There was a thread on married people in the hobby. Not married myself but wondering if the alias one uses extends to the the session. In other words, do you wear your wedding ring during the session? Speak about your marriage during the session? Or, are you completely undercover pretending you are unattached and assuming a totally different identity when hobbying?
Bet it would be interesting that in the hour you can be anyone you desire, lol! Road Trip: "It's never cheating when you are in different area codes not to mention different states!"
You have an open marriage
I do take great care to adopt a different persona which is much more subdued than CDL is in hopes that the providers I see will not guess I'm CDL. So far, it's working very well.
Of the many married friends I have who are into seeing providers, overwhelmingly, they participate in this activity while going to great lengths to shield it from their spouses. Most develop a "system" they use consistently so that they don't screw up on any details that may arouse suspicions. Some systems are very inventive and clever.
I believe that cheating is cheating, irrespective of location.
I do wear my ring, and I’ve discussed my marriage with providers I get to know over multiple sessions if they want to hear about it. Providers see lots of married clients, so my wearing a ring isn’t going to bother them.
I don’t see any reason to be anyone other than myself with providers, albeit I am “undercover” in the sense that I don’t share my real identity (except in a few rare cases where I’ve gotten to know the provider very well, including her real identity). And also undercover in the sense that a cover is used. 😉
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Lol I was gonna say the same thing re: the "road trip" concept. And here I thought most of my clients were cheating lol
Escorts bang the fat, ugly and old. Do you really think she cares if you're married, as long as you pay the bill.
I'm recently retired, but my career involved machines and electricity, so wearing a ring was a risk, and therefore my ring eventually ended up rather permanently in the drawer and never worn. However I would have worn it to sessions. Providers may or may not care, but unlikely to kick you out because of it.
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I did dig out my ring for a BDSM photoshoot I did with a sugar babe recently. I took a pic of her sucking my ring finger.
I fit in the category mentioned by CDL, where I go to great lengths to obscure my activities from my SO.
And, like Lester, for reasons other than hobbying, I had stopped wearing my ring some time ago.
That said, when asked (which has only happened twice), I won't lie. But, I assume that providers are like most women. They don't want to hear about other women in your life, while you are with them. Particularly, when you are with them intimately. So, I don't volunteer the information.
I would think that most providers would assume that most of their clients are married.
I can only remember one time when a provider asked me my marital status - it seemed as though she was concerned about the potential of a client falling in love with her or wanting to date her.
I had one lady tell me that she gets turned on more with married clients knowing that they want her more than their wives.
was posted once by Kitty. I could be wrong. It might have been someone else.
The providers I have known over the years estimate their clients that are married to be around 80-85%.
