Your money, your time. If you don't want to do it just don't.  There is no need for any sort of explanation.  She is not paying you tp please her, it's the other way around...

Posted by EdrienneCole, 1/3/2011 6:49:29 PM
"I cannot think of why it would ever be necessary to say "I don't like X and it's about me, not you"."

 Most of them need to be walked.

....don't contribute to TER.

Hey Ladies of TER, question for you...

If a guy, like me, really isn't into Dining At The Y with providers, how and when would you like to be told?  I'm guessing it could be a sensitive subject, and I certainly don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

I'd like the provider to know that it's not her, but me.  I'd like her to know that I'm just not that into it, even with civies.

Thanks!

JoeBagODonuts

Not all of us are alike. DATY. is not for everyone. Please do not assume that we all love it.
I suppose I am one of the few. I do love giving to you but if you are looking to please me that is not
where you want to be..

So, On that note. who says you have to announce  to her in that momment that that is not your thing? You are there for your pleasure and hers. It should never be expected on one side or the other. Ya know if she asks for the pleasusre you could say to her" I would rather do X or can you do Y instead" She is there not just for her pleasure but yours as well.

I am often asked about a favorite 69 position. Just not my thing. sorry but we can do X.

It's really only a big deal if you make it a big deal...

There's no need for it.  The lady should either ask you (once everyone one is comfortable with the flow of things) what you enjoy, or should be able to follow your cues.  I imagine it would be hard for DATY to enter the picture if you are directing the action and respectfully/gently asking for the things you do enjoy.

I cannot think of why it would ever be necessary to say "I don't like X and it's about me, not you".

.... but without putting too fine a point on mine, I think you're over thinking things.  While it's always nice if we enjoy our time with you, I believe we all understand that it's *your* enjoyment that matters.  I know for myself, were someone to do as you have described there might be a fleeting sense of "Well, that was unusual", but since I know I never go into a date anything less than sparkling clean the thought would last about .2 seconds.   Girls do have a sense of smell themselves and tend to be hypervigilant about their personal odors.  If it's a concern, it takes all of 2 seconds to discreetly check ourselves (if that hadn't been done prior to your arrival) to make sure it wasn't *our* issue.  Once confirmed that it's *your* issue, then I'd have a bit of concern about emotional stability in a lady who still obsessed over why you didn't do X.

Relax, stop over thinking and enjoy!

My point comes from the other direction.  A provider who doesn't like DATY.  Of course, no one can make you like it, but isn't that a big part of GFE?  I know it is for me and it's something I feel I should know about in advance because it might cause me to not have a session with that provider.  If I get to a session and find out it's not on the menu, I'd be disappointed and it would kind of let the air out of the whole experience for me.  I have a feeling that's true for many of us.  Of course, if you carefully read a TER review, that's one of the items on the checklist, so in most cases the problem wouldn't come up.  And, as I said, if the rest of the package was attractive enough to me, I might overlook it and book anyway.  But I wouldn't want to find out at the session itself.

read the reviews so you will know if she is into it or not. And no I don't mean the check list where it says lick pussy, I mean read the reviews and see if the lady really enjoys DATY. I agree I would not book a lady that did not enjoy DATY and I have encountered women that don't, both in the civie and P4P world. Ahhh the differences; it what makes us all beautiful in someone eyes and all things possible.

Just don't do it!  I don't expect anyone to do anything they do not want to do.  The focus is completely on the client when I am providing services, and anything else is just "icing on the cake."  What I do NOT care for is when a client suggests I should donate or tip him for pleasuring ME!  lol!  I certainly didn't force him to do anything he wasn't willing to do.  Some guys really enjoy pleasuring a woman, and that is the way they enjoy expressing that.  They get off on turning a woman on, and there are certainly other ways to do just that. To each their own and most providers will not question why someone did or did not want to perform DATY.  

I personally believe you do not have to say a word about it.

You don't have to be offensive about it by saying
"sorry, I don't go down on pros"-

Just don't make a motion to do it.

Personally I love clients who aren't obsessed with trying to force me to orgasm through DATY.

Its enjoyable...but its not the focus of my sessions save for with a handful of guests whose techniques (and the comfort level or mutual attraction we share) can make me reach real orgasms.


I think a lot of clients feel obligated to even when they'd prefer not to but your time with a provider is about you and your interest.  

Reviews are handy in that you can find providers who truly share your interests...so you should be reading between the lines to find providers who are truly "givers" and not preoccupied with pleasuring themselves.

don't you know that?? if you pay them to watch tv with you for an hour and not have physical interaction they are even happier..girls are paid to be with you what you do or don't doesn't matter.