And what does TER think about it?

Yes, there are some people, mostly some providers, who do not like reviews.  But I fail to see evidence that writing reviews is frowned on here, discouraged or that reviewers are "shat on."  Yes, it's a review site.  TER rewards all reviewers with free time.  Many reviewers are admitted to the "private" reviewers only board -- showing that they are valued.

I promote writing good fantasy reviews. I believe they bring business. People read reviews. Even those who choose not to participate in the review culture.  

Well, I'm talking about this post in the neighboring thread.

Opinions are like assholes.  Everyone has got one.

Some people just have different preferences.  You seem to be really worked up off the words of one specific provider that you probably weren't going to see in the first place.

I'm asking why someone doing exactly what the site is meant to do, is met with such contempt.  

She’s obviously moved on. Who cares what she thinks. This is a review site. Most who participate here have no contempt for someone who writes a lot of reviews. You’re asking everyone to answer for what one person thinks. And before your wheels start spinning, I imagine she’s not alone. But most who think like that wouldn’t spend time here. Take a deep breath and move on.

This is not the only industry where prolific reviewers are sometimes viewed negatively by purveyors. The restaurant industry is a prime example of this. No restaurant really likes reviews unless they are good. Chefs sometimes feel more negative toward "known" food critics. It can be a bit of a love/hate relationship. The reasons are obvious.

Most normal reasonable people are able to use deductive reasoning and get this. Mr. Q however thought it was acceptable to call me "diabolical" because I said that providers have the right to not see a client for any time for any reason, and that includes reviews. Good grief. And we again wonder why so many providers have no desire to post on this board or even have reviews on this site.  
Exbibit A.

He’s stuck on one very specific comment he finds offensive. He can’t seem to move off it. Any response to any other part of the conversation gets glazed over and he keeps coming back to that same comment. He wants us all to answer for the blasphemy he is feeling. There is no reasoning here.

My statements were

I don't think it's just one person. There are other people who think this and there are even more who think this but don't say it. This goes with the whole "review culture" thing and there's damn many people who don't like the "review culture" .  

in general i find that guys that have dozens of reviews tend to be those that visit countless inexpensive quick asian girls.  ...which just goes to say like chinese food ...  visiting one of those girls and an hour later you are horny again ! LOL  

This is not meant as an insult but… Have you ever been tested for Autism? Maybe you should, it could explain a lot. Your hyper-fixation on topics/details, your inability to let things go, your rigid definitions of right and wrong all kind of suggest you’re neurodivergent. You might want to get that checked out. It’s not just you either. I have a feeling a few guys on this board are on the spectrum.

Why, as a consumer, would I choose to go to a restaurant that is NOT good?

Yet I never "co-signed shitting on the community". That never happened. Ever.  
All of the years on this board I have given LOTS of examples of how to make this community better, and the most recent suggestion circled right back to you.  
Saying that providers and clients have personal autonomy and all transactions should be voluntary, as well as participation on this review site or any other review sites is the complete opposite of diabolical.  
I really don't give a shit if you attack me, I can handle it. But the problem is other providers are going to read the garbage you wrote to me and think WHY would I want to deal with that complete nonsense? Why would I want to participate where guys think it is OK to talk so poorly to another provider that does not agree with them?  
The only one right now shitting on this community and preventing other providers from engaging and even wanting reviews posted of them are guys like you. If you think anything in sex work should be anything other than voluntary YOU are the one that is diabolical. If you plan to post anything besides an apology to the community for this mess you created, don't bother.

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I merely asked why it's OK to shit on reviewers in a community that is ALL about reviews, is built on reviews, and generally encourages reviews.

Not that I know of. And if even if I was, does it change anything? But no, AFAIK I'm just very passionate about consumer protection and consumer rights and review communities treated right.

And anti-TER?

We’ve gotten to the bottom of this multiple times. The reasons for providers disliking reviews and reviewers have been discussed ad nauseam. You just don’t like or agree with the reasons given. Personally I think some reasons given make more sense than others. Some excuses given are fair, some are unfair. It is what it is. If you haven’t figured out why some providers don’t like reviews and reviewers then you never will (or you don’t wan’t to). Either way it doesn’t matter. There are going to be providers that you don’t want to see for whatever reason, including their review policies. Also, there will be providers that don’t want to see you, for whatever reason. These are individual decisions. If a provider doesn’t want to see you, then they won’t see you. That’s really all there is to it. You just have to accept the fact that some providers don’t want your money. You can bitch and complain all you want about it, but it probably won’t change anything. Your incessant posting likely does the opposite.  
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To be direct, you’re very argumentative, annoying and unpleasant when you discuss this topic. That turns people off, regardless of whether they agree or disagree with your argument. Any provider that see’s your posts is going to think that any policy that keeps you away might be a good idea. Any client that see’s your posts is not going to want to be lumped in with you. Nobody is going to agree with you even if they want to.

A diagnosis is unlikely to change your views of reviews or escorts. A diagnosis, possibly combined with therapy, can provide some self-awareness and a better understanding of other people. This could potentially improve your communication and interpersonal relationships. For example, you might learn that sometimes you need to give it a rest. Because people aren’t going to listen to you if they don’t like you, even when you’re right.

Once again, no one argued that if a provider doesn't see me they should. No one.  

You.. inferred a lot of things from my post that I did not say.

First of all, I agree with you. I’m very uncomfortable with how many providers talk negatively about their clients these days. I don’t like how providers, on this board, have recently talked about reviewers and “review culture.” It can be very insulting, especially considering the high rates we have to pay.  
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However, have you ever heard the phrase “you’re wrong, even though you’re right?” It gets used to refer to a situation where someone is correct, but their general behavior makes them unlikeable and unsympathetic. That’s kind of the point I’m making. If you learned to be a bit more concise, and a bit less argumentative, you’d have a better time getting your point across. Instead, you’re always trying to prolong conversations and get the last word in and this hinders your ability to communicate effectively.

Bad, no. It’s a personal choice. I don’t agree with the choice, but also don’t think it’s bad. Maybe, coming here and posting this idea on the boards was a bad idea. This isn’t the place to share that view. But I won’t use the word “bad” for someone having that view.

This is by far the best review site out there.  

Personally I am happy to see hobbyists - I am just saying that many other providers find review culture in general distasteful, or object specifically to the explicitness. Surely that was already understood?

...and I know a thing or two about how hospitality operators feel about reviews.

Listen, I would agree if it wasn't put as banging 100 providers and comparing what their pussies feel like and telling the internet.

You’re not the first person to note this. Multiple posters in multiple forums here. I think you’re onto something.

I am approaching 170 reviews for my second alias on this site in 15 years! I try to be helpful in my reviews and add a little humor and levity to the boards. I think everyone who follows this approach is probably valued by the site and the community! If you are getting dramatically sideways with one group or the other, it is probably your fault for being combative. We all know folks in real life who have this problem.  I have a former business partner who never realized that 100% of the people she dealt with thought she was a dick! I finally couldn’t take it anymore and called it quits- there’s something to be thankful for tomorrow!

Again - to be clear - that is not how I think of it - but I wanted the original commenter to be aware that some escorts do see it that way.  

Perseveration or repeating something persistently and redundantly is symptom of brain damage and autism.

Providers advertising themselves persistently = not autism

Why is being on the spectrum bad! I love my spectrum clients.

How very non-autistic of you.

But pretty spot on…

Look at providers who have over a hundred reviews is that a bad thing?

Must be a "fan" of mine who couldn't help himself to call me autistic one more time, by bumping a five month old thread.