ok this one for the  (three) ladies here on TER  ...   i wonder why some women actually get excited to be called ,  whore slut bitch tramp etc  during the heat of passion.    more than one i have been either encouraged to or might have blurted out something less nasty and realized the nastier the more she liked it.    

According to certain reviews, some of the guys get excited to be called "whore slut bitch tramp" too.  

Some of them deserve these labels. lol

First and foremost if you honestly have to ask why or how some may find that exciting or  arousing, then you probably won't get what I'm saying here but what the hell I'll give it a shot.

These terms all relate to the native enjoyment of sexuality, albeit in a coarse manner, but let's face it, sex, enjoyed properly, is coarse, so why not just surrender to these native urges in the most palpable way?

It really depends on the individual.  Some are really into submission.   Some find it insulting.  You gotta feel out the situation first.  Definitely do it if they like it.  It really enhances the experience if you like being dominant.  

But that's just me.  

It's not my style to yell shit like that.When I want to indulge my dominance side, there's other ways, it's not calling a woman a Bitch, Whore or whatever. It just ain't me,I'm just not wired that way..but to each his own.

I am not even good at "dirty talk" The few times I have tried it (at the woman's request of course) I burst out laughing and had to gather myself before even being able to fuck.

You are such a teddy bear GaGa

I have had GF's try to do "phone sex" with me, and I can't do that either, I go into a gigglefest before I get ten seconds into it. lol

is not for everyone.  Even some professional actors get into laughing fits and can't say their lines, even if the part is serious.  
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Role play is make-believe.  It can elicit the same vicarious emotions one might feel watching movie.

As I can’t talk dirty. Not my comfort zone. I feel stupid role playing which I would love to do but just can’t. And spanking same as above I spank and talk dirty that’s then a laugh track happening.  

I don't like dirty talk, or humiliation talk, giving or taking.  
I very much enjoy sexy talk.  
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To me there's a difference.  The words in the original question are social-stigma attack words.  References to excrement fall in the same emotional category for me.  Both kinds just make me feel disgusted.  
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On the other hand, being called a big hairy fucker is in the good sexy-talk category, as is appreciating a lady as a superb cocksucker, as is a simple "fuck me".  When those and the like happen, it feels good.  
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Anybody else have two very different categories like this?

"naked face time",  It can be pretty raunchy with a girl that has a slutty side.  I've done it with most of my Korean girlfriends.  

You're really gonna have to stop giving me a hard on when I read your posts. Wow...

I dislike labeling people or naming them., and do so only by exception.  We are each individuals, although I am guilty of calling someone crazy once and a while.  

The same vein for a lot of folks it feels good on a chemical level to do something that a good chunk of polite society says you're not supposed to do. It can also feel good/sexy to get called a "bad" word too.

It's gold.  Some of my favorite gals like to be used like a filthy whore.  

yes i understand your categories and feel the same way.     statements like  dont stop, you are amazing,  fuck me harder,  your pussy is so fucking fine.     are certainly different then the whore, tramp ones.    

It's fun as role play.  Some are comfortable that you don't really mean it.  I don't know about the other kind, since I am not that person.

the "filthy" is in name only.  They all shower and practice good hygiene.

Oh yeah for sure