if the wife is unavailable, the husband finds someone who is; though a professional, not a civie. Still, it's not acceptable to insult her by talking about it, or leaving any evidence of the occurrence.

Curious how many have SO that
1. Actively participate in the hobby
2. Accept the playing because they don't mind having a SP take care of
3. Your SO knows you know that she knows (how ever you want to cut) but nobody says anything

What culture would that be.  Would consider civvie SO again if I could meet someone like that.

After a few years of a sexless and troubled marriage, I told my wife I wanted to keep trying to work it out but one condition had to be an open marriage.  She can do what she wants, and so can I.  In my case she knows that means seeing providers.  She was OK with it at first, but once she knew I'd begun she became very unhappy about it.  We are now living apart in a "don't ask, don't tell" situation.  Where it will lead, who knows?  Probably divorce.

She herself actively participates in the hobby, and know of and approves of my hobbying. We do talk about it though so #3 not so much, but 1 and 2, yep got that.

Yes, I am bragging. You would to, if it was you who could say such.

I ask because I know guys who are puerto rican and dominican and they have this arrangement and say it is common. He says wife almost caught him once and said don't be stupid, tell these girls your married so they don't come here. He was like, she is right and now when he picks up women he tells them right off he is married. Some are ok with it because they are hooked up too but just want some fun. And they know not to call or come to his house.

Do yourself a favor, start putting away $ right now where she'll never find it.

Leave no paper trail.

Best bet is to hand cash over to a very trusted friend for them to sit on until after the divorce is well over.

I wish I had done so.

If my SO was a provider and I paid to see escorts, would that be recycling?

Seems like its paying for it twice

In Salt Lake City, no less!  Thought the Mormons had the state locked down.

Yes, this state makes it a pain to get real booze and keeps the street walkers off the streets. But, behind closed doors there is more sex going on paid or other wise then you would believe. Mormons are as kinky as anyone else, maybe even more so. Look at the birth rate here, it is the highest in the country. The Mormons just hide their perversions better then the rest f us.

Thanks but it's too late for that, though I protected myself fairly well beforehand.

1 coming in and 1 going out.

I will let in on something. That snow enabled me to live out one of my most kinky sex dreams of taking a unforgiving wilderness and turning it into a comfortable, safe love nest with my wilderness survival skills. Then making love to a beautiful woman there.

Snow is a great insulator and two bodies going at it made the snow cave plenty comfortable. I love Utah's snow.