So i've noticed on some boards that members want a list of those who bbfs to cross them off their list. I get that people are grossed out by the offering,but i wonder if this extends only to this hobby or next do you think peoppe will want to know whos bbfs-ing their husband (who may be cheating and bbfs-ing with the nanny) or bbfs-ing civies on the weeknd?
It seems people are only passionate about bbfs in the industry...what about outside of it? What's the difference to u to not see ladies who bbfs clients but bbfs outside partners?
I jus thought it was contradictory and wanted to hear ur thoughts.

95 percent of those who want a list is so they know who to run to and not stay away from
what they say on a board is different than how they feel inside or how they act
theres even a yahoo group for it started by a former mod
its everywhere

that the person we are with is having it with someone. You hit the nail on the head girl. MANY mongers and providers are also swingers and in open relationships, have sugar daddies, etc. and MANY don't use protection...of course, some do though.

WE are responsible for protecting ourselves, because assuming someone else is going to always be honest, is very naive.

As in the opposite of "professional hobbyists"....or as I prefer to call them...whoremongers  

Yeah...always assume that your favorite hooker or john is fucking someone BBFS.  Not each other per se (although that seems to happen with regularity in some circles)...but their SO's and BF/GF.

Heck...even those johnnie boys that are seeing other wordly hookers     And we know they are really clients  LOL    And would never put their favorite hooker at risk!  SMH

It's better left to be discussed behind the scenes via PM or email, not on a public board.

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See an old hooker friend of mine 20 years later
Getting off on reviews  LOL
Derogatory words
Gimme strength

And this is only regular Jeopardy.

I can hardly wait till we get to Double Jeopardy!

So any other questions on "stupid discussions".

"Ill take derogatory words for 200 Alex"  LOL   Answer:  "What is a hooker"

BBFS is a hobby related term.  It means fucking someone for money without a condom.  

It does not mean having sex without a condom.  That's simply called barebacking, or fucking without a condom, or a million other possibilities.

You don't have BBFS with your wife.  You have sex with her.

Your wife doesn't have BBFS with her boyfriend, unless he's paying for it.  

Concern about STD's is directly related to how sexually active you think your partner is.  Obviously, most of the time a civilian is much less active than a professional.  While professionals may be much more cautious (ie using condoms and getting tested regularly) we still tend to be less concerned about a civilian who would probably have many fewer partners than an escort.  Obviously, there are plenty of civilians out there with extremely active sex lives, but generally speaking, they don't compare in volume to members of this community.

As a general observation, just about everyone wants to fuck without a condom and they want the person whom they are fucking to only do that with them.  This is true inside and outside the hobby or the industry as you call it.  

But we all know that's a ridiculous pipe dream in the hobby, so most people settle for wearing condoms and that's that.

What kind of a freak would marry a woman and fuck her while wearing a condom? This sounds just crazy in my opinion. If you suspect she is cheating, you should not marry her or you should file for divorce. Simple answer.

I have had many long-term civie relationships and have never used a condom with them. I have only used condoms with civies that were one night stands or have known them to be sluts and fucked the whole baseball team of my friends upfront.

I have some friends in Mexico that are in their 40s and claim to have never used a condom in their life since they do not want to lose any pleasure during sex.

Condoms are not the norm in a relationship!

during a time period and would have more. Even though I was slutty, I've had more sex partners (clients) as a sex provider. So you're right about the increase in partners.

Possibility of monogamy? That's funny. Not one person I know hasn't cheated at least once on their partner. this is for the male and female friends I know, family, etc. We can only hope our partner is monogamous, or the men here can only hope the husband of the provider he's booking isn't doing everything in sight w/o a condom. I've had friends who have gotten STDs from their "monogamous" relationships or their husband got the mistress pregnant. priceless

I get your reasons as the difference. I just think it's interesting that some people think it's a right to this community to inform them with a list, but not a list of those who bb(sex) outside of here.

Did you actually just refer to any woman as a slut???  

You who has admitted to sleeping with women around the world without condoms because your doctor friend says it's ok?  

I've never worked as a provider but have certainly never been shy about indulging my erotic side. And I am willing to bet that the majority of MEN on this board have still had many more partners than I have.  Including yourself.

So why is it that a woman with a healthy sex life is a "slut"?  Because none of us will give it to you for free.  You will always have to pay for it.

And guess what?  Someone had to finish last in med-school.  I guess that dip-shit of a friend of yours falls in that category.  

Piss off.  

You are a strange person to have that kind of relationship where a couple uses a condom.

Even the providers admit to having bbfs with their boyfriends.

You are freaky!

so i get what you're saying.


and yea i'm freaky in some ways

I have had so much free sex when I was younger since I was very athleltic and had a good personality.

There was always the opportunity to have sex with "loose" women that felt that the only way of attracting a man's attention was to provide sexual favors. Me and my buddies would "tag team" these girls and pull a train on her. We all got what we wanted. The guys got their rocks off while the girl got the attention of the guys while their dicks were still hard.

My nephews do the same with slutty woman and some things never change.

Sorry about the realism here.

You, your friends and family members are no better than the women you have slept with.  That's what's annoying about your post.  You putting yourself in an exalted position above ANY woman.    

I never judge any man or woman by their sexual numbers.  I do judge based on stupid behavior. Like BBFS.  Now who does that around here?

needs to be ignored. His only purpose is to get everyone riled up.

So what you're telling us now is that you're old, a couch potato, and you personality has gone to shit!

Aren't you supposed to be getting married soon?

Amazing that your reviews are even at the 7/7 level.

You seem to be dumber than a box of rocks!

I can't believe she's left this 1 alone. The rampant stupidity on this board is been amazing lately.  frustrating at A near epic level. And I know wonders is 1 of her favorites

PM if you need more explanation  LOL

There's no difference between client and civvie BBFS dangers but there is a difference as long as she's BBFS with ONLY one partner. The way I see it, the more someone is doing this, the more likely they're going to pass along an STD. The reason BBFS is an outcast in the hobby is because of the sheer number of clients a girl sees as opposed to her one SO. Unlike the porn industry, there's no way of keeping track of who's being tested and how often but even in the porn industry, it's dangerous between tests. It's no less scary with guys who go looking for BBFS providers.

We all do this knowing we're not completely safe but the odds of getting an STD are greatly reduced if we're playing safe. Providers openly offering BBFS are dangerous as are johns actively seeking it. All I care about is which providers to avoid.

people are going to ask for a list of ladies who bb here, then shouldn't there be a list for those who bb in general?

it's supposed to sound stupid to make a point that asking for a list of those who bb clients is ridiculous also.

Hi CPA,

Since you are a fan of Jeopardy, I'm surprised you've got the wording wrong! The answer is not in the form of a question (?)!! That's called the correct response to the answer!! Let's play Final Jeopardy!

The category is, ( Ding*) "The Hobby"! The answer is...(Ding*) these are certain men who resort to calling women in this profession by derogatory names because they are mad @  women  in general.You have thirty seconds, good luck!!! (Cue the music)

The correct response is... What Are Woman Haters? BWAAAAH

That, my friend is how you play Jeopardy

* The sound effect made before the category & answer are given!!

ladies who bb in their personal lives.

the only part i disagree w/ is backchanneling this info, b/c it could start unfounded rumors. it should stay btw client and provider if they do it.

i'm not condoning any behavior, just pointing out the list idea some people want or say it's everyone's biznss to knw, I disagree.
so yep, you're right it's stupid.

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=209127&boardID=2&page=1#209127

"The answer we were looking for is....Professional Hobbyists".

Johnnie boy...what nice parting gifts do we have for Cubbie today?

Oh...a signed Brian Urlacher jersey.  And some fine cookware.

Thanks for playing...and good luck on the rehab.

to avoid them, they want to see them.
thx

and why there would be no need for a list of ladies who dangerously bb freely in their civie life. why would they care if they're not going to bb them here, so only a list of those bb-ing here is what they would want.
thx for sharing. It makes sense now why there's the contradiction.

Hi CPA,

.. for 2nd & 3rd place, respectively!! Then I can make more appts; w these fine ladies of TER!!

So even the losers get paid?

Only in America  LOL

Hi CPA,

Serves him right!!  He pissed off the fans!!  

the ladies who bb clients, but to see them. B/c if they were really interested in public health and avoiding ladies who bb, they would want to know all the ladies who bb here or in civie life.
makes sense, so thx for the discussion.

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