do you believe there is a possibility for happy ever after with a monger/provider or shall i say ex-monger/ex-provider??

It's harder though, but possible. My honest opinion is that you have to be prepared for him to ask you at some point to give up escorting. Id u meet him while providing and then you move to civvie dating. It's hard for sure. But I would never waive someone out for the possibility of real love just because the circumstances in which I met that person.  

is something to be expected if not hoped for. Best of luck

If you are both serious about leaving the hobby it's possible.

I think that anything is possible as long as the monger accept that the provider job as it is,just a job,and of course he will have to be in love with her to accept that.

i am flattered  

And having both parties involved in the hobby doesn't make it any easier.  

i'm flattered, but i insist we go dutch!

i prefer guys with smaller dicks,sorry

Clever banter!  Haha!!!!

thank you

Just seems like a lot of drama. Also temptation/trust issues of the other person still going back to old ways....

I'll speak for myself.  We dated, got engaged and were in the midst of planning on the big day.  Nothing fancy, just immediate family and a few friends.

I dated a provider once who I'd seen a number of times in her professional capacity.  It was an intense affair, but didn't last - not because of the provider history but because of our life situations.  I still wonder what ever happened to her, and one of my biggest regrets in life is not having been able to keep in touch with her.

As clients we are conditioned from the start to NEVER utter the word "love"  and we are taught that
Providers will stop seeing us if we show any signs of "unprofessional behavior"

Pros:
-Unlike with most civvie dates, you'd already know if he has bedsmarts or not at the start.
-He already knows the most scandalous thing about you (I assume ) and vice versa.
-You'll both understand each other's ambivalent feelings about this addictive world.  
-The pendulum arcs are wider in here: the assholes get on nerves you didn't even know existed, but the good hobbyists are astounding.

an even playing field to me.  Who can find fault with whom?  If there was a possibility of that becoming an obstacle.

a friend. I could only wish you the best. You're an amazing young woman. You didn't ask for advice (lol) so I'll answer. Yes I do.

But hey anything is possible. I just can't imagine it being without major pressure to stop providing, maybe not  immediately. I can just see all of the issues and insecurities...  

Which is a whole 2 attempts. Well, 2 1/2 if you count my most recent debacle (won't go in to that here) ...

fold it in half!

i am not retiring...why everybody is saying goodbyes to me lol  
nor did i find mutual love

girl, you said it)

somebody actually proposes to me in an old-fashioned manner and  puts a big diamond ring on my finger and asks me to sign a prenup lol ...

ll of what you're saying is true.

Sometimes that gets boring. Not only for ex-providers and ex-clients, but for ordinary knights and princesses. Then they become the clients and providers yet to come.

I'm dating a provider I'm seeing. So far it's still great.

I don't believe just one woman can make a man happy.
Also if a person does go down the road of having a relationship.
Just set the terms of what each person wants out of it and enjoy yourselves with no regrets.

This is sort of what I was trying to get at.. If you guys have both met at an apt and its worth it for both of you to try to be " together" il say 90% if the time, its probably cause its percieved to be even harder to find love with a "civie".. Even subconsciously. It implies that your self confidence is pretty low.  

She was very popular.. she stopped almost two years ago.. she hated it..

+1.  Everyone deserves happiness!

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a friend. I could only wish you the best. You're an amazing young woman. You didn't ask for advice (lol) so I'll answer. Yes I do.  
   
 Are you trying to tell me something ...

but I started dating a provider, it worked out, we got married, and the story continues.

...but if you're willing to indulge some type of open arrangement with agreed-upon parameters, then YES! Keep in mind that a lot of customers are here because, for various reasons, the sex dried up at home.  

Yes it is possible.  However it is going to take the right person and the right level of maturity/security.  There was a time in my life I would not have been able to date a provider.  Now I would have no problem with it.  If I met the right person and we clicked.

and has a passel of kids.  

Wow, you really don't give yourself much credit do you?

It's all about chemistry, really. You either have it or you don't.

is a long ass time.

The hobby isn't partly based on lie. It's all lies. Your provider persona is not the real you regardless of how many times a client repeats.  

irst off, no. Not married. Sorry. Not me.

Agreed.  In my case, having been unsuccessfully married once, I now realize that human beings are polyamorous (whether our culture will admit it or not).  From here on out, I will never be a one-woman sort of man.  I know that there are women out there who understand this concept, and I'm pretty sure that the provider world has a higher percentage of these kinds of women.  So, while I'm not expecting anything but great sex from the ladies, I'm always open-minded, in case opportunity knocks.  With the right mindset, a provider and client could very well become a happy, polyamorous couple.

I am glad you are not retiring. , I may have a trip to Boston later this year!

Maybe the hobby would be a more honest place.

I had a provider who wanted to date me, but I didn't feel the same and it ended badly.  On the other hand, since my divorce I have been with a few providers and a SB who I could imagine dating, but never acted on it.  Its a delicate situation with many factors involved.  I could see myself dating the right provider and if it got serious, I would commit myself to providing financially for her for selfish reasons.  I was in a committed marriage for over 10 years before partaking in the hobby and can do it again for the right woman, regardless if she is a civie or provider.

Wow what a great attitude and perspective.  Julia will you marry me??

I've dated hookers, both active and retired, and I have no problems being faithful when in a committed relationship.  

A John who has either a wife or a GF and is still seeing hookers has proven himself to be a cheater and the "burden of proof" most definitely falls on his shoulders, not hers.

When you have two people.

The tricky part is the "ever after" proposed by Octavia. Hell, I've even had instances of being faithfully monogamous as a client to a hooker because I had no desire to see anyone else. Tell me how you feel about monogamy after fucking the same person for 10..20..30 years. (Granted, it's a spectrum/bell curve - sure you can find examples of couples that manage to stay happily sexually exclusive over the long term, but I'm making a general statement here).

When I am in a "real" relationship with a hooker, she is giving me for free what she charges all those other men quite a hefty fee.  

Is it more likely that a man or woman who had already been with hundreds or thousands of other people might be "ready" to be monogamous than two high school kids who got married to the person who broke their cherry and who never got a chance to "sow their oats"? I don't know, but a case could certainly be made.

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Go back and read the part where I alluded to my expectations probably being best suited to civilian existence.

My "number" is also well into the thousands. I 100% agree with your point.

looking forward)

but the one thing I am NOT is a hypocrite. Nor do I look down on the women who do this for a living.  

Do they have a special type of cleaner for that?

The ladies who do this get to be with a lot of married men and what is probably the number one complaint?   Life in the sack gets really boring or it becomes non-existent.    I would think that when you have a relationship between two people who have engaged in this little adventure of ours, there would be more open communication and awareness about how important sex is to keeping a relationship in good working order.  I would think that would be a huge positive factor.  

I am not sure if I agree about the BSU's who refer to you as Goddesses having ever been able to get laid in the real world, but I will agree it's still away to dehumanize you "broads". lol

I think a lot of times if I was the "second" in line, I'd always be compared to the first.

Not all Johns are cheating on someone.  

rom my angle though, I'm not asking for the fucking world.

it's easy money.  I am a bit jaded.

There is always therapy for that kind of problem, not to mention Mr. Hitachi.   Even with that specific situation, I think that there is a bit of an advantage for the former participants in the hobby, because I think those of us who partake in this are more likely to be a bit more open minded.    For example, one lady had the fucking cojones to ask me what I would think if my W put the horns on me, and my answer, though purely theoretical, I think anyway, is that I would not mind it if she still loved me and it was not a question of her no longer being attracted to me.    Bottom line, I think these kind of sexual issues are more likely to be resolved to everybody's satisfaction between a john and a provider.    Notice, I am just talking likelihoods.

passel of kids...lol

it is not easy money...it is high risk, high return....it just seems easy at the first glance...but thank you

Ok, for the record that chocolate dick has nothing to do with me, as there is no "inlet" at the "outlet".

Some women are able to turn their back on it and never look back without any issues at all. I know many of these women who while they don't regret having done this for a living, certainly don't miss it even a little bit

and then I see another review pop up.

I hope this helps a little:

That's a decision he makes for himself. The same with women.  You have no bearing on it.

I think it is certainly possible, for the right guy and gal. There definitely seems to be some guys on here who are looking for more than sex. They may not even realize it themselves, but you can see it in their posts. I think it really comes down to respect.

Glad to know that I have a following on here

I truly believe that is possible with the right  chemistry and commitment

amazing article really