I was thinking about bringing a couple 50ml (mini bottles) of Disaronno to my next incall. 50ml is basically a shot and a half that I would want to take with ice in a short drink glass (not pound it). I love Disaronno. 50 ml is just a little whistle wetter. Its rich and sweet liquor that goes down easy when its cold and would be enough to take the edge off when I arrive (not really a shot of tequila or whiskey or something). I'm not a wine drinker and wondered if that would be a bad thing to bring? I've picked up 4 packs of Mikes hard lemonade before and Smirnoff Ice, I've even brought a bottle of wine to incalls before, but since no ones goal is to get buzzed, I've never once had more than a few sips of a glass of anything while talking before something popped up, so I thought the tiny Disaronno bottle would be nice for a little whistle wetter each at the beginning of the date? Minimalist and tasty. Im drunk right now so it seems like a perfect idea right no

Don't think you can get through a session without a drink first. Hopefully, as you get more experience with beautiful women, your self-confidence improve, your performance anxiety will recede, and you won't need alcohol at the start of a session to "take the edge off."  Alcohol desensitizes and dulls your nerve endings, thereby reducing the intensity of the pleasure you feel during various sex acts.

As long as the bottles are sealed and untampered with, I don't see why it's a problem.

I'd do it about 30 minutes before calling on the gal so it would be effective.

as long as you're not crossing someone's boundaries or getting silly drunk and attracting attention to yourself do what you want. The main thing is all parties involved are comfortable with the situation and where it might be going.

The same as bringing a bottle of wine. I offer a fully stocked bar in my regular incall for clients to partake in to take the edge off and just have conversation. If you like Disaronno then feel free to bring it as long as the provider is alcohol friendly.

I've always had a bit of social anxiety around strangers. I had a low level marketing position years ago where I had to train sales people off power points and I own a small business now, so Im use to meeting new people, but in social situations I am always a little uncomfortable with new people until I get to know them. I grew up in a violent and drug infested neighborhood when I was I kid and theres no doubt in my mind that effected my ability to trust and open up to people I don't know, even though I'm over 40 and moved from that state all together.  

but once again I find myself at odds with the "anti alcohol" crowd. Jesus fucking H Christ, what the fuck is wrong with having a drink, or even ten of them if both parties feel the urge?

There's a difference between "wanting" a drink and "needing" a drink.  I am not anti-drinking and can drink most of my friends under the table.  However I don't do alcohol or weed when hobbying for the reasons I put in my post.  I was only addressing the "need" for a drink to "take the edge off."  You are taking my statement out of context, so fuck you, too.

I see no problem with a little!  

and if I (or any other swinging dick or pussy) wants to have one, or a dozen, that's our fucking business.

when traveling in a country where pussy is very cheap I decided to experiment with what I call "drunk fucking."  Maybe it's just me, but I found it to be pretty much the same as sober fucking.
The experiment will continue shortly.
I'm not sure if that was advice, but....

"wanting" a drink with "needing" a drink.  Its apples and oranges.  Apparently, no matter how I explain it, you're not going to get it.  I suggest you read the OP again.  He said he "needed" a drink to "take the edge off."  He didn't say he like to have a drink to enhance his experience.  That's different.  To me, that not social drinking like you're describing, its dependency.  If you think about it rationally, you might get it.

My last session twenty some hours ago was also while drunk.  

It's like you honed in on that one thing. If he had said to relax would that have been better in your world? A LOT of people will take a nip or so to do that. So what? And you interjecting  the part about maybe when he gets more reviews under his belt, blah blah blah sounded a bit condescending IMO.

CDL is all "wet" on this drinking thing. He was also being condescending when he said "its ashame" the guy cant get through a session without a drink first.

Even though I am an introvert and would have trouble walking up to a civie girl just to talk about the weather, I am not nervous at all visiting an escort, not even my first time.  Probably because there is little mystery in how the interaction is going to play out.

anything about reviews.  Maybe you should read MY post again.  I can only go by what he wrote.  I can't look into his mind.  If he didn't mean he "needed" to drink, then he should learn to express his throughts better.  Needing to drink to "relax" is not different than what I said.

in order to get wood or last more than five minutes, I don't have a problem with that.  In that case, yes, they NEED a drink, but lets call a spade a spade.  That's all I'm saying.  Once again, all together . . . . WANTING a drink because you like booze is not the same as NEEDING a drink to curb anxiety, no matter how you want to sugar-coat it.

My apologies to CDL for saying he was blowing the OP!

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That sounded condescending!

This is because it inhibits my ability to enjoy my time with the girl. I have been known to have a drink AFTER as I relish the time spent, or to relax with the girl after our intimate time with a libation. But I never drink before.

And I can't change it now! Oh well.

I'm so confused.

Classic Newbie or low-volume hobbyist behavior.  I PM with hundreds of veteran hobbyists all over the country throughout the year, and never met any that still have anxiety with a new provider that needed a drink to calm their nerves. You say I was condescending, but I thought I was compassionate in reassuring him that this type of anxiety will pass with more experience. I get OM's from Newbies too that often ask questions about coping with anxiety because hey haven't seen many providers because they're new to the hobby, which means that are a . . . . Anyone? . . . .Newbie.  Should I just be telling them to have a few drinks and forget about every getting past their anxieties?

dinner and drinks AFTER.

"In your early days."  That's what I was trying to tell him.  These things pass with more hobby experience.

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Some of you guys simply can't hold your booze. lol

Methinks the "gentleman" doth protest too much.  You really don't have to put up all of this justification for your drinking. You clearly have achieved balance in your life and that's what happiness is all about.  One man's knee-walking drunkeness is merely another man's social hour. I get it.

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Instead of alcohol to calm your nerves,  take a pill to help with your erection. I assume you are nervous about the appointment and that anxiety may lead to your dong not erecting properly? Rather take something that actually helps your erection or blood flow. I think you might like it better.

which are mostly in older men.

And there is nothing wrong with using it as a "crutch" if necessary.  

PE issues, a few drinks will definately slow you down. GaG and I are in complete agreement that fucking more is best.

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I have been reading all this stuff and I have to say it is pretty comical how far this post went. I originally asked about bringing a couple of mini bottles of Disaronno to share with a girl (mini bottles are 50ml, or basically two single shots) of a tasty, amaretto liqueur. LOL. Not sure how we went from that to being drunk and sexual side effects like lack of stimulation or PE off a 1.5 oz, single shot of chilled amaretto liquor, but okay! I run a small business and am usually stupid busy all day answering phones, meeting new customers, doing installations, repairs and trying to stay on top of my scheduled maintenance accounts. Setting appointments to be someplace on a work day between 5 and 7pm can be hectic and having a shot, a beer, a glass of wine, a low dose edible etc, allows me to unwind so I can relax. It takes the edge off. My mind is often racing when I get to an incall with work and getting there on time etc, and I just want to relax and get in the mood. Its also is a nice way (in my opinion) to start a conversation with a stranger, to overcome the anxiety I often feel when I am with someone/or people I don't know. I love it when I meet another person who is like yea! Ill have a drink with ya! I immediately think cool! I always ask company if they want to smoke, or have a drink, or if they're hungry when they stop by my house. Its simply considerate IMO. I know straight cases who often never drink, or smoke and I always feel weird hanging out with them LOL. I am a boater and I like to party so I gravitate toward those who also like to tip a cup.