What I do recall of them however is that their sexual skills had a lot to be desired compared with the professional escorts I now see.

As we say, YMMV.

Has this ever happened to you?  I was having a great time in bed with a girl, kind of mentally taking notes about things I liked so I could describe them in the review the next day.  "The guys on TER will never believe how hot she is!" I was subconsciously thinking.  Then I realized what was running through my mind, and had to laugh inwardly.  She wasn't a provider!  She was a girl that I got lucky with in free-sex-life.  Wow, I never realized that the lifestyle was so deeply ingrained.      

-- Modified on 10/17/2010 6:51:24 PM

Count yourself lucky and leave it at that. If you embrace $4P then its no comparison. Sure, I've gotten to the same point with women and the difference is there is usually an expectation for tomorrow. It's rare when you can see a civilian unless not in your home city/state and walk away w/o some expectation. If and when you do, she's a lot closer to this life than not and you might whisper to her that she can get paid for what she just did. But, quietly please!

You're balls deep in some sexy chica and you're thinking about...us? No, sorry, I'm paraplegic on this one - I don't feel ya.

TER never crosses my mind unless I'm sitting at my computer, or I've decided I'm in the market for an ez-hook up. And even with a pro, no fucking way am I taking notes or thinking about a review when I'm trying to enjoy myself. If and when I decide to write one at all, whatever I can't remember obviously isn't worth writing or reading anyway - otherwise I'd remember it.

Deeply ingrained? Dude, TER is not in and of itself a "lifestyle", it's a tool used to enhance the "lifestyle" you mean to refer to, and for some an occasional source of amusement. At least that's what it's supposed to be. If it means something more than that to you...step away from the keyboard...  

When your "cyber-life" starts encroaching on reality, that might be a  sign that you need a break from this here. Seriously. Consider it. All jokes aside.

Of course the woman involved would be unlikely to ever repeat with the OP is she were ever to find out that the OP was simply thinking about his time with her as something he could share with a bunch of horndogs as us.

Personally I am waaay to selfish to be thinking about any of you other whore mongers when I am spending "quality time" with a lady, whether she be P4P or civvie. The day that I start thinking about other guys when I am balls deep in a lady is the day I run, and not walk away from this site.

Also, I have learned that civie girls who give you sex expect some really outrageous things, like a call the next day and a follow up date with food and/or drinks.  Can you imagine?

Hard to believe I'm still single, I know.

They are two different worlds.

By its nature, a review is a comparison; and comparing civie to p4p is quite a stretch in most cases. The very thought of reviewing a civie would be, imho, a tremendous insult.

Of course, if the civie is a gold digger, by all means review her. In my experience, gold digging civies are really horrible in bed. LOL

I am a sex worker and I'm happy to be one.

Believe it or not, we "providers" have sex just like you do without $$$$$$ being exchanged.

When I have sex in my "civvie" life I do not go around telling my partner that I'm a sex worker.  I do not label myself as one nor do I label myself as a "civvie."  I am just ME and enjoy being me in whatever moment of time I am in.

For all you know, that lady you "got lucky with" is a sex worker.  Or maybe she isn't.  

Point is, labels are lame.  Yeah yeah yeah, this is my feminist activist side revealing its beautiful head but I find it important to speak up about topics that can be deemed offensive to people from all walks of life.  

Being intimate with another human being and immediately viewing them in terms of "scores for TER" is insulting.  

I do not intend this post to be mean spirited, just honest and hopefully an eye-opener for those of you who may be too wrapped up in the demimonde.

Yes!

Thankful for another like-minded person here.

Could easily be a provider. She was that good.

maybe you need to check your verification service and see if she checked your references. You never know. She may have been a provider who was on a civie night out. Or ask a friend to check the providers boards and she if she left a not, you know something like "Civie date last night, Guy was medicore at most things, but he paid for the drink."

You did pay for the drink didn't you?

I apologize, LynetteMarie.  Didn't mean to offend anyone!  It was only a split-second, sub-conscious thought that I was talking about.  I know it was incongruous, and that's why I had a sense of humor about it.  She was actually a great girl that I wish I could have seen more of, but circumstances didn't work out that way.  Best wishes to you -- SWM

Too bad I have to say it, but ... this is to be read with a sense of humor.  I only posted this because it's funny, and it's funny because it's ironic and "just plain wrong," LOL.  I guess I'll post in the Humor section next time.  This incident only happened to me once.  Let's read this as a humorous anecdote, not as an attack on my or anybody's character, okay?  Sometimes I wonder how many of the hobbyists who judge character here are cheating on their wives.  >D