The same as bringing a bottle of wine. I offer a fully stocked bar in my regular incall for clients to partake in to take the edge off and just have conversation. If you like Disaronno then feel free to bring it as long as the provider is alcohol friendly.
I was thinking about bringing a couple 50ml (mini bottles) of Disaronno to my next incall. 50ml is basically a shot and a half that I would want to take with ice in a short drink glass (not pound it). I love Disaronno. 50 ml is just a little whistle wetter. Its rich and sweet liquor that goes down easy when its cold and would be enough to take the edge off when I arrive (not really a shot of tequila or whiskey or something). I'm not a wine drinker and wondered if that would be a bad thing to bring? I've picked up 4 packs of Mikes hard lemonade before and Smirnoff Ice, I've even brought a bottle of wine to incalls before, but since no ones goal is to get buzzed, I've never once had more than a few sips of a glass of anything while talking before something popped up, so I thought the tiny Disaronno bottle would be nice for a little whistle wetter each at the beginning of the date? Minimalist and tasty. Im drunk right now so it seems like a perfect idea right no
Don't think you can get through a session without a drink first. Hopefully, as you get more experience with beautiful women, your self-confidence improve, your performance anxiety will recede, and you won't need alcohol at the start of a session to "take the edge off." Alcohol desensitizes and dulls your nerve endings, thereby reducing the intensity of the pleasure you feel during various sex acts.
I'd do it about 30 minutes before calling on the gal so it would be effective.
It worked just fine. Some of us need our training wheels.
"In your early days." That's what I was trying to tell him. These things pass with more hobby experience.
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I've always had a bit of social anxiety around strangers. I had a low level marketing position years ago where I had to train sales people off power points and I own a small business now, so Im use to meeting new people, but in social situations I am always a little uncomfortable with new people until I get to know them. I grew up in a violent and drug infested neighborhood when I was I kid and theres no doubt in my mind that effected my ability to trust and open up to people I don't know, even though I'm over 40 and moved from that state all together.
I'm actually a talkative person and have never had a problem with working girls liking me or anything. But I am always a little more chatty and upbeat if I dont know someone, or am around a new group of people if we have a drink together.
but once again I find myself at odds with the "anti alcohol" crowd. Jesus fucking H Christ, what the fuck is wrong with having a drink, or even ten of them if both parties feel the urge?
Some of us like to drink, others don't. I don't berate those of you who don't drink, just like I don't berate those who don't fuck for money. I am however sick and fucking tired of the judgmental fucks here who think it's ok to tell the rest of us that we should drink while enjoying the company of the opposite sex, and that includes several of my friends here, Fuck you too. Yes, CDL I am talking to you!!! You don't like it when people say you should "need" to pay for sex, I find it rather condescending when people like you imply I "need" a drink to enjoy the company of a hooker. You do it your way, and I'll do it mine, fair enough?
Lastly, a LOT of people, both men and women, seem to think 420 helps them enjoy sex. I am most definitely not one of them, but I don't go around telling them they shouldn't take a toke before a session if they enjoy doing so. So let's lighten the fuck up around here and quit talking down to people who's views on drug and alcohol might be different than yours.
(and yes, I should have posted this under CDL's post and it's really him I am addressing not Surly boy)
There's a difference between "wanting" a drink and "needing" a drink. I am not anti-drinking and can drink most of my friends under the table. However I don't do alcohol or weed when hobbying for the reasons I put in my post. I was only addressing the "need" for a drink to "take the edge off." You are taking my statement out of context, so fuck you, too.
and if I (or any other swinging dick or pussy) wants to have one, or a dozen, that's our fucking business.
I am hardly taking your statement "out of context" If you want to "project" that too is your own damn business, but don't be surprised when you get a hearty FUCK YOU in return.
The OP didn't ask your permission to have a fucking drink, and neither am I. Now get off your high fucking horse, Yon and the rest of the fucking people around here who don't seem to have ever learned how to hold your fucking booze.
"wanting" a drink with "needing" a drink. Its apples and oranges. Apparently, no matter how I explain it, you're not going to get it. I suggest you read the OP again. He said he "needed" a drink to "take the edge off." He didn't say he like to have a drink to enhance his experience. That's different. To me, that not social drinking like you're describing, its dependency. If you think about it rationally, you might get it.
It's like you honed in on that one thing. If he had said to relax would that have been better in your world? A LOT of people will take a nip or so to do that. So what? And you interjecting the part about maybe when he gets more reviews under his belt, blah blah blah sounded a bit condescending IMO.
Steph
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CDL is all "wet" on this drinking thing. He was also being condescending when he said "its ashame" the guy cant get through a session without a drink first.
Its "ashame"? Really? According to whom?
If the guy NEEDS or WANTS a drink, a distinction CDL seems to think is SO vitally important, wtf is it any of CDL's business?
Alcohol is basically a drug, and a legal one at that, and can be used to destress, have fun, relax, get wild, etc. Lets not get on our high horse about it and no need to lecture the OP.
Alcohol also has vastly different affects on different people so for him to make a blanket statement that "alcohol desensitizes and dulls your nerve endings, thereby reducing the intensity of the pleasure you feel during various sex acts" is certainly true for SOME but certainly not ALL
My apologies to CDL for saying he was blowing the OP! 
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anything about reviews. Maybe you should read MY post again. I can only go by what he wrote. I can't look into his mind. If he didn't mean he "needed" to drink, then he should learn to express his throughts better. Needing to drink to "relax" is not different than what I said.
That sounded condescending!
Classic Newbie or low-volume hobbyist behavior. I PM with hundreds of veteran hobbyists all over the country throughout the year, and never met any that still have anxiety with a new provider that needed a drink to calm their nerves. You say I was condescending, but I thought I was compassionate in reassuring him that this type of anxiety will pass with more experience. I get OM's from Newbies too that often ask questions about coping with anxiety because hey haven't seen many providers because they're new to the hobby, which means that are a . . . . Anyone? . . . .Newbie. Should I just be telling them to have a few drinks and forget about every getting past their anxieties?
And I can't change it now! Oh well.
I'm so confused.
Even though I am an introvert and would have trouble walking up to a civie girl just to talk about the weather, I am not nervous at all visiting an escort, not even my first time. Probably because there is little mystery in how the interaction is going to play out.
Alcohol does make me more talkative, I am told. However it also makes Mr. Peter a bit sleepy. So other than sipping an alcoholic beverage before the ceremonies just to be social, I'll try not to over-indulge.
As long as the bottles are sealed and untampered with, I don't see why it's a problem.
Personally myself, I'd prefer to be stone cold sober for this, but to each their own.
as long as you're not crossing someone's boundaries or getting silly drunk and attracting attention to yourself do what you want. The main thing is all parties involved are comfortable with the situation and where it might be going.
Personally I've only taken a bottle of wine once, that was for an appointment late in the evening (not last but close) and was also bring some food for a longer visit. One thing that was clear was the girl I was seeing really didn't want to take more than a few sips because she didn't want to have to deal with it impacting performance if she had a later appointment. Keep in mind not just your perspective but the provider's as well.
The same as bringing a bottle of wine. I offer a fully stocked bar in my regular incall for clients to partake in to take the edge off and just have conversation. If you like Disaronno then feel free to bring it as long as the provider is alcohol friendly.
I see no problem with a little!
Steph xoxo
when traveling in a country where pussy is very cheap I decided to experiment with what I call "drunk fucking." Maybe it's just me, but I found it to be pretty much the same as sober fucking.
The experiment will continue shortly.
I'm not sure if that was advice, but....
My last session twenty some hours ago was also while drunk.
My next session sometime within the next hour or so will be sober. Yes, there is a difference, but not really THAT much of a difference except to those who think there is.
I will say to those who "need" to take the edge off, don't worry about what CDL or any one else has to say about it, do what YOU want, not some asshole on the internet tells you that you "should" want and by asshole I most definitely include myself in the mix.
Once upon a time I found myself not always in control of how fast or slow I would finish, and sometimes I would find myself as the dreaded "two pump chump" a shot or two of alcohol would indeed "desensitize" where it counted and allowed me to prolong the enjoyment much longer. I suppose CDL would have ridiculed me back then for "needing" a drink, but my answer to him back then would have been the same as it is today when I hardly need a drink to last longer, it's still none of his fucking business.
in order to get wood or last more than five minutes, I don't have a problem with that. In that case, yes, they NEED a drink, but lets call a spade a spade. That's all I'm saying. Once again, all together . . . . WANTING a drink because you like booze is not the same as NEEDING a drink to curb anxiety, no matter how you want to sugar-coat it.
This is because it inhibits my ability to enjoy my time with the girl. I have been known to have a drink AFTER as I relish the time spent, or to relax with the girl after our intimate time with a libation. But I never drink before.
dinner and drinks AFTER.
Some of you guys simply can't hold your booze. lol
I often take pains not to drink before a session, not because of any ill effects if might have on my own libido, but because some non drinking providers hate the smell of alcohol on a client.
Lastly, "take the edge off" means many different things to many different people. For some it just means the "edge" they might have from a long day at work, fighting traffic, or any one of a thousand reasons NOT having to due with being nervous about being with a hooker.
Your personal choice not to drink before a session is just that, YOUR personal choice, don't try to make it the OP's or mine for that matter. I've lost track of how many sessions I've had that have come after 30 drinks together. Of course, some of those sessions I could barely remember the very next day, but I digress. Hell I have even had sessions AFTER Korean BBQ, Kimchi and Soju, although I wouldn't recommend it to others. lol
Methinks the "gentleman" doth protest too much. You really don't have to put up all of this justification for your drinking. You clearly have achieved balance in your life and that's what happiness is all about. One man's knee-walking drunkeness is merely another man's social hour. I get it.
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Instead of alcohol to calm your nerves, take a pill to help with your erection. I assume you are nervous about the appointment and that anxiety may lead to your dong not erecting properly? Rather take something that actually helps your erection or blood flow. I think you might like it better.
Go for the V or C. If not that there are some decent OTC, stuff you can get at places like Cirillas or similar stores. Ask them what is most popular it sells the most. Always consult your doctor and understand any risk involved. I have used this method before and works great.
Why get so worked up man? Relax, breathe deeply, and enjoy the moment
which are mostly in older men.
The nervousness I experienced in youth mostly led to PE problems, which a bit of booze seemed to handle pretty well.
Masturbating about an hour ahead of the session also was a good way to cope with PE.
Another issue was that many providers would be upset if I appeared to be nervous. That sometimes became an issue
And there is nothing wrong with using it as a "crutch" if necessary.
I found myself doing exactly that not all that long ago, much to my surprise. I started seeing an SB who was one of those rare women who REALLY liked fucking for hours at a time. Now I have no problem lasting 20-30-40 minutes, but not literally "for hours" In my younger days I could always just go two or three times, with a short rest period in between, but at my "advanced age" of today, once I cum it may take me quite a while to recover and the last thing I wanted to do was disappoint this girl half my age who wasn't charging me a cent to fuck all night.
I ended up doing just what we are talking about, I used alcohol as "crutch" We usually ended up drinking about three bottles of wine together every time we would get together and that was enough that I could virtually "hold back" forever and not so much that I couldn't perform at all. We would fuck for 20-30 minutes at a time and then take a few minutes in between "rounds' only in my case I didn't cum each round, I'd simply take a few minute breather and then start back in again. Say what you want, but it worked for me although it wasn't something I couldn't do every single night. lol
I will agree with CDL that the best way to get over PE is to have a LOT of sex. I have said this before, but any guy who has a problem lasting should go on a fuck fest and fuck four or five times a day, every day for a few days and that should cure him of PE. Preferably with different women each time, but that's not always an option for most guys.
PE issues, a few drinks will definately slow you down. GaG and I are in complete agreement that fucking more is best.
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I have been reading all this stuff and I have to say it is pretty comical how far this post went. I originally asked about bringing a couple of mini bottles of Disaronno to share with a girl (mini bottles are 50ml, or basically two single shots) of a tasty, amaretto liqueur. LOL. Not sure how we went from that to being drunk and sexual side effects like lack of stimulation or PE off a 1.5 oz, single shot of chilled amaretto liquor, but okay! I run a small business and am usually stupid busy all day answering phones, meeting new customers, doing installations, repairs and trying to stay on top of my scheduled maintenance accounts. Setting appointments to be someplace on a work day between 5 and 7pm can be hectic and having a shot, a beer, a glass of wine, a low dose edible etc, allows me to unwind so I can relax. It takes the edge off. My mind is often racing when I get to an incall with work and getting there on time etc, and I just want to relax and get in the mood. Its also is a nice way (in my opinion) to start a conversation with a stranger, to overcome the anxiety I often feel when I am with someone/or people I don't know. I love it when I meet another person who is like yea! Ill have a drink with ya! I immediately think cool! I always ask company if they want to smoke, or have a drink, or if they're hungry when they stop by my house. Its simply considerate IMO. I know straight cases who often never drink, or smoke and I always feel weird hanging out with them LOL. I am a boater and I like to party so I gravitate toward those who also like to tip a cup.
As far as reviews/vs escorts? LOL. I have been seeing escorts since 1996. I didn't have my first computer until 2002 and didn't even know about TER until 2003, which is when I became a member. I don't write reviews all the time. Ive done more recently than in years past, but I dont always write them. I often see a woman more than once for a while, so no need to write more than one review. Sometimes I pop in and out of the hobby taking months off at a time. Its all good!