A good morning to you all!

A few questions on choosing references.

Guys, if you have seen a number of ladies and parted on friendly terms with them, you probably have some range of options in who you could ask to be a reference for that next new lady that caught your eye. Assuming you are a polite and respectful hobbyist, and all the ladies you've seen within a reasonable timeframe (last 6 months?) would vouch for you, how do you pick?

Do you ask the lady you have seen the most and who knows you the best?

Do you spread requests around, so as not to annoy your ATF's by asking repeatedly?

Any consideration into the type of provider, such as having an older MILF be a reference for another?


Okay, time for the ladies:

Assuming any of the references would vouch that the donation was right, the guy was respectful and time/boundary rules were observed appropriately, does it matter greatly who gives the references? (Obviously, if you really know the lady personally, that means more, but aside from that.)

Any other factors?

Thanks!

I am pretty new to this hobby. I've seen one lady twice and another in a massage parlor. I have not had to ask if they are willing to give a reference. But, I will be soon.
If a lady is asking for a reference, is she also more likely to be willing to give one?

For me it would have to be the last couple I've seen for fear the others wouldn't remember me. I've always wondered how the ladies could remember a guy 6 months down the road.

It does not matter to me as long as the lady is willing to vouch for him.

However I am sometimes intruiged by the wide variety in physical features that hobbyist seek = )

I have been white listed by about 10 gals.  When asked for references I say "I'll be happy to provide references, or you can check my TER white list and contact any of those gals.  They will all be happy to say something nice about me"

So far this has worked every time.  I do expect one day, a gal to say "I don't have TER white list access" and I will then provide references based upon geographic and comparable rate schedules.

Thank you TER!

And Thank You to the wonderful ladies who use TER's white list feature.  Kisses!

Last in, first out. I usually ask the most recent lady I've seen for a reference. I drop her an email and tell her that I've given her name. I've also been fortunate to have white list referrals. There is some debate on the white list, ladies saying how do I know it's you.
A simple PM email usually does the trick. Remember when requesting a referral that you should refresh the ladies memory of your visit.

I always use the whitelist system.

The white list is great, but only if I am pm'd from TER.  Anyone can say they are you in a generic email.  It's happened where someone will say they are so & so on Ter with numerous White lists.  Come to find out, they were not who they say they are.  A PM from here verifies that you are in fact the real deal.

As for who gives the references, when someone gives me a name, I always look to see if the gentleman has reviewed her.  If he has several reviews, but not this particular provider, I always wonder why he a: didn't review her, and b: why is he using her instead of the others.  But then again, I tend to be a little anal about references.  Keeps us BOTH safe.

Have a great week!

Kari

even the very, very few gents i have seen only once. with my "process" which is rather more involved and personal than most, forgetting someone would just be an impossibility. this is of course aside from the fact that most of my relationships with clients are very long-term, so someone i saw six months or even a year ago, chances are is still a current regular.

I've been lucky enough to have lots of ladies that will vouch for me.  Several of them ask to see me again, since they love my envelopes better than another.

When I want to see someone new, I need to spread them around to not offend the lady that I've just told I don't have the time/money to see.  Still, life could be worse, right?

I use the ones I know don't have a problem and get all stupid about me seeing another girl in the same city rather than them. I also use the ones who have proven in the past that they will hook me up in about an hour and I won't have to wait two days to get verified.

If I use my TER white list, chances are it's with a TER lady.  I always send a PM to confirm that it's me & not some pretender...    

skb

Date-Check.  I simply give the lady my ID and she can see the ladies I've seen and contact the ones she thinks are credible references.

eagle

I ask ladies who I have seen more than once who know me the best.  I will spread the requests around, so as not to annoy a particular lady by asking repeatedly.