I always use a  lady's stage name even when their real name is revealed either through a Venmo or need to show ID on a date or she volunteers it.  I just think it is proper to do that.  What do you do when you learn their real name? By the way- I don't even ask- I always stick with the stage name!

f you know each other's real names, you can credibly claim to be just having an affair rather than engaging in P4P. You have to decide the risk/benefit calculation for yourself.  

What kids twisted their real name into as a silly insult in elementary school, and call them that. (eg. Bobbie Smith = Boobie Sniff)

The exception is when they go UTR / retire. The relationship becomes more like a FWB or Sugar with more time spent in public,  so real names are appropriate.  

I always use her professional name.  In cases where a friendship developed with a provider and we were doing friend-type activities, I’ve used her real name. It helps me keep the two worlds separate.

...I find myself stuttering and ultimately using her stage name. I prefer that. Maybe it's like girlfan1959 said- if I continue using her stage name it's still a fantasy and "not real" in my mind. It's also less confusing to keep only one name in my brain, lol.

I’ve always assumed what’s out if their mouths is a lie. Women and women no matter what they do.

Mongering is fantasy fucking.  If a provider looks like some famous woman I'd like to bang, say Nicole Aniston, I'd tell her and ask if I could call her Nicole.  I've run across several providers that go by the name Barbie.  I've never banged a plastic doll shorter than my dick nor have had the fantasy to do so.  I have to change that name or risk my imagination keeping the wood from sprouting.  I've yet to have a provider deny my name assignment.  It probably makes their job easier.