Yesterday, I had the unfortunate experience of booking a new client who ended up being a total wreck. When I screen, if I see that they're annoyingly paranoid that can't be reassured with anything, I won't book them. But we spoke and everything checked out; he didn't seem too concerned with anything. When he got here he was visibly shaking, I could hear his heart racing. I tried to make him feel at home as soon as he stepped in: warm hug and a kiss, lively conversation, teased him a bit, and tried to make as much physical contact as he would let me. It was a painfully awkward experience that lasted 5 minutes without any real physical contact.  

Seriously.

Reminds me of my first meeting with an escort.  For the first 15 minutes I was staring at her and she was staring at me.  I was waiting for the SWAT team to drop through the ceiling tiles and slide down ropes to arrest me.

He was just new and green and maybe he will be more relaxed the 2nd or 3rd time around? I would of told him to come back, it only gets better.

I loved waking up to this post. 😍😂😂

Guys like that need a little laugh to loosen up. Shout "Freeze, Asshole" and whip out a badge and a toy gun. Have your camera ready to catch the adorable look on his face.  BTW what happened after those awkward 5 minutes?

That would be hilarious! Unless he was ucleo...

I like to ask very sweetly, "would it make you feel less nervous if I put your dick in my mouth?"

He awkwardly got dressed and left.

Perfect!🙃  
I'm going to steal this from you. . .

...literally.
If someone like me can somehow muster up the courage to put herself out there calmly and confidently then why a guy freaks the fuck out is beyond me.

This hobby is not for everyone.  It's on him.  You can ask nicely if there's anything you can do to make him feel better but if he wants to walk, then ok too.  Some guys might well have a SO & have internal issues with what he's thinking of doing.  
If he decides against what he's been planning, he's learned something aboout himself.  Unfortunately it's cost you appointment time & therefore potential income but all you can do is be nice about it & not make him feel worse.

I'm usually pretty good at putting guys at their ease but this guy was jittery about whether I was kosher and not going to rip him off - did he even read my reviews I wonder??  
It does make for an awkward session because the jittery does rub off a bit. Tiring to deal with and try to maintain relaxed air )

Quoting Cookie from "Empire." This game is not for the faint hearted.

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Just how much courage does it take to have sex with a hooker? We aren't talking about dodging sniper fire here.

I would never call attention to someone's nervous energy.  It would just likely tend to make them more self-conscious.  I would just recommend to act calm and take a very gentle initiative. I won't give lessons on how a female can be seductive because just about anything works on me, but from a guy's perspective if we are trying to seduce someone, we start with eye contact, lighthearted banter, incidental touching, etc.  It's all innocent and at the same time the (willing) victim is perceiving a whole host of potential outcomes -- a typhoon of emotions.

Paranoia will run deep,"Am I being followed", "my phone has her number, ah shit", "Suppose someone sees me" and the oh shit, "I need to get this bad boy up or I'm out $$$"....Hey I was alittle uptight my first time so I get it.....I just hope the dude didn't shit his pants...and no I didn't.

I was pretty shy in my younger days, especially around women.  I'm still an introvert, but after a few marriages and affairs, the women have sort of fallen off the pedestal.

You didn't do anything wrong sweetie.   Maybe reality set in and he realized this is no longer a fantasy and couldn't take the next step. And that's okay.   Sometimes it just takes a sincere bear hug while sitting on his lap facing him.
It always slows things down and they become more comfortable.  I hope this helps

nobody says boo if a woman got raped and couldn't be touched, or if a soldier returns from incountry and can't handle sudden noises and relationships.  but if  a boy has a traumatic upbringing, somehow he's supposed to be able to walk himself through the psychological mine field of his own damaged psyche and become macho, other wise he's a wimp.

i was nervous too, i don't know what to expect like how she looks like, or what should I do to make her to like me or ........ but hey, like you said sweetheart, like every provider, first thing we laid on our eyes, she gave me a hug and kisses that put me at ease so fast and rest is history.....

You are right about me cutting some huge slack had it been a woman who expressed such distress on her first session. Women are socialized from birth to be demure, non-aggressive and non-assertive, especially when it comes to issues of a sexual nature. It takes some huge huevos for a chick to even head down this hobby path. So had it been a woman hobbyist who had lost her shit I wouldn't have been as surprised.
Yes, EVERYBODY is no doubt nervous their first time (I know I was) but usually not to the point of a meltdown.  

what about the traumatized that aspire to normalcy?

No I didn't read it that way.  
I surmised that it was a simple case of someone losing their nerve, and totally losing their shit about it.

Honestly, I don't want to go down this PC road again. If you are afraid of pussy, yes you are a wimp by every definition I can think of. How a person got to be that way is beside the point.  

I think was sincerely asking for how to better handle the situation.  Very likelythe client was a newbie even though it wasn't on that forum.  While there's no need for kid gloves, there's no need to be rude.  
After thinking on this, the only additional thing I'd add is possibly offering a back rub...  to give him time to think.  Though in this case, it probably wouldn't have helped.  I think a massage type service is a good way to break in for a newbie.

Asian agency girls always start nervous guys out with a light massage.  It puts them on their face, so no eye contact, your privates are not exposed, but you still feel the nakedness of the provider on top of you.  Gives them a chance to refocus on the sensual feeling and lose some of their apprehensions.  Once their heart stops racing, the provider has them flip over for a BJ, and all is good.

damp, as in very damp, that I remember ...  

Posted By: jennamichaels

You didn't do anything wrong sweetie.   Maybe reality set in and he realized this is no longer a fantasy and couldn't take the next step. And that's okay.   Sometimes it just takes a sincere bear hug while sitting on his lap facing him.  
 It always slows things down and they become more comfortable.  I hope this helps  

I had my lingerie on with thigh high and garter, but no undies. I walked in front of him and bent over to grab something out of my bag in the closet and just kept talking to him like I was apologizing that I forgot something.

That's what I did. I'm not sure what it was, being uneducated on the hobby most likely. I was literally shaking that first time. Was I afraid of pussy? Oh hell no! That's ridiculous! Pussy and women should rule this world (I think they do actually)  
My nerves just got the best of me. I jumped in before educating myself on experienced girls, what to do, what to look for and so on.
I'm still a newbie here without a lot of experience. But I think being a wimp or "growing a set" has nothing to with it. Everyone here has different lives and their reasons for being a bit worried for what might happen to them. Who knows what this guys issues were? I think I'll give the guy the benefit of the doubt tho. Prolly just new tho and didn't do his homework.  

I normally do that anyways!!!

...although freezing in your tracks it a different story. :O