Heres a question that came up the other day, and I'm curious on people's thoughts.

In a perfect world, if there were an opportunity to prepay sessions, with no reservations about being ripped off or conned.

If the financial part were taken care of beforehand so that it never came up or needed to be considered during the actual session, would that enhance the session?

Or does the transaction still play a role in keeping things in perspective, and help keep everyone on the same page, keeping boundaries from being crossed?

In a perfect world, it would.. But since the perfect world doesn't exist, it's probably impossible to try your idea... but sounds good anyway....

I have experienced something along the lines of the hour was nearly up and the provider and I were in our zone when she sensed that I could probably handle yet a third pop.  So, being the sport she was, she suggested lets see if you can do it again, on me and if you succeed, we go have a bite to eat afterwards... Goes without saying that next time I was in the market, she was first on my mind...Win/Win...

IMHO, and in the words of some of my friends, yes it makes the session more of a date and the mind is totally free to focus on one another. I've never experienced a blurring of boundaries as a result. I can see how that might happen. Maybe the intentional frequent renewals keeps that in check?

I don't recommend this for everyone as it tales very clear commimication, matched expectations, and lots of trust.

i have had two situations where clients have wished to "pre-pay" for future engagements so that the business aspect of the hobby would never have to be a thought or concern during our time together. in one case it worked out okay, but in the other it was a nightmare. these things depend entirely on the individual people and circumstances, emotional baggage and so on. in the case where it didn't work out, on my part it was due to a feeling of immense pressure...pressure to "pay back" what was owed, so to speak. there was always that thought looming over my head: "i owe X. 6 hours." for me it made it impossible to go about things in a normal and natural way.

in the situation where it worked out positively, there was already a close friendship (outside the hobby relationship) established, so the pressure involved was relatively minor. however it was still not a 100% comfortable situation for me...in general i do feel that it is healthy to keep the business aspect of these relationships clear and upfront, so that healthy boundaries can be maintained.

I have a Fav lafy I know has financial pressure.  I don't prepay.  I don't make promises.  I see her as often as I can.  We settle on the spot.  Comfortable for both of us.
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I have a friendship relationship with a fav. and as is sometimes the case when she travels, I'll pick her car up from the shop or whatever. When the amount totals up to near a session sometimes I'll just suggest when we are both free we have a good time. Other times if she's too busy she just pays me back.
I have to say, because of the friendship prepaying by taking care of expenses for her seems less businees like.

Been there done that and would not do it again.  My experiences the service quality are the same independent of prepayment but some have report that prepayment reduces the incentive for a lady to provide a quality experience because of the guarantee repeat. You are always aware it a business transactions even with prepayment.  You constantly keep track how many sessions you used, if the time limit to use up all your sessions is about to expire, and to bring cash for a gratuity. The one up side is that you don’t have carry a large amount of cash every time you see the lady.  However it does tie up your hobby capital and prevents you from taking advantage of other emerging hobby opportunities with other ladies. Often prepayments locks you into a particular type of session and sometimes you want to experience different session (1hr, 2 hr,  overnight) which you can not take advantage of because your capital is tied up.  Sometimes a lady will offer a special that is equal or better than discount she gives to prepayment clients. It is also awkward to not renew or to terminate the agreement and determine the value of the unused portion for reimbursement. It is my experience it not possible for even two well intended people to be 100% consistent on the terms of the agreement.  I am now a pay as you go client only.  I am not against deposit or completer prepayment for SINGLE long term sessions such as overnighters or for travel companions.  

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The passing of money has no significance for me so I wouldn't care when or how it happens (as long as there is no counting etc.)