Some time back, a local provider contacted me, rather than me initiating the contact.  She stated that, having read my reviews, she thought we might have a good time together.  I met with her, enjoyed my time and we discussed whether I'd write a review of the events.  She asked that I not include in the review that she had initiated the contact.  I asked her why and she said other providers would "frown" upon her for taking such an action.  Fast forward to the present day, another provider has reached out to me and suggested a meet.

basically she is going through reviews in her city reading other provider reviews and then reaching out to clients for business.
It is different story if a provider is reaching out to a guy regarding something he said here maybe a response or a posting even an in search of.Reaching out to clients who reviewed other providers and asking for business is tacky.
she should look at her marketing instead of soliciting clients off the review list.

... is different than contacting reviewers of other providers.  I've never experienced the latter but have had several reach out based on forum posts.  Of all of those providers, I've only seen one of them--she was one of the top providers in my area but very low profile and thus off my radar, and I thought it would be fun to meet her.  I did, and it was.  I didn't think the others were a good fit (too young, too far away, or just not my type) and declined politely.  

but surprise surprise, I am not siding with the community here. Personally, I don't mind if a provider reaches out to me first, but of course since I don't write reviews any woman who contacts me from TER would be doing so because of my board presence, not my reviews.

Based on years of reading posts by various levels of mangina's here...perhaps you'd like to reassess your comment.

reach out to me from my posts but never from a review I had written.  I think there's a familiarity that develops when interacting on the boards that makes it okay.  If you have exchanged PM's before about board topics which shows you have similar viewpoints, and the provider tells you that she thinks the two of you would have fun time together, she's probably right.   I agree that contacting a reviewer based solely on his OR her (Lopaw, I didn't forget you) reviews  does indeed smack of desperation.

...it depends on the approach she uses IMO. If she is new and just getting started, she may be reaching out to the handles who review frequently to try to get established. I don't see a problem with that. Now, if she makes repeated attempts and doesn't take a lack of response or a negative response well, then yes, it does seem desperate.  

Well except for maybe the pendatic putzes like Jake, but we all know you would NEVER stoop so low.

I was a bit worried over here.

One of my ATF ladies reached out to me first.  Not because of my reviews, but because she was friends with another of my ATF's who knew I was looking for someone local rather than taking the trip into NYC all the time.  When she PM'ed me here on TER, I almost blew her off.  Coming out of the blue it unnerved me.  However I had seen her post on the NY discussion board, had looked at her reviews and website already.  In fact, I would have probably contacted her within the year if she hadn't PM'd me first with a followup email conversation.  
I am VERY glad I didnt blow her off.  She and I have seen each other many times now and it has honestly been a perfect experience each time.  So thank you to her friend (and mine) who got us together.  It was iut of the blue and disconcerting, but I got over it quick.

kind of hot to have a woman contact you about having sex with her, even if you're going to be paying her.

That's interesting.  If the guy has 20 or more reviews, I'd think a provider could get a good idea as to whether she's a good fit (no pun intended!) for the guy.  If the guy seems to gravitate towards young, white, spinner, GFE (as one example) and the provider meets all those criteria, why not reach out to the guy and let him know she's available?  I wouldn't call that desperate, I'd call it good business sense.

Or at least not all in one sitting.

I love when a guy is seeking a particular type...and any and all responses are nothing remotely close to the ISO.

way to go for the reasons you say.  A guy posts that he is looking for a skinny Latina girl with a curvy butt, and every white OTHFB on TER responds.  The PM's are probably even less of a match on an ISO.

It doesn't matter to me.  I pretty much go by my wish list so whether she contacts me or not doesn't change much

I have had many providers contact me based on some of my post on various TER Boards or ladies I have seen in the past. All have been very professional and courteous. As I basically like most all women, I have really enjoy exchanging PM's/text with them. Now if a provider was persistent when I was not interested, that's a different story. But hell I am almost always interested!!  

A lot of the usual suspects amongst the guys have stated an opinion.  Any ladies want to chime in on this one?  For whatever it adds to the discussion, both ladies that contacted me are routinely in the top 20 on TER in their respective areas.  So then ladies, good form or not to initiate contact?

as long as she can accept the "no" as gracelfully as the "yes".

I wonder how many of you offering this sage piece of advice are actually in sales, marketing or run our own businesses?

I love it when a lady makes first contact. Like you said, it's usually something like 'I've read your reviews, or I've enjoyed reading your posts'. I also enjoy it, and it draws my interest, when a lady flirts with me on the boards. But that's a little tricky. No pun intended. Sometimes afts get jealous when other ladies flirt with you. The old cold shoulder is the tell.  

It's happened over the years. Sometimes I respond, other times I ignore.  

And honestly I have been flattered!

via PM based on a board post and sometimes flirt and hint about a possible encounter. Nothing wrong with that.

Unfortunately every time it happened to me it's been by providers I had no interest in seeing.

Do I mind or see it as desperate? A bit desperate. But I don't mind it at all. My current provider texts me every few days or so just to see how I'm doing. Never asks me if I want to see her. I always ask to see her. She's really sweet.

be pursued. My availability is somewhat of a given here.  So I tend to be old-fashioned in light of that. I don't respond to ISOs for that reason: I want you to want to meet me- not just any blond with big boobs and a big bottom.

I have had a couple providers initiate contact. I don't have a problem with it personally. If it's someone I wouldn't mind seeing why not, or politely decline if she isn't someone you would like to see.

I think that is totally inappropriate behavior , i would say more acceptable  
Through email or  PM but never on the phone .

They both contacted me though a PM here on TER.  And yeah, I totally agree, I don't want a provider to ever contact me by text or phone call, except where I have initiated the conversation.

Interesting.  While not a lot of ladies have responded, it seems about 50/50 as to whether to initiate the contact.  I guess the ladies I mentioned were smart to ask me not to mention that in any reviews.

I have one local that's been "chasing" me, and I'm seriously considering making her wish come true.  Another local is way out of my price range, and keeps insisting that I can "splurge."  That's just annoying.  Yet another contacted me (one of our GD board trainwrecks).  When I declined, holy fucking shit, did she ever go off on me.  I found it kind of amusing.