I'm 47 and not in the greatest shape either (gut).

But so far, I've had many terrific GFE sessions and my experience has been that if you choose the right lady, YOUR body is not an issue for her. Just be sure to show up clean and fresh.

Bottom line: treat the ladies nicely and with respect, and you'll get the same in return!

That's my 2 cents.

In the end it is all about respect on both sides, is it not?  We all have our imperfections, insecurities and quirks but it is how we treat others that supercedes these "flaws."

I'm sure you'll have a lovely time with the woman you have chosen!

Re: How do the ladies feel about older, in not so great shape gents?

It is pretty amazing,how well these BEAUTIFUL ladies treat us,(i don't look like Brad Pitt)type....If it was the other way around and i was a male provider,seeing women of all different shapes and sizes,I don't think i could do it!....

1. The specified donation

2. A smile and positive attitude

3. Mutual respect

This holds true for all providers; both large busted with "skinny eyes" or smaller busted with "round eyes".

I wouldn't classify 43 and 47 as "old." I've got a few years on both of you and have enjoyed pretty all of experiences. A lot of providers prefer older, more mature men because we "old-timers" know how to treat a lady and respect her as such. I've never had one open the door, take a look at me, and say, 'Ooh gross, you're totally old; go away!"  But there's always a first time.

Inside your wallet that is.

But seriously, you do have to be respectful and kind if (also clean!) if you want to get the maximum for your time with her, and you do sound that way, so relax and enjoy.

Providers want you to be respectful and clean.  If you nail those two points, you will be fine.

I am not a provider, but if providers thought that guys were old at 43, I suspect most would be out of business.   I am 65, all my better days are way behind me, and I have never had any trouble with the ladies.   Some of them even say they love me.   LOL

You have nothing to worry about

Trust me, it won't be a problem at all. We do not expect our clients to fit any one mold or to be a certain age or body type, and if she did she would have specified that (ie. some women do choose not to see a certain race or age, but it's uncommon, and the age cutoffs usually eliminate younger men if anyone.)

I think one of the unique things about women who are able to succeed as providers is that we are able to look beyond conventional determinants of "attractiveness" and find something attractive in most individuals. I think a lot of that is a personality trait that is present before a woman ever becomes a provider. It's not that being a provider makes it happen, just that it is one of the main underlying traits that contributes to both a woman's desire to be a provider and her actual enjoyment and success at doing it.

As a GFE gal, it would be very difficult for a woman to do well in the hobby if she genuinely expected all her clients to be of a certain age or body type, or felt put out when a client didn't meet such specifications. I think in most cases you would be able to tell that she was not into it. Whereas, with most clients, whether 25 or 65, whether 100 pounds or 300 or anywhere in between, I am generally able to establish a rapport and attraction which allows me to be fully present and enjoy the session, which I think is what most good providers are able to do without difficulty- i.e. a good provider should not often have to act against her instincts or overcome qualms about someone to provide a good session, it should come naturally (although of course there are times when the chemistry just isn't there and one would hopefully still try to provide a good experience, but in general it would be really draining if this were the case all the time..)

I can't say that a man's age or appearance has any bearing on how much I enjoy our session or feel able to provide good service, in fact the reverse has been true, where younger men or men who consider themselves to be very attractive can have an entitled attitude or treat a woman with disrespect. Now, lack of self-confidence isn't attractive either, but nothing turns me off faster than a man who thinks he is god's gift to women (I was actually told once, "Wow you must be relieved now that you've seen me, I mean, the hardest part of your job must be not knowing if some ugly fat guy is behind that door.." What!?) I generally find that the way a man carries himself and interacts affects my feelings towards him more than any physical attribute, although I also find I am able to find enjoyment in physical aspects of most men, not just those who meet certain specifications.

If you treat her with respect and try to be present in the moment, she will do the same for you. Your age or appearance should be the last thing on your mind, because it is not something she will even be thinking about. Enjoy!!

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The last two providers that I saw both told me that I was being too harsh with myself on both the age and physical condition subjects.  I am about twenty pounds overweight and working out to get back in shape.  I am 59.

A positive attitude about the session overcomes the perceived age and physical shape problems.

You will be fine...

This is a job for the ladies. The really good ones will never make it feel that way of course but you are not being critiqued as a future BF, you are paying for a gal's company.  Be respectful of her time, be clean, be a gentleman and you will do just fine.  Have fun!

Hey, I'm 43 and don't yet consider myself "older"! I am young at heart.  That said, I like mature gentleman.    They usually are more aware of what women like and aren't all into just getting laid but want to make it an enjoyable experience for the lady, as well.  I think it makes for a pleasurable session when all involved are enjoying themselves.

Of course, a good quick one with a gorgeous hunk of man-flesh is okay too sometimes!!  

I just like men!

in being in better shape. Start a regular exercise program at a local gym.

First, let me introduce myself. My alias is SHEIKA FATIMA. Primarily, I post on the Phoenix board.

The Sheika is an older—some may say elderly-- lady who has been involved in and around the escort trade for more than a few decades. I am exceedingly passionate about the well-being of the ladies.

In my posts, I like to present the providers side of the story.

Danrs, darling, the Sheika does not want to shatter your illusions and deflate your very precious-but all too fragile-self esteem, but, the fact of the matter is this: for the most part, the ladies just don’t care how old, how fat, and how out of shape you are. In fact, it might be to your advantage.
 
In the escort business, the commodity that is advertised, promoted and sold is sexual and emotional fantasy; and, as in most businesses, the retention of loyal, undemanding, financially appreciative customers who purchase the product and pay with ready cash are highly desired.

Simply put, working girls prefer easy clients who pay. They prefer clients that are easily fooled and easily satisfied. They prefer clients that will take the bait; hook, line and sinker, and not ask a lot of questions.

Many escorts prefer clients that are clumsy, shy, unsure and insecure when it comes to their sexual prowess. Often, they will afford these “easy” clients VIP status. Working girls prefer clients who are easily sold a bill of goods and who will buy the sexual and emotional fantasy outright with no questions asked.

If anyone would like to dialogue with me off the public boards, I will be more than happy to answer your e-mails.

LOVE AND PEACE,

Sheika Fatima
[email protected]


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