol).  We kissed some more and cuddled and talked and just enjoyed each other's company.

I can honestly say that in my entire life, I do not believe that I have ever been more completely and totally satisfied and fulfilled in every sense of those words than I was when I left her room yesterday.  Believe it or not, that is the problem.

I waited 24 hours in hopes that my mind would clear and I would be able to write an objective review.  But I am, still walking on air with sunbeams flowing out my keester.

I am conflicted.  Do I write the review I would now, sounding all giddy and enraptured?  Do I wait longer, until I get further removed from this experience, and potentially more level headed?  Or do I just not write a review of  this incredible lady, who already has tons of great reviews, and instead, keep this experience for myself?  

Is it fair of me to not write the review this lady obviously worked so very hard for?  Am I selfish for using other's reviews and not giving back this time?  As a member of this community, is it our responsibility to write a review for every experience?  Are there some sessions that transcend mere hobby experiences and become just great life experiences and therefore live beyond our hobby life?

LADIES: Would you want a review written by a guy with whom you made a special connection?  Or is that setting the bar so high that others will be disappointed if they don't experience the same connection?  Or is the nice review, just that, a nice review, and not at all important?

I realize that this is kinda girly, but I really am curious if others have had this experience and what they did when it occurred.

I appreciate your feedback and if you would rather PM me than post here, feel free.

If you feel the need to flame me for being a girly man, pussy-whipped wuss, I will gladly accept that, as long as I get some "real" feedback as well.

Have A Great Day and if you have a session...A Great Lay As Well!

Terrev



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what you remember after overthinking it.  Glad you had such a great time.

Good luck

Maybe just wait a week or even a month, and then write the review when you are a bit more grounded.  But you should submit the review -- it is the fair thing to the provider.

If you think of it as reviewing the experience then the experience stands on its own and can be reviewed on its own and fresher is better.

If you think of it as reviewing the provider then you may wish to repeat the experience (sounds like a not too hard a thing to do at this point) so you can be more "objective".

Now have you ever reviewed anyone on the basis of a single experience? If so why not now?

It's not a girly thing at all IMO. Your question is about the integrity of the review process and making up your own mind about what you want to do.

I'm glad to hear it went so well.

I want to read all those juicy details

Put pen in hand and start writing.

Ooops! we don't use a pen anymore.

Well you get the picture and so will everyone else. This was a very special meeting for you and you chose a very special lady. Finalize your encounter and don't forget any of those juicy details.

Every review a lady gets is different and the difference is the gentleman who writes it. There's only one #60 review so don't pass this one by.

One of your many fans Terrev

Kisses Haley

Hey Terrev  

I've had pretty much the same thing happen. I've now seen the lady a second time and it was _better_.  I asked her if she would want a review, and told her that there is no way I could really capture the essence of the experience. She said that she did want the review, even though she's getting ready to go UTR. So, I am writing it and will post it. In fairness to the readers, I began the review talking about the effect the lady had on me - for others, she may be a case of YMMV - so I thought this only fair. But she'll be getting 10s in the review, and since the review is a product of my experience with the lady, I stand behind it fully.  Write your review!  Cheers - Gregory

I agree you connected with this woman your review would be honest. How in any way could that not be fair? Or objective to her.Glad you had a great day.

So, get to the important stuff, Terrev. I know you are keeping track, so is this going to be #22? Will you extend your gloating record?

You need to keep your priorities and stuff straight, right?

Joking aside, write it up!

If it is what you feel, write it. You are no 1st-review newbie. Certainly you know when something stands out as exceptional. It it moved you that much, as it must have considering your post, just let it out. If it feels good and isn't unsafe, just do it! Isn't that the whole point of all this?

If it is insanely gushy and mushy, so what? Just as you have ignored reviews that are out of the bell curve for a certain lady, other guys can to if they want.

I'm glad you had such an existentially great time! That is awesome. Can't wait to read the review.

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...I have reviewed her twice and if she ever comes out of retirement I will do it again. I have never regretted the reviews though I was embarrassed to have her read them in front of me when she asked to see them...She was very appreciative and I was glad I held nothing back about how it felt to be with her.

I do understand the thoughts that are going through your head but I think that NOW is actually the best time to write the review.  My only word of caution would be to write it and read it a few times before you click send. Try not to be overly verbose. Longer reviews tend to not get read a lot of the time. I made this mistake the second time I reviewed my fav and TER was kind enough to let me go back and shorten it a bit before it went up.

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Reading your post made me realize how few providers make that type of connection and it may be a YMMV situation. IN my reviews you will find one that I saw  FOUR years ago. Now if you asked me to list of the names of the providers I have seen (of which I have only reviewed a few) I could not tell you their names but for a few. This one, out of state for me was one of the best, and these many years later, I remember our encounter as if it was a high school sweetheart with great affection. Everything just felt right. As I live so very far away from her, I doubt I will see her again (although I did recently check and was delighted to see her website was up and she is still reviewed) but who knows? Write the review for her and the TER community? You found the one in a thousand.

Re: I want to read all those juicy details

I suggest writing the review. seems you had a wonderful so why not share it with us ? It helps other Gentlemen make a decision is visiting with her and give us Ladies insight on what pleases you. Don't read into that, I am sure you know what I am trying to say.
I personally say write the review Now !!
I am happy to read you had such a wonderful experience and I am sure she will appreciate your honest review, even if she has many others.
As for being girlie...there is nothing wrong with feeling this excited after a visit with someone who rocked your world.

I've seen more than 65 providers over the last 10 years, most more than one time.  Even though I like and appreciate the comfort that familiarity with one another brings, I know that I have connected in a real way with only 5 of these special people.  There have been many YMMV experiences, where much more was given than was on the menu, but these are not the women with whom the deepest connection has been made.  So, after a long reply, I do believe that instant connections can be made, because it has happened with me.  I know on the first meeting that something may come of this, and appreciate the warming and slow relaxation of each others defenses that leads to a close and personal connection.

Write the review now in Word, and then save it for a week.

Go back in a week and see if it still seems like the right thing to do.

If so, cut, paste and send.

On the other hand, you may feel that you might want to tone in down a bit, and that's your call and no one else's.

Ain't life grand when you find someone like that?

Just don't cut and paste what you wrote here.

Does she have many 10 for performance? Sounds like she earned a 20 with you.

Great thoughts BG about the length of reviews, sometimes LESS is really better.

Jim

We get reviews with all these juicey very explicit details and nothing more...

A few days ago i replied to a thread about the hobbying and what guys/girls have gotten from it...

I had stated that i have had experiences that were wonderfully where my guy and i connected on such a deeper more intimate level.

Those times should be shared also because it shows that we are human beings...not just mechanical robots. And if you felt that way i'm sure it wasnt "just an act".

There was a unique connection and you should absolutely share that!!!

Go for it darlin! And kudos to the lady you had this wonderful experience with!

hugs and kisses

Alena aka Mea

Terrev, Isn't this why we are all here? Write the review now in all of it's GLORY as briefly as possible. I LOVE the days after a successful encounter that just leaves you in that warm, wonderful glow, that seems to go on FOREVER! Oh, how I love the hobby!

Jim

Girrrly...Girrrl Terrev...hahaha...JUST KIDDING !

Glad you had such a great time! Not everyone connects as you and she did!  Write the review..NOW!  AND...DAMN IT Go back and see her!! Happy Hobbying that's what its all about Terrev!!

The little quip aside, why wait?
If you finally happened to have that true one in a lifetime experience, you should not wait.
In addition, the provider deserves the credit. This should be more about her, then yourself.

I like to get to writing a review of someone who has moved me like that in the first twenty four hours. I've even written a few and not posted them just for the sake of going back and reliving the moment myself.
Isn't it awesome when you connect with a provider like that?
It's like winning the lottery

But if it was something special other than, karma, the planets were aligned, you were needy at the time, whatever...write the review.

Just know that ALL of us in life can come to a place in time where anyone can light our fire. Even experienced know it all, been there, done that and have the t-shirt hobbyists who have seen one hundred women who the hottest, hardest bodies on the planet are vulnerable.

Think about this for a few more days and THEN write the review.

I wish all those guys who told me I was the most beautiful, the sexiest, the hottest woman on the face of the planet while we were in the clinches had written that review right after our encounter. I'd have all 10/10's.  Times changes your perspective.

Just my two cent worth.
Anneke

What a wonderful experience for you!  Many times people click and enjoy themselves.  Rarely do people connect to the point where they feel like they have known each other for a long time, been together before, became totally immersed in each other.  The whole premise of this hobby is to find that GFE, if only for an hour or two.  Most times a slight variation is found.  You, my friend, have struck gold.  Share your experience with the common folk. Show the newbies how great the hobby can be.  I don't think it sets the bar too high for the lady.  Just the opposite. It shows that she REALLY cares and gives it her all.

Besides, won't it be nice to look back in a few months to relive the date?

Kari~~

I mean, sessions like that are unrepeatable. You can't expect every client she sees to have that connection.

The only time you should feel obligated to review is if it's a rip off. Then you should warn people.

Well said Anneke... I agree time does change one's perspective. We are all vulnerable and anyone at any time can light our fire. I enjoyed reading your response. Good advice!!!! Thank you.

We girls love our reviews! If you really enjoyed a particular session then you should say so. The best way you can help out a provider who gave you her all, is to write a nice review.
If you got ripped off by all means report that too!
Before this board and a few others out there, I used to get stories from my clients about how they've been ripped off in the past.
Those stories have become fewer and less frequent. Thanks to boards like this one!
Write your lovely lady a review. She deserves it.

in you post.  
"this incredible lady, who already has tons of great reviews"

If she has tons of them, she doesn't need your review.

She'd probably appreciate it, but her reviews are speaking for themselves.

Absolutely, yes write the review. I'm feeling the exact same thing right now, and mine wasn't yesterday. It was last Friday. I hope that feeling hangs on for you. I know it has for me. There's nothing like being made to feel that special.

If you read my reviews, you probably would not know who I am speaking of... but if you read my posts.... you will probably be able to pick out one, and maybe two of them....

I know another gent who felt that he had found his "special lady" through this hobby... sadly - it was short lived.... as she died... I would only offer that as life is all too short, and these genuine feelings are all too rare, you should enjoy both the feeling and the fact that you have been graced by it.

But what do I know, and in fact sir, I knew Mr. Fisher, I was a friend of Mr. Fisher and sir, I am NO mr. Fisher! Bwahahahaha....

Write the review, you've been here a long time.... you can do it as I have found you to be a fair and objective dude....  For while she may be somewhat embarassed by your adoration, she should be aware of it - Even if the feeling is not mutual, she needs to know and she needs to know that you can in fact, handle it.

There are times that Mr. Fisher feels more like Mr. Pischer.  (His evil twin.)

you were able to meet up with her and while I would love  a review explaining how in tune I was with you, she might not. Some ladies don't like reviews so I would email her and ask her what SHE wants.

I am glad you were able to have this experience and share it. It let's us all know that what we do is appreciated .

if your in confict of how, when and if you should write a review for her then myabe you need to ask her how she feels about it.

Hi Anneke

I agree that there is something intangible going on when we have these experiences. I've just had one as well after 36 years of "hobbying" (a term I detest but useful shorthand). I recognize that another's mileage may vary, and have tried to make it clear in my review of the lady in question that I was simply struck by her at the time. God it was awesome! Actually the second time eleven days later was just as good. She's getting a 10/9 and I stand by it. I might feel differently down the road but right now that is the reality, and I think the lady deserves for the review to reflect this, even if it is a case of the intangibles at work.  Cheers - Gregory

Hi Terrev,  I've had the same type of experience with the lady who is the subject of my 20th review. The review is posted. I did rate her a 10 for appearance which includes the intangible and subjective effect she had on me, and a 9 for performance. When I look at her reviews overall, these marks are not at all out of line. She has many many 9s for both appearance and performance.
So - write your review and please let us know when it's posted.... Cheers Gregory

So what ! if you don't feel like "this" next week.
You feel like it now.
The experience was one in a life time ( it sounds like) -Post it.