1- You are an intelligent and lovely lady who should write more often on the boards. It is our pleasure to have you here
2- BizzaroSuperdude should write the "Tips on how to write reviews on TER"
Cheers
I am always surprised at the number of VIP TER members I see that have never written even one review of their own experiences. Most of my guys are this way. And, when I ask them to write one for me, they say that they do not write reviews because they feel it demeans who I am or makes the experience they had with me less special. They feel that reviews are impersonal writings about very personal experiences. I feel exactly the same way that they do, probably even more strongly. I hate reviews.
When I first became a provider and realized that in order to be successful I was going to have to get good reviews published on the internet, I was horrified. I am definitely not the kind of woman that has ever had a gentleman broadcast my sexual behavior, even within social circles, yet alone to the whole world on the internet. And, the idea of having your looks and sexual performance rated is completely unnerving and degrading. Try being genuine and doing your best when you know that you are being critiqued every step of the way during the most intimate and passionate moments that can be shared between two people.
HOWEVER, I thought I would share my perspective about why it is so important to submit reviews, and the significant impact your contribution makes.
Reviews on TER make a huge impact on a provider as an individual in so many ways. Mainly, the more positive reviews a provider receives, the more income she can generate and she can generate more quality experiences for herself by attracting clients that better match her unique strengths and skills as well as by the ability to demand the respect and kindness she has earned through her proven track record of providing great experiences to her clients. They are also a tool for the provider to use to learn as much as possible from her experiences, which gives the provider a chance to improve on her weaknesses and reinforces her strengths. A provider can learn a lot by reading other providers reviews. Some of the best information for a new provider starting out that doesn't have a clue is contained in the reviews of other providers...both good and bad.
Not only do the reviews on TER make a difference to the providers, but also they contribute substantially to the quality of experiences that each hobbyist has. Reviews allow hobbyists to find providers who provide the exact type of experiences that they are looking for, as well as keep them safe from the type of experiences that they are not looking for. Providers can also use a hobbyist's reviews of other providers to determine what his likes and dislikes are, before a meeting takes place. Thus, she is able to provide him with the kind of experience he is looking for without him having to directly communicate all of his needs, wants and desires to the unfamiliar provider.
Finally, TER reviews elevate our industry moral and society's perception of our industry as a whole. By having a system that holds people accountable for providing quality experiences and treating each other with respect, we all benefit by being able to feel good about participating in this industry. And, little by little, the system of accountability brings legitimacy to the industry within our society. Until society's perception of a provider changes from a drug addicted woman standing on a street corner to the sophisticated, quality companionship that is now available, we have no hope for decriminalization or respect for our work and the people that patronize us.
Please consider all of these factors when deciding whether to be a reviewer or not. I know that you appreciate that others contribute their reviews, I sure do.
I agree completely. But I think that how a review is written is important. As a bit of an old world gentleman myself, I don't go in for a very graphic review, and I'm not trying to cast myself as a stud when I compose one. I think that a review may be written tastefully and from an adult perspective. I consider a review that I write to be both a tribute to the lady in question and a service to the hobbyist community. So, at the end of the day, it is important not only that reviews be written but that they both provide factual information and elevate the discourse about the industry. My 2p.
I refuse to use profanity or vulgar terms when writing a review. In my honest opinion, this is degrading and disrespectful to the lady. It also shows a lack of class on my part. If I can't keep it relatively clean and respectful, I won't write it. But that's just me.
I have read many posts on these boards from hobbyist who's reviews were never posted. Since there doesn't seem to be a way to figure out how to be posted many men may not bother.
which keeps going up everyday shows the number of reviews that made it through!
Now: 525434
And, TER gets 500,000 to 1 million unique visitors each month, according to companies that track Web traffic.
That number at the top of the page doesn't look so large anymore.
Just today my new friend, who has been a VIP TER member for years, told me that he tried to write a review once of a lady he had a wonderful experience with and it was never published. He wrote an email to the staff asking why, and never got a response to his email. He was very frustrated because he took a lot of time and consideration to write the review, and he felt the provider really deserving of the accolades he gave her. He said that he has never written another review again because he didn't want to waste his time.
Another very good reason for you guys to have your own forum to coach each other about how to write reviews and get them published or some similar concept.
trying to write reviews at first. I read some of the crass, insulting things that some guys put in their reviews, and thought that I would be expected to write that way, but couldn't bring myself to do it. After a few tries, I learned that if you just remember the experience exactly as it was, you really can write a review with some class, showing the lady the respect and dignity that she has earned.
I still can't believe the way that some of the guys write the reviews, where in the end, it appears that they have just reviewed themselves.
they reveal more about the reviewer than the reviewed.... mirrors are often a good reflection of life.
I am very new here, but I've noticed the same thing. The reviewer often shows more about himself than the lady he's reviewing. Several times I've read a negative review that actually made me want to see the lady in question. I figured that if a crude, rough, "wham-bam- (skip the thankyou)-mam" type of guy was disgruntled when he left because she wasnt his type and she wouldnt act like an addict on a corner... She probably IS my type. Ie caring, intelligent, and slow and gentle when need be.
Its taken me a while to learn that though. When you first join a forum, or indeed a whole new facet of life, you (well, me anyway) tend to take it very slow, read and research for a while and get to know the general attitudes and feelings of as many sides of the story as possible. At first I was concerned that these crude men were the way EVERYONE acted, providers included. Gradually I've learned that its not so, and that my initial disgust was warranted in their case.
I have only seen one provider to date. FBSM, not FS. However it was a very unique experience for me, and I'd rather get a few more under my belt before I wrote a review. I feel almost identically to Torrid though.. I hate the thought of verbalizing a private act, but at the same time I can see the need for it.
15 orgasms in less than 2 hours, honest. My secret is I shoot pineapple juice right into my temple every morning. I guess it improves the taste also because I am always told how great that is. Due to my unbelievable sexual skills my date usually has over 50 orgasms and believe me they are all real. Plus those huge magnum condoms, oh well, just forget it
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consideration to your post... you are deserving of as many responses as this board can muster...
Generally speaking, no matter the number of reviews a lady has, I will submit a review if the session falls on the norm of my experiences and I can offer a realistic description of the lady, the experience (exclusive of sex), the sexual activity and if I believe there is a reason to "Warn" other hobbiests about my encounter. That said, I do not write reviews where either I feel that there would be no value to my review - that is, the session was as advertised, but was not what I wanted... and that is MY FAULT for going with that particular lady... or - the session was off the scale of experience for me... (and I do have a widening scale....)
For the latter, I was with a last minute date... she came... and I could not find the words to describe the experience (neither good nor bad, just odd and kind of dark, like being with Morticia Adams.... and while she did nothing out of the ordinary - talking with her was somewhat depressing.... later, someone wrote a review of her - and his description was so accurate - that I was somewhat impressed by the man's ability to put into words my experience... as I could not.
Well written reviews are very much worth reading - for they are instructive about the hobby - and what really goes on behind closed doors... if those in the media REALLY want to accurately depict this professioin, all of it, they should become paying members of this web site and do their homework... if they did, they would meet obviously well educated people such as you, who express themselves quite eloquently.
best to you.
I was brought up not to kiss & tell... but I usually write reviews. I remain a gentleman writing about a lady.
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On the flip side, I'd like to see providers offer to write a white list review for me. It's good for the provider since it could cut down on the number of calls she gets to vouch for a client.
As a provider who is just starting out, I always wish more gentlemen would take the time to review me. I take a quality over quantity approach, limiting the number of gentlemen I see so that I can put maximum effort into my appointments. I believe this is the best long-term strategy for building my business and generating good reviews but it is frustrating in the short term when many of the guys I've seen email me afterwards to tell me they have had a great time but decide for whatever reason not to write a review.
I think that, as you've said, they may somehow feel it is not very chivilrous to share the intimate details of our time together. But as another poster has pointed out, reviews can be carefully worded so readers can get a good sense of the experience even if the writer does not wish to be too explicit.
I've seen other girls offer a discount for those who review them and have considered doing this as I imagine it would be an effective way to generate more reviews. Eventually I decided against it because I think it potentially compromises the impartiality of the review. If someone was offering to compensate me financially to write about them, I would feel under pressure to make the review positive. Because of this, I would probably decline to do one.
This site is an great resource but in order for it to continue to operate effectively, I think the guys need to be able to write honestly about their experiences. I'd be interested to hear other peoples' view about this.
Although I'm a newbie and I've only seen a few ladies, writing reviews is a lot more difficult than I expected. I find it to be a really tough balance between kindness, civility and fairness. Indeed, there are a number of ways in which there are compromises to be made.
It runs against my nature to be terribly explicit in what I describe, but I also understand that is part of what is helpful for guys to read. What did we actually do physically?
Choosing numbers for ratings can be excruciating. Again, I want to be fair to the ladies and the future male readers of the review. But in both cases, I realize that the numbers do not reflect my level of enjoyment. There can be times when I don't go through much of the "menu" of services, but I have a great time. To me, attractive also goes far beyond skin deep, so I can really have a great time with a woman that doesn't meet stereotypical (and superficial) standards of beauty. It is about attitude and compatibility.
So far, I also have an instance where I have specifically not written a review. Due to issues totally on my part, it wouldn't be a very good review. It wouldn't do her attitude, abilities or compassion any justice to write about a frustrating experience that wasn't of her doing. So I am holding off on that one. But I also plan to see her again, so when things go well for me, I'll write it up. The delay seemed to be the best compromise and the most fair solution to me, her, and potential review readers. And the fairness is important.
I'm not really comfortable writing reviews yet, but I'd like to get to the point that anyone actually reading my review carefully and not just looking at the numbers would get a good sense of what happened. That would be the best way for them to make an educated decision, and what I like to see in reviews when I read them.
I posted this message in the wee hours of the morning last night with my fingers crossed and nerves a wreck. I wasn't sure how my post would be received. As always, the gentlemen of the TER community represent themselves as all men should. You guys are role models for how to treat a lady.
Please accept my deepest gratitude for your kindness, respect, and appreciation of the woman that I am and contribution that I made. If only all women were as lucky as the providers on TER to get to experience the finest gentlemen in society.
I have a suggestion, but I am not sure to whom I should direct it. The advice and feedback you guys gave above about writing reviews, and your experiences when you first started writing reviews, seems like it would be incredibly valuable to guys who haven't written reviews before and even to experienced reviewers who wish to improve upon the quality of their reviews. I am sure that there are more tips to be given by you as well as others to make the process of writing reviews less isolated and frustrating for the hobbyist.
Sharing these tips and providing coaching and feedback to guys writing reviews in a special forum dedicated to review writing or some similar concept seems like it may be very helpful. Even putting together a list of "Tips on Writing Reviews from The Hobbyists of TER" would make a difference. The end result is bound to be higher quality reviews, which benefits everyone.
Lots of Kisses to you all...
1- You are an intelligent and lovely lady who should write more often on the boards. It is our pleasure to have you here
2- BizzaroSuperdude should write the "Tips on how to write reviews on TER"
Cheers
Can we stop having reviews where the guy says:
I then made her cum 5 times and then during MISH we came together.
Please. Give me a break.
For being "Unverifiable" ????? Or may be for being a "Total Bullshit" lol