Let me preface by saying clearly not one of us in this hobby world has found their true 'soulmate' if you believe in that sort of thing, thats a given. But with regards to my post below and comments regarding real love, if you had the choice who would you choose if Mr. or Ms. True Soulmate was standing on one side of you and Mr. or Ms. Hot Pornstar was standing on the other.....who's hand would you grab instantly....and why.

Thats an oxymoron...no? Lol

I would choose "true love" and my soul mate.  

Met with her 25+ times before she retired.  She was an 8 for looks and we had very little conversation because her mouth was always busy doing better things.  She is still my all time favorite and no girl can match her skills.  She sucked three loads out of me one session which is a record that will probably never be broken.

Past your first paragraph...wrong wrong wrong. A man CANNOT have met his TRUE soulmate and be a john. Fuck no.  That means you are incompable of feeling real love.....you havent found it yet there young one.

My opinion , but married men and women with some cash , hooking up . What's the slogan ? Lives to short so cheat  ? And they do , both men and women . So a guy may or may not see a girl here . And then forget it , or not . Some are addicted . Many move on . And if I had to guess , why they are here ? Safety . From disease and theft .

I have my soulmate on one side of me and a porn star on the other, correct?  

Unfortunately...not everyone wants it Rod lol. And until I find him myself (no surprise there) i will be here gracing my presence w you fine folks. Lol

There were three professional ladies and one friend with benefits. Each had perfect mirror images of what I most loved in the way of physical and psychological interaction (tho each was different).  The friend with benefits was very physically attractive; the three providers were attractive enough and became more so each time I aw then,   I would love to find such a relationship again.  
Incidentally this was not more that good company, what felt like real friendship, and great sex.  
Each of the professional ladies left the hobby and all ended up married and I wished them well.  One stills calls me at times usually for medical help and advice) and the friend with benefits was a little too crazy out of bed and as much as we made each other wild during sex, after a couple of year it became clear it would not work.  
Soul mate does not mean possessiveness. jealousies, discounts, or interference with the ladies' professional or private lives,

Please post more.  You are always such a breath of fresh air.

LOVE TALK is BS...we want it and crave it but it is fleeting

"The rate of divorce in America is high and it has even reported by various organizations that the rate is 50%."

Until I get a sex change, I'll be satusfued with our really valuable friendship

Because I am not here looking for love or a soul mate.  I am looking for hot sex.  Anyway, I think you've put up a false choice.  Because you could meet someone for hot sex only and then find a true connection grows.  Rare, but possible.  This game works backwards from civvy sex for some of us.  We get the sex part out of the way first and sometimes a real connection follows.  It's happened to me more than once, though it hasn't gotten to the "soul mate" level.  Still, it's good enough.

Soulmate=marriage. Not me.

understand an occasional dalliance with a "hottie"?

I had both. Then the hot soulmate disappeared and the woman who is now my ex took her place.

Never heard anyone say they married for that.  A lot of young women (married less than a year...which is the only reason they are still married) tell me they got married just to move away from their parents.

...in an instant.  

She doesn't need  to be an inexpensive actress to be my  Soul Mate Porn Star .  

A misreading of a study in the early 80's put that misconception out there.  

If you love someone, you pay your ultimate attentions to that person. "Love" = "Attention".

And I loved AB as well  

finding, and being fortunate enough to share a life with, one's soulmate (and yes i do believe in one and only soulmates) does not equate to a life of perfection, devoid of worldly difficulties, pain and struggle. what would you say to a man who's beloved is physically or psychologically no longer capable of sexual expression and service? He should deny his normal and healthy sexual need for the duration of his life?...not to mention the emotional needs met by having a kind, nonjudgmental ear and shoulder? life and love simply are not so black and white.

In reality, 40% is a closer (but impossible to truly calculate) average, and the rate has been steadily dropping since the 80s

My idiot for the day.

dear unless youre my grandmother.  

of thinking outside her prejudices.  

You might find yourself a little bit happier if you concentrate more on yourself and less on judging others' choices.

She is rather full of herself, isn't she? lol

Every once in a while I need a pinata to play with,and that's when I talk to her. The rest of the time she just isn't amusing enough to engage.

Nah...not at all.  

who is one of the most thoughtful, sensitive, and attuned women to grace this board.  The shame is she does so rarely.  I hope TS' insensitive and ignorant comments don't dissuade lilli from coming back.  She always has something unique to contribute.

Not looking. Like you..not worth the hassle. Why do you think im here? Lol

Someone is being disrespectful. I dont care how long anyones been here...its a fuck board.  

The same reason all the other hookers are...to pay your rent.

Are you on drugs or something?

you can be in this world an have a true soul mate. I have been with same SO for a long time. due to age I guess She got to the point where she didn't care for sex. So that is why I am here. been doing this few years an still we have never had a fight. Am I wrong for doing this maybe so

Nothing lilli said was remotely disrespectful.  But you slammed her because she simply disagreed with you, totally ignorant that she has a history of posting wise and thoughtful things about herself and he lifestyle.  Actually, if you'd bothered to give her a chance, or, god forbid, look into her posting history before slamming another provider, you'd probably have liked her and treated her with respect.  Everyone else here always has, despite it being a Piranha tank.
As it is all you've done is, once again, make a public fool out of yourself, as well as come across as gratuitously nasty.  You are a sad mess.

After all it's natural...

I am a small doses type of gal, and that's what truly makes me happy. For me to be able to love a guy, he needs to understand and accept that. The more they cling and act weepy, the more it turns me off. A soul mate does not have to be a person that is stuck up your ass every day, or even every week. There is no distance in that type of love. Knowing they are there mentally, even when physically they are 1000 miles away, is enough.  

Taylor, wtf is wrong with you? I mean damn. lilli has always been a very genuine straight shooter, and she did not say anything rude or offensive other than dismissing your absolute. You can't possibly try to change someone else's definition of what they think is love...trust me, I have tried lol.

Her opinion? Is just that...her opinion. Thats not what im talking about. She has a right to think and voice how she feels just as much as anyone here. Thats no issue and what a board is about.....

Rubbing off on you. Wow who wouldve thought. That good 'old' buddy system works every time.

...no matter how many times you try to cram it into your posts.

You could have just as easily said that Lilli is "one of the finer gals that has ever graced this board."

There was no need to call her a "hooker gal."  I don't recall very many non-hooker gals posting here.

TER used to be the classiest review site but you're making a tremendous effort to drag it down to the level of the other sites.

Seriously...am i the only one here who gets what im saying ...London youre missimg my point. How would you feel if I called you  dear ...no?  

and it's quite difficult to not "talk down to you" most of us are so obviously superior to you in almost every way, how else are we supposed to talk to you?

That's just how she talks. She has called me that and it was not in a condescending manner. YOU are projecting how you would use the word dear, unto how she is using it. She has some spunk, so if she wanted to call you a bitch, she would just do it flat out.

That's kinda way my wife feels. We have ended up best friends. It works well! Every now an then I feel needy for affection. I go visit my Friend.

And im suppossd to know that because?????

Sorry, but after 10 years of fkin the same dude over and over, I would NOT be mad at all if he saw providers. He supports me, he pays half the bills, he takes care of his children, does not beat me, yell at me, or come home drunk and lie....strange ass is not that big of a deal I once made it out to be. I could not imagine fkin the same person for that long, and not getting totally bored with it regardless of how good it is. Now, I am not one to go out and cheat, but I would probably not mind if he did. Not long ago, I felt much differently.

Did you see the shit he said to me in the pregnant hooker thread? Just because he refuses to agree with some of the asinine shit we say, does not mean he dislikes you now or that anyone has rubbed off on him. He thinks you're acting crazy in THIS thread. The next one, he will be right back agreeing with you if it makes sense.

I know very few couples in their 50s and 60s who are on their second or third marriage, unless their spouse passed away. OTOH, I know tons of people in their late 30s and early 40s who are going on marriage number 2 and 3.

a married hooker gal  LOL

And it is so true...all of it.

And I listen...evaluate and make the changes as needed.

Try to describe an orgasm to someone.  

London I stand and applaud! I think it's better than ending a 41 year relationship!

Taylor

I think you are right on  this one!   Touching souls can be for an instant.  But the memory stays.  I am wondering if you've had some moments that you wish lasted just a little longer.  I hope you have.  That's what I'm talking about.  Fire away, that's cool.  But I really like this thread ---- totally gets the juices flowing.  The number of responses speaks for itself (even if half are yours ).  Well done!

If I'm capable of love. Too many wounds on my back.

I think TS is trying to set a record on this board for crashing and burning, then arising, Phoenix-like again.  Only to crash and burn again.  Perhaps she's a masochist?  But for the rest of us it gets old. She reminds me of what Talleyrand said of the Bourbons when they took power again after Napoleon fell:  "They have forgotten nothing, and they have learned nothing."
Perhaps we should henceforth refer to her as Louis XVII.

Well Miss Steele I hate to contridict you but while it is unlikely it is possible to find True Love here in the jaded hobby world. My girlfriend who was a Top 75 Provider before she retired truly is my Soulmate and we are well on our way to the whole "Happier Ever After" thing..... And she is the hottest and horniest woman I know (Which is why she was my ATF before we became a couple)...and having spent considerable time with a few Porn Stars she is more than a match for them....So lucky for me I dont have to choose....I have both in the same woman.

Love fades...  Hearts are made to be broken.  God's most graphic example of planned obsolescence.  

my soulmat ewill be a hot pornstar... so both... lol.