A misreading of a study in the early 80's put that misconception out there.
And when you factor in things like the age of people when they get married (ex. above or below 26) the divorce rates drops significantly. As well there is a difference between 1st and 2nd marriages. Not all states even track divorce rates and publish for researchers. It is not a 'coin flip' as many are apt to claim.
Let me preface by saying clearly not one of us in this hobby world has found their true 'soulmate' if you believe in that sort of thing, thats a given. But with regards to my post below and comments regarding real love, if you had the choice who would you choose if Mr. or Ms. True Soulmate was standing on one side of you and Mr. or Ms. Hot Pornstar was standing on the other.....who's hand would you grab instantly....and why.
Now I know this may be a jaded question in asking this especially here but I am curious if you would choose that real love I am talking about (if you are capable of course) or a romp in the sack with a different hottie any chance you get......
Met with her 25+ times before she retired. She was an 8 for looks and we had very little conversation because her mouth was always busy doing better things. She is still my all time favorite and no girl can match her skills. She sucked three loads out of me one session which is a record that will probably never be broken.
There were three professional ladies and one friend with benefits. Each had perfect mirror images of what I most loved in the way of physical and psychological interaction (tho each was different). The friend with benefits was very physically attractive; the three providers were attractive enough and became more so each time I aw then, I would love to find such a relationship again. Incidentally this was not more that good company, what felt like real friendship, and great sex. Each of the professional ladies left the hobby and all ended up married and I wished them well. One stills calls me at times usually for medical help and advice) and the friend with benefits was a little too crazy out of bed and as much as we made each other wild during sex, after a couple of year it became clear it would not work. Soul mate does not mean possessiveness. jealousies, discounts, or interference with the ladies' professional or private lives,
"The rate of divorce in America is high and it has even reported by various organizations that the rate is 50%."
The percentage of marriage due to LOVE is HIGH and the outcome of staying with your TRUE LOVE is a flip of a coin. Just enjoy the LEFT hand as you reach out with your RIGHT hand.
I think you are right on this one! Touching souls can be for an instant. But the memory stays. I am wondering if you've had some moments that you wish lasted just a little longer. I hope you have. That's what I'm talking about. Fire away, that's cool. But I really like this thread ---- totally gets the juices flowing. The number of responses speaks for itself (even if half are yours ). Well done!
Never heard anyone say they married for that. A lot of young women (married less than a year...which is the only reason they are still married) tell me they got married just to move away from their parents.
The rate of divorce is well over 50%, has been for a long time now.
A misreading of a study in the early 80's put that misconception out there.
And when you factor in things like the age of people when they get married (ex. above or below 26) the divorce rates drops significantly. As well there is a difference between 1st and 2nd marriages. Not all states even track divorce rates and publish for researchers.
I know very few couples in their 50s and 60s who are on their second or third marriage, unless their spouse passed away. OTOH, I know tons of people in their late 30s and early 40s who are going on marriage number 2 and 3.
Because I am not here looking for love or a soul mate. I am looking for hot sex. Anyway, I think you've put up a false choice. Because you could meet someone for hot sex only and then find a true connection grows. Rare, but possible. This game works backwards from civvy sex for some of us. We get the sex part out of the way first and sometimes a real connection follows. It's happened to me more than once, though it hasn't gotten to the "soul mate" level. Still, it's good enough.
You can love and not be married, you can be married and love but not be soulmates. Marriage does not equal love does not equal soulmates. Maybe it is this confusion that causes the vast number of divorces? We're adults and can't truly understand this in all its intricacies... try getting married too young... think you have the experience and maturity to recognize the difference between love and soulmate, or worse, mere infatuation?
And I believe that if you had found your soulmate, you'd not even notice the pornstar. And who says pornstars are necessarily even attractive? Some are just... nasty looking.
She doesn't need to be an inexpensive actress to be my Soul Mate Porn Star .
Posted By: viptaylorsteele
Let me preface by saying clearly not one of us in this hobby world has found their true 'soulmate' if you believe in that sort of thing, thats a given. But with regards to my post below and comments regarding real love, if you had the choice who would you choose if Mr. or Ms. True Soulmate was standing on one side of you and Mr. or Ms. Hot Pornstar was standing on the other.....who's hand would you grab instantly....and why.
Now I know this may be a jaded question in asking this especially here but I am curious if you would choose that real love I am talking about (if you are capable of course) or a romp in the sack with a different hottie any chance you get......
If you love someone, you pay your ultimate attentions to that person. "Love" = "Attention".
In that perspective, love is a limited resource. When humans get together, they exchange things as trade: one pays something and gets something else ... love, attention, care, money, financial assets ...
A hooker pay one hour of attention (let's just call it "love") to one guy's penis in exchange for $$$, but she only got limited number hours to do so in a day; a guy pays $$$ to receive such "love", but he only had certain budget of $$$ for such "love" ...
you can be in this world an have a true soul mate. I have been with same SO for a long time. due to age I guess She got to the point where she didn't care for sex. So that is why I am here. been doing this few years an still we have never had a fight. Am I wrong for doing this maybe so
I am a small doses type of gal, and that's what truly makes me happy. For me to be able to love a guy, he needs to understand and accept that. The more they cling and act weepy, the more it turns me off. A soul mate does not have to be a person that is stuck up your ass every day, or even every week. There is no distance in that type of love. Knowing they are there mentally, even when physically they are 1000 miles away, is enough.
I think too many people think love has to be a certain way...get married, move in together, have kids, wake up and go to sleep every fkin night with the same person, same old boring ass routine, and that's far from the case.
I don't need a man around me all the time to be faithful, and I sure as hell don't need sex from some random person when he is not around. It takes very little for me to be a kept woman, but most of the men I attract are all needy for affection, and I simply can't give it the way they want it. Both of my husbands were that way, and neither lasted a year. Some guys smother the fk out of you to the point, that whatever love you had for them is literally suffocating
Sorry, but after 10 years of fkin the same dude over and over, I would NOT be mad at all if he saw providers. He supports me, he pays half the bills, he takes care of his children, does not beat me, yell at me, or come home drunk and lie....strange ass is not that big of a deal I once made it out to be. I could not imagine fkin the same person for that long, and not getting totally bored with it regardless of how good it is. Now, I am not one to go out and cheat, but I would probably not mind if he did. Not long ago, I felt much differently.
...now okay, now try to describe it with someone who touched your soul.
Then try going to dinner with her/him. Then try weddings. And funerals for people who matter. There comes a moment when a touch of their hand is more powerful than any BBBJ. Any DATY.
Somethings words cannot describe, but I will try -- it's when a person is more than the woman/man of your dreams -- they are the reason you dream in the first place. When you find that you really don't see rest of the world. I had that. She's gone now. And now I'm here.
And what we have here is great; it's actually better than great. But there's one or two more steps on the stairway to heaven.
My .02 - breathe in, breathe out, and maybe don't give up on it. It will be different for everyone, but it is worth it when it finds you. And Taylor is right on this one, I think. Touching souls is to marriage what going to school is to education (meaning I try to never let me schooling get in the way of my education). Sometimes the best moments in life are simply that - moments -- they don't announce themselves. They just show up and I think it's pretty nice to be able to recognize them and enjoy them for what they are.
I respect your right to your opinions. However I find your black and white view of the world and your attempts to denigrate others' opinions that deviate from your view...tiresome. You pose hypothetical questions on issues that are immensely personal and often have no right or wrong answers. Then you berate those brave enough to take a position that conflicts with yours.
I understand you will have no regard for this post as I am "just a newb" and you are...hmmm still searching for the right word.... Flame away!
Well Miss Steele I hate to contridict you but while it is unlikely it is possible to find True Love here in the jaded hobby world. My girlfriend who was a Top 75 Provider before she retired truly is my Soulmate and we are well on our way to the whole "Happier Ever After" thing..... And she is the hottest and horniest woman I know (Which is why she was my ATF before we became a couple)...and having spent considerable time with a few Porn Stars she is more than a match for them....So lucky for me I dont have to choose....I have both in the same woman.
Love fades... Hearts are made to be broken. God's most graphic example of planned obsolescence.
Souls rise above it all and never break. Yep, sometimes they get lost and have to be returned home, but home is always warm and welcoming even if it was a rough road back. I think that's how you know the difference between the two.
Posted By: viptaylorsteele
Let me preface by saying clearly not one of us in this hobby world has found their true 'soulmate' if you believe in that sort of thing, thats a given. But with regards to my post below and comments regarding real love, if you had the choice who would you choose if Mr. or Ms. True Soulmate was standing on one side of you and Mr. or Ms. Hot Pornstar was standing on the other.....who's hand would you grab instantly....and why.
Now I know this may be a jaded question in asking this especially here but I am curious if you would choose that real love I am talking about (if you are capable of course) or a romp in the sack with a different hottie any chance you get......
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