Should reviewers be limited to giving only one "one in a lifetime" rating?

I've been confounded by similar conundrum too. It's like "should a hobbyist be limited to have only one ATF?"

It's all just so confusing isn't it?  How can a guy possibly wade through all this confusion to make good choices?  Life is tough isn't it?  Yet we somehow soldier on...

And once you're an ATF, you stay on that list FOREVER!  (Psycho music playing)

I don't think so.  I've had many experiences I consider to be "once in a lifetime."

You can have many experiences that are beyond your wildest dreams, or that are absolutely phenomenal, or that are some other superlative. By definition, however, you can't have many experiences that are "once in a lifetime." Words, after all, have meanings. Otherwise, you end up on the slippery slope toward 1984's Newspeak or, even worse, Fox News.

I am guilty of that. If i could go back and rerate there would be lots of tens turning into 8's.

Some of us spend a great deal of time researching the providers that we see and often select those who already have very high ratings. 95% of the time the provider lives up to the great reviews and high expectations and I give them 10s. The problem is when the experience is not as great as advertised. Do you give an honest evaluation? If she doesn't meet my expectations, I choose not to write a review at all rather than break the provider's streak of 10s. Perhaps the "ethical" thing to do is write the honest review and let the chips fall where they may. But I take the easy way out, realizing that we just didn't connect and either she or I was having an off day.

In this hobby there tends to be two types of atfs, at least for me. 1) Ones with whom you connect spiritually. They literally won't let you leave. There are overnights, breakfasts, lunches, dinners, freebies, long pillow talks, gifts, personal information, emails, phone chats, on and on. 2) Ones with whom you connect strictly in a physical sense. They're always defined by the sparks that lead to a forest fire of passion. The fun part is when one and two combined. In those cases, two always leads to one, never the reverse.  

hat is TER' s label, not mine. For me a 10 is the best experience. And like everything in life there is no ONE best. Best is a shared place.

It's all relative so it makes sense that a newbie would post higher; unless he held back on reviewing for a long time there's no basis for comparison. Looking back across all my review I'd definitely make adjustments, up and down, but not by more than one point. I feel pretty good about my looks scores though.

almost every appointment is a "once in a lifetime" event.  (But I am judicious with 10-ratings, nonetheless.)  

Practically speaking, I do have one ATF and don't see her as often as we'd like for financial reasons.  
Many of our encounters have been mind blowing. I still shake my head when we are done with each other
But there have been several unique OIAL ecperiences.

with each OIAL experience having its own uniqueness that may be imitated, but not quite duplicated.

In the Suggestion and Policy board this has discussed a lot. The answer I got was "we are working on that"

great and valid suggestion. I'm even skeptical as a woman when I see a ring of tens across the board for anyone. Noone is perfect. The only dilemma it could cause is if you give your 10 rating, and another woman you meet truly tops it. Then what lol. Great point though and could help the rating system be a little more on point as well.

Guys score according to how they honestly feel about their experience.
So some are more generous with scores - who the hell cares?
There is MORE than enough good information available to us from scores, reviews, ads, ladies' sites, and back-channeling to make wise choices the vast majority of the time.

Many reviews that read like cheap porn are plainly written for the reviewers own benefit. Others are written as ads for, and sometimes actually by, the lady herself, and finally others (the useful ones) are written as you say, for the benefit of the other mongers who are thinking about seeing the reviewed lady.

Can anyone seriously suggest that any more than maybe half of the reviews written are written for the benefit of the "next guy" and are not self serving for either the guy or the lady reviewed?

... from my own experiences?

that is needed to make good choices.  With TER reviews and ladies' ads - can this really get any easier?

It's very important to those of "us" who like to see her have a good time.

consider the possibility that the reviews, as they are now, serve their intended purpose very well. They allow us to research and find the ladies and experiences we are seeking, and help to keep us all safe.

I think too much is made over the scoring system as well. It serves my purposes just fine. I put much more stock into the written words, but by bc thru pm, than I do anything on the review. Sure, I'll get her menu items from the reviews, hopefully, but I don't take them as gospel. I get the truth, as close as I can come, by hitting up her reviewers and building up trust with guys I have known for a decade in this biz.

I have gotten very good at finding the gals who cum over and over and over. It's almost like a sixth sense with me. The screaming, panting, yelling, etc. all very obvious signs I made it to the promised land.

It means she's such a good actress she can be convincing eight times in one hour. That's Meryl Streep quality.

Yeah...that may be the answer.

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It means she's such a good actress she can be convincing eight times in one hour. That's Meryl Streep quality.

I made the suggestion in Suggestions and Policy to just quit using a 10 to mean "Once in a Lifetime,"but instead, use something like "Fantastic" "A time I'll never forget", Mind Blowing" or some other verbal superlative.
They replied, "We are working on it."

Obviously, TER has no rule against giving more than one 10.  So I give 10s to girls who are "as good as it gets" in either looks or performance.
Some members give 10s to almost everyone they review.  Those are easy to ignore.  I really don't care.
To me, the fact that they decided to use "one in a lifetime" was not meant to be taken literally.


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...however, it just makes them look sad.

Or 5 preferred customers, but you can't have 5 "all time favorites." At least not at the same time. An ATF can replace a former ATF.

Just because 5 ATFs defy logic, why cant a fella have five simultaneous ATFs. Same with the "once in a lifetimes" you could have five OIALs one right after the other.

I'm with you Minnie. I have about 5 ATF's myself. And there is something different I get from all of them. Do I have some that I enjoy seeing more than the others? Sure. Would I be willing to give up all the others to see just that one? Honestly, no, I couldn't. That in itself tells me it is possible to have more than one ATF. ~~~~Rob

and if not for p4p Ter and to some extent p411, providers use the service, I would never in this lifetime meet these extraordinary ladies. These are the world's finest in many ways and it is insane to limit your thoughts to only one being worthy.

and FWIW, I come down on the side that says it's okay to have multiple ATFs.  The key is that little "s" on the end that makes it plural.  If a guy sees 20 ladies a year over 10 years, he can slice and dice this all he wants.  Maybe he has 5 still-active favorites, 7 ATFs from all 200, perhaps one ultimate ATF a hair above the rest, 10 "What was I thinking?" gals, 5 "only if we were the last 2 left on earth", an perhaps 1 "if I was stranded on a desert island with her - I'd chance the swim across the Pacific" lady.

I agree with your comment about scoring intimidation.
The thing with the "all 10s" ladies is that it just isn't credible on-it's-face.
Even when I was brand new that was obvious to me.
But beyond the rating and service, I think those ladies become a luxury item.
Seems to me that part of the bene of paying the exorbitant price and giving their 10/10 is later being able to say, "yep, I had a piece of that perfection."
A lot more ego involved as compared to seeing the great $250 an hour lady who provides superlative service (like my current favorite).

According to the Review FAQs a 10 means "one in a million." I wonder why it doesn't say that in the actual reviews?