Would you lower the look rating in a review?  Would you mention that in a review?  Does it matter at all?

There is recently a discussion in LA board about a lady who has such scar and was described by a couple of reviewers as having flabby stomach.  There are many ladies who entered into this business because they are single moms.  I think quite a number of them use C-section for delivery.  I am curious about others’ opinions.

I personally have seen a few ladies last year who have C-section scars.  Most of them used scarves to obscure that fact.  All of them were trim and fit.  I have no problem with the scar at all and it didn’t affect my scoring.  Couple of them I have mentioned in my reviews since they are known to use multiple names.  (That detail were mentioned in other reviews and was later used to id that lady)

Am I wrong to include that detail even though it is not a big deal to me?

There are some women I've seen that have obviously had a c-section. Some of the scars are striking, some are very faint. To me, it's a function of how recently the lady has been sections. The more recently, the more likely their abdomen will not be as tight as it once was.

If the section was a while past, then they have had more time to get themselves back into shape. Personally, I don't have a problem with a c-section scar, unless it is so striking that I cannot get past it. I've only seen that a couple of times before, once was in Europe and another was in South America.

I do think however, that if the photo of the lady shows a young, tight bodied girl in very tight clothes, and I see a girl who has recently had a child, and is still in the post childbirth throes of getting back into shape, I would be inclined to think twice.

Halitosis is also a factor!

HPG

.and then I ask her how her child is...........

but seriously.you said it .you had no problem and it didn't affect anything......so..............no big deal then.

If it's no big deal.don't make it a big deal.

having had 5 C-sections myself, I know sometimes this can be a turn-off for men. Since my 4th surgery was boutched,(the Dr. severed my muscles,tendents and also cut into my bladder)and I only found out after my 5th, when the Dr. (a different one)told me later that he had intended to cut out the old scar tissue, but after seeing the damage, he felt he would leave me with more than I had began with, so decided against it. I was unhappy with the extra skin, for many years, until an old boyfriend stated (after I'd said that I was considering plastic surgery) " Well hon, it's a trade off, since if you'd had 5 natural births, you wouldn't have the great, tight pussy you have now...I think you got the better deal...besides, some of us guys like a tummy.." after that, I've just excepted my "pouch" as part of what makes me "ME"...Some mind it, while some don't. The bottom line here to me is, go ahead and put it in the review...Then if someone has an issue, they'll have the info to decide for themselves and those that don't care will still be interested in the whole person, not just a BODY PART.JMHO

the fact that they were pregnant.  From my understanding there is a new way to do a c-section.  Usually what they do is make the incision so low that they have to shave you.  Depending on how well the doctor closes the cut and how the woman takes care of it and how good of a healer she is, it can heal over real well within a  month or so.  Also if worse comes to worse and she doesn't heal real well when the hair starts to come back it will cover it.

For these ladies that have the extra baby fat...it is just that baby fat.  If you hit the gym shortly after having a child you can tighten up real well.

Back to the subject at hand, IMHO c sections have no real bearing on flab and if handled right by the doctor and the woman it can be almost obsolete....as you can see by my pictures mine is.

Both my wives had them.  I've met a number of providers who have had C-sections.  So what?  They're not perfect Barbie Dolls any more (please, I am not denegrating Barbie type providers, but just using them as one example of what some believe to be perfection).  Nobody's perfect. But they certainly can be beautiful, charming, intelligent, sexy, and awesome between the sheets.



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Doesn't matter. If the attraction is there it's there!

Same applies to stretch marks and baby fat. My ATF has some of this but she was the best combination of beauty, brains and passion that will be found anywhere.

My .02 worth.

In my view, women have so many characteristics that contribute to their beauty, a scar would simply fade into the background, as far as I'm concerned.  If you notice the scar, however, you may want to mention it in a review, so those to whom it's important will have a clear picture.  But, if appropriate, you may want to mitigate the mention of the scar with such adjectives as, very light, barely noticable, and so on.

Unless it's a crash c-section to get the baby out quickly, modern c-sections use a muscle splitting technique so any flab is related to lack of exercise and stretching related to how large the uterine contents were

I definitely wouldn't ALTER my score one bit because of what others might think.  I've been with gals who've had C-sections & didn't feel it lessened their appearance.  In case of the most recent gal the scar was so small that a guy would almost have to look for it to notice, & her abdomen didn't suffer in appearance otherwise either.  

Like with most other surgical procedures, the results depend greatly on the skill of the doctor & the technique used.  Now if it was a bad surgical job & affected my OWN impression, she'd get a lower score as a result..but the same could probably be said for a poorly done boob-job.    

Personally, I am "into" at least the fantasy of "perfection", and in that regard a C-section scar would bother me A LOT, as would stretch marks or other indications of childbirth.

Would I alter a score? No... I would mention it in the text as a guide for those who might be put off by it, but for me an "appearance score" says more about proportion, tone, facial beauty, and everything "working together" rather than an absence of flaws.

I myself don't like the thought of being with a "mommy", probably a lot of that has to do with the fact that I have no children myself, and in part that I am affected by a sort of "Madonna/Whore" syndrome... by the same token, I never dated a woman with children, and I would never have married a woman with children not my own.

But that is very particular to ME, and I would not "punish" a maternal provider with bad marks because of my predilections (or hang-ups, if you prefer.)

I also won't see a provider with a breast augmentation, but I would not deprive others of the pleasure if they don't mind it... same sort of principle.

I tend to like young providers, typically quite thin and lithe, with a b or small c tops... so clearly I have a kind of "young, cute, and innocent" thing, a fetish which would not hold up well with evidence of child-bearing.

I expect, though, that for hobbyists with children, being with a provider/mother gives a nice commonality... as one respondent said, he would "ask how her kids are". So for many hobbyists, that is nice... and it would be ad of me to steer them away with a bad physical review.

O.

A lady, whether or not a provider is a human being. Over the course of time, things happen to people's bodies. I would think of a C section a part of life and no big deal.

Besides, I don't like women who are "perfect in every way." They tend to be stuck up and think they're God's gift to men.

I'm amazed at the fit young women that I meet, and would have never guessed that they had a child.  I understand the comment about wanting this mental image of "perfection", but to me, there's lots more relevent issues to put in a review than a c-section scar.

what is important is if her look is seductive in some way.
can she make me feel wanted, or in some cases just get me off so good i cant see straight.

I actually find myself being attracted sometimes to little imperfections such as a crooked smile, freckles, etc.  What I am not really into is excessive tattoos, especially all over the breasts and/or arms.  It just distracts me, so if I was suprised by something like 40% body coverage in tats when the pic didnt indicate it I might be a bit unhappy.

gotta love em.

Many "Perfect" women that I've met and gotten to know can be manipulated by subtle comments about their bodies that are not criticisms, but are veiled comments on a part of their body that isn't perfect.

Usually something to the effect of, "Wow I'm glad to see that you've been working out, you look fuller and better with a little more weight on you! I absolutely love a woman that's not afraid to be curvy."

This one seems to get to the ladies I've known, and makes it easier to get in under their guard.

HPG

Better traction?

Most of the providers I see are Moms.

It knocks them a bit off the perfection meter -- but that is just the physical aspect.  Other attributes of the provider (skills, personality, etc.) can outweigh this imperfection to the point of insignifigance.

-Hoot.