Quick question for the board. I was arranging a 3 hour rendezvous with a provider next month. We haven't met before. She has stellar reviews although probably less than 10 total. She checked my references and we were good to schedule but she wants a 40% deposit. What would you do?

How does she plan on collecting said deposit?

Your Money-Your Call !  

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I can understand a deposit if you want some girl to travel to you but asking for a deposit of 40% for a date weeks in advance is ridiculous.

I decided to pass - just gave me a bad vibe. Not a big deal - just have never been asked for a deposit before. Ankfield

That's reversible within 30 days. Just make sure she has good reviews and you should be safe.

Amazon, square cash, visa gift cards... If you don't have enough reviews or history (references) a lady may  want to make sure you will not be a NCNS. I sent you a pm as well.

... and to make you no longer a stranger to her. Then I'd book a longer engagement some other time, hopefully now without the deposit. Unless, of course,  she charges a desposit on all long sessions regardless of whether she knows the client or not. Then there is nothing you can do to avoid it.

Though I don't understand why her request for a deposit gave you a funny vibe.  

At least I've never encountered deposit requests for hour meetings, not counting faraway outcalls. I wouldn't take anyone up on it if I had.  

Keep the money in your pocket and move on.

There is no right or wrong way to play between two consenting adults. You'll find a wide range of offerings and policies. It's up to you and your risk profile on whether you choose to play or move on to someone else who you're more comfortable with.  

The booking policy is not on her site.  She mentioned the deposit because I has scheduled so far in advance. I decided to cancel our date.  I told her I would be happy to contact her a few days prior and see if she was available.  I have probably seen about 50 ladies and the only one who requested a deposit travelled to me. I have also reimbursed an atf who arranged an overnight stay at a beachfront hotel at her own expense. I am just leery of sending cash to someone I've never met before.

Without reservation have come to the conclusion that the best response is, "Kiss my Ass."   Others may disagree, especially providers asking for deposits.  Lol

on a YMMV basis.  

Personally, I don't blame you, I too would have passed. Your risk of her no showing after holding 40% of her fee for a month is higher than her risk of you not being there when she shows up a month from now.

You normally only require a deposit if you have to fly or if you have to spend over $200 in travel expenses. This guy was visiting HER town. It was a month in advance. Unless the OP has a history of NCNS he should not be giving her deposits.

Normally I would not book that far in advance but am attending a conference with a pretty fixed schedule. I have had experience with some popular ladies not having any openings 2 weeks ahead. I made a couple other arrangements for that week and no one else asked for a deposit.

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I know about 6 girls off hand who do this. Maybe in your area there aren't many you've encountered, but as a provider myself I know more ladies in more markets and rates than you probably do.  

That's a perfectly valid concern and the better way to go about it if you don't want to send the deposit. That way, she has the time free to schedule others and instead of having the time set aside for you and incurring a loss if you cancel at the last minute.

I think you said you've seen 50 providers. That's plenty of providers to develop your spidey senses. I have never given a deposit and never will.

Kgirl incalls. That's the only place where have a "client number 9" each day.

On her tits.  But sometimes on her ass.

So if you want to toss that in the OP's face...I'll toss it back to you.

As I said, if he refuses, I don't look at it as money lost. I always assume that he wasn't serious or reliable... or, that in some way he wouldn't be respectful of my time or business. Even if I'm mistaken, I'd rather be SURE that he'll show up and be cool, rather than HOPE he's OK, and, say, set aside 1 hour on Friday and HOPE that he shows up.  

I never used to ask for them until I got burned a bunch of times. Perfect example is last wk. I went to Nola, considered taking deposits for prebooking, decided against it. Had an awful personal experience with the trip and wanted to go home early but stayed to keep my committment to a client. He knew damn well that I stayed just for him and then cancelled 3 hrs before a morning appt. In the future I may have to consider deposits when touring.. not set on it but considering it.  

Luckily I have a Biochemistry degree and graduated summa cum laude from a top 20 university. I didn't have to worry about failing a community college course... since I never went! I was fortunate enough to excel in all of my upper level math courses- biostatistics, calculus I and II.  I'm not bragging, just an FYI since you brought it up!

deposits for extended dates, meaning 4-hr. dinner dates or longer. Also a legitimate request for a "fly me to you" type arrangement.

an expert in how this business should be run. Re. deposits, your website states "at my discretion" meaning you don't always require them.

9 months ago. Re. deposits, your website states "at my discretion" meaning you don't always require them.

Paging OTM. Aha.  AHA.  AHA.  Trying to catch my breath here.  WoOOOOOO! You go girl!

Lotsa Cumin My Mouth. Hahahahahahaha

Posted By: priyarainelle

Luckily I have a Biochemistry degree and graduated summa cum laude from a top 20 university. I didn't have to worry about failing a community college course... since I never went! I was fortunate enough to excel in all of my upper level math courses- biostatistics, calculus I and II.  I'm not bragging, just an FYI since you brought it up!  
   
 I'm sorry that you know nothing about operating a business to understand that anytime you have to turn down other business offers for your area of expertise, you are incurring a loss. Admin work is also labor. Time spent working on a project is also labor (in this case, the project being preparation for a date). Most people who are gainfully employed understand that basic premise.  
   
 Whether or not the deposit is collected or not is between the two people making the agreement. Just like with anything else- if you decide not to pay the deposit and the appointed time and date comes where you are looking to spend time with the lady of your choice and she no longer has it, you deal with the consequences of your (in)actions.  
   
 I have no problem attracting clients who know and understand the value of my time (and theirs) and my expertise, and who gladly pay my deposit when they book 4 hours or more with me- as detailed on my site.  
   
 I didn't toss anything in OP's face. In fact, I lauded him for doing the right thing by cancelling the date and waiting until a closer time to schedule with her. The only thing I pointed out to him was that it was myopic to believe that the ladies he has seen represent what should be considered normal or standard for the industry.  
   
 So you and your sensitive, irrational nonsense can carry on

"no different than any other industry that requires you pay a deposit before receiving a service"

No one who graduated summa cum laude with a degree in biochemistry would consider basic calculus an "upper level" math course.

We are all tempted to do some really dumb things from time to time, I take it you were simply seeking validation that you made the right decision, and from me at least, you have it. lol

to see if she knows how to keep her appts.  

What most people consider a "basic calculus class" is usually just pre calc.  I'm not familiar with the requirements of a biochemistry degree but it's completely possible her highest level math requirement was a basic calculus class.  As an engineering major I had to take Calc I, II, and III and then linear algebra and differential equations.  I'd say basic calculus is mid to high level math for most degrees and low level for those with an emphasis on mathematics.

It's just that anyone who graduated summa cum laude in a field like biochemistry would never refer to Calc 1 as "upper level" math, and THAT is why I called BULLSHIT.

Why would you schedule a 3 hour date with a provider you haven't met yet?  She might have stellar reviews, but that doesn't mean you two will hit it off.  If you don't, then it's going to be a very long 3 hour session.  Even if you ended the date early, you may not get some of your money back.  

I'll bet most people who go to MIT are smart enough not to set foot there.  Plus it's an hour away from Cambridge.  Most people just pass it on the Mass Pike.  Also, I doubt anyone has mis-pronounced it "Worchester" since it's spelled Worcester.  The mis-pronunciation most people use is "Wor-SESter."
Better find another analogy, wise guy. LMAO!

I was married to a Portagee from Taunton however, and it was a kick watching the reaction to her accent down in Mississippi where we lived for a year or so.

I never took anything tougher than High School algebra.  Even basic calculus would be too much for me.  But if you will look up this branch you'll see I wasn't buying her bullshit either.
PS: Nice deflection re MIT.  That was never your claim, which was to know where Worcester was and to know how it was mis-pronounced.  So -250 on that.

and my analogy was spot on, so +1,000 for GaG

My point was it's relative to the degree you are in...but I do agree that it's a bit odd for someone with a biochemistry degree to think of a Calc 1 class as upper level mathematics clas when it's likely they've shared some chemistry classes with chemistry and biomedical engineering majors.

Here it is for your elucidation.

I always schedule at least a 2 hour appointment. 3 hours if the lady intrigues me. I have never run into your scenario.

The three whole providers I have ever seen, I schedule 3 to 4 hrs... even the first time.

Not to mention it's much easier to spot a Colombiana than it is some hooker who claims to have graduated summa cum laude.

I never got "all the pussy I could handle" in my 20's and 30's before I got married but I got my fair share. Why would they want to bother with "condom sex" when they are still young enough to get real sex in the civilian world?