You know there are many ladies, including Providers, who really despise Valentine's Day, and the whole darn thing is depressing.

She can be the most confident and happily single woman every other of the 364 days of the year, but that ONE day just happens to get in her face and make her feel so alone, or lonely, and very much unwanted. I see it and feel it in so many women I've talked to.

So, guys, if you're seeing a lady close to Valentine's Day, just one simple, sweet (NOT expensive) gesture of remembering her can make a huge difference.

And, btw, if guys get affected by this day, too (do you?), then we ladies need to remember that, too.

So, sitting here, not being able to be anybody's Valentine right now, how about if you all just be mine, ok?

Sedona, I dont have just one Valentine, but would you be one of the beautiful petals on my Valentine flower? The honor would be all mine!! And no depression allowed, OK? Have a wonderful day, despite the holiday, and thanks for the insight!

Sedona i have never met you but i hope that you have a wonderful valentines day even if you dont get even one flower or call. I hope that your surgery went well and you got done what you needed --mouth

I will gladly be your Valentine. xoxo

I just got off the phone with my ATF before hopping on the Net for a little bit. We talked a little bit about this very thing: being everyone's Valentine and yet no one's Valentine at the same time, being lonely, etc. Unfortunately, she won't be anywhere close to me this weekend.

My simple gesture? I told her that I hoped she had someone of consequence to spend the day with and that I'd be thinking about her. That even though she might be alone in body, she wouldn't be alone in spirit.

And although the above may sound nice, it doesn't hold a candle to having her fall asleep next to me, her head on my shoulder. My fingers run through her hair and trace the line of her jaw, collarbone, arm, and fingers while her warm breath gently blows in my ear.

Excuse me, I'd continue but I suddenly realized I have a plane to catch.

What a lovely thought!

As it happens, many of us guys DO get affected by Valentine's Day.  This year, I'm doing something about it.

Here are a few ideas:
Write her a poem.
Write her a song, then sing it to her.
Write her a creatively romantic letter.
Give her a red ribbon with instructions that you want her to wear ONLY that when you see her next.
Take the spinner from an old board game and relabel it with fun ideas (not necessarily erotic) or fantasies, then give it a spin whenever you're together.
Make her a compilation CD of romantic music that reminds you of her.


Yoda

Yes, guys are (or can be) affected by not only this holiday, but many other times when surrounded by nothing but couples. It's troubled me at certan times, but this year I am voluntarily single and like it that way for now.

best regards everyone (and a big, wet kiss on the lips to Sedona), mr.man

PS you pick which lips

because it's such a "forced" holiday.  Think about it, if you do the whole dinner thing, gift, hotel room possibly, then that's the absolute least you have to do.  

Try to do any of these things on a regular March or July day and it's 1,000 times more romantic.

Sedona, you are not alone with your feelings, so hopefully knowing this will help brighten things up, even if it's just a teeny-tiny bit.

Placebo

Maybe I'm one of the few women in America to feel this way, but I think Valentine's Day is over-hyped....and I think Hallmark is at the bottom of it, LOL.

I look around and feel sorry for men who are under pressure to get "that special gift" because they've been conditioned by TV, Hallmark (and their wives).

What's wrong with a simple but sincere, "I love you" or, "I'm glad you're in my life" comment. I'd much rather get that than be handed a bunch of material things that were bought hastily on the way home from work.  

So, don't be depressed, Sedona, about one over-commercialized holiday. Know that we all here at TER realize what a loving and giving person you are--that is infinitely more important than a dozen roses.

February 14 is Valentine's Day. Although it is celebrated as a lovers' holiday today, with the giving of candy, flowers, or other gifts between couples in love, it originated in 5th Century Rome as a tribute to St. Valentine, a Catholic bishop.

For eight hundred years prior to the establishment of Valentine's Day, the Romans had practiced a pagan celebration in mid-February commemorating young men's rite of passage to the god Lupercus. The celebration featured a lottery in which young men would draw the names of teenage girls from a box. The girl assigned to each young man in that manner would be his sexual companion during the remaining year.

Hmmmmmm....  I think 'I' prefer today's "Hallmark" version.

Here's a big e-hug for you, Sadona!

Racquel OC

So this year I'm going dancing.

It still bothers me..

In grade school for Valentine's Day, they did "Carnation Day".
(You know, send your friends and the one you have a crush on.)

Anyway, I never got one, EVER. I hated seeing the girls who had arm fulls and NOT me, not even one.

So Sedona, I will be your Valentine. Its one of those holidays where the florists and chocolate makers win, not people who are single.

Cheer up sweetie, because I am sure you are going to get plenty of Valentine Kisses from all of your friends here.

I love you. Shaye

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I, too, feel a little "under the weather" when it's Valentine's Day. If I don't go out, then I don't have to see couples having dinner together or women getting flowers at the office (that was the worst part). I can count of one hand when I've been in a relationship during the month of February and received flowers. Actually, I'd rather receive chocolates. Anyway, just try and remember it's just another day for retailers to make money and it will be over with before you know it. I think a bunch of us ladies should get together and go out for dinner, a movie, or have a slumber party. Anyone else got any suggestions? For the gentlemen on this Board, if you're lonely, here's a big smooch for you --  S M O O T C H and lots of H U G S too!

Hugs (always),
Ciara

My post was more speaking in general about ladies and this holiday, but myself included, also - never been a fan of this day.

I agree with your post entirely, and it's no wonder this day makes so many of the men cringe.

Thanks, dear one.

If I didn't already have plans for Valentine's Day (I don’t have a S.O., but have other plans), I probably would be renting some DVDs, inviting my single girlfriends over, and serving cosmopolitans, finger sandwiches and crudites while we watched movies.  I'd get some romantic movies like Breakfast at Tiffany's, Bull Durham, When Harry Met Sally, and Casablanca and some kick-ass female character movies like Thelma and Louise, The Witches of Eastwick, Terminator 2, and Basic Instinct.  Heh heh.

You are loved.  Hugs to ya, and I wish you a speedy recovery.


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She ruined it. No matter what I did she downplayed it. So now I do nothing. I was very romantic at one time.

...for a lady whom I don't know but for whom a lot of people have respect. Please have a rose @}-->-- and know you're not alone.

Oh Sedona! With the size of your heart How I wish you were my Valintine.
    You know that the day affects me my friend. There are several ladies I wish I could call mine but life just doesn't seem to be written that way for me. Maybe someday I'll find that someone who will make me feel angry about the forced romanticism of this holiday because I've been busy making them feel special the other 364 without commercial prompting.

  Love to us all

  FR.

Sedona, Couldn't resist this one even though several others have already said basically the same thing.  You and the other caring girls on TER deserve your own day.  If not for a previous post, I would have thought that Valentine's Day was a creation of Hallmark et al because it is between Christmas and Easter.
If my memory is correct, isn't May 2nd "Providers Day?"  Hallelujah!!