So I've been a ''regular'' of a certain girl for a few months now.  Recently there have been some dramatic developments which I don't really want to talk about here.  These developments are all good, but also very private.

but looking back on the many times where P4P has led to something more, as in "real" dating, i have to admit that on virtually every occasion the "line was crossed" very shortly after meeting.

I can't honestly think of a single time that a long term "regular" client/provider relationship has ever blossomed into something more, except for friendship of course. I am racking my brain to recall the couple of dozen real relationships I have had with providers, and how they started and I can't think of a single one where I didn't at least have an inkling that there was something more after the first couple of visits.

Funny, I have a few ladies where I am a "regular" of sorts, and although  I would be open to dating a couple of them, because they really "do it" for me, which is the reason that I continue to see them, to be perfectly honest with you and myself, I know it's not in the cards for us to be more than friends and/or provider/client. If there was a spark with any of them, it would have manifested itself by now.  My loss

...hangin', bro.  Is it this...

Yikes.

You sound so much less "creepy" this way.

I became friends with a former Provider that used to live in my city. Sure it started out as the usual Client / Provider Relationship. But over time we became Good Friends. She eventually moved out of state. I still keep in contact with her and drive over to see her every now and then. Even after 20 years she is still Fantastic to see.  

Very interesting, thanks for sharing.

Posted By: GaGambler

but looking back on the many times where P4P has led to something more, as in "real" dating, i have to admit that on virtually every occasion the "line was crossed" very shortly after meeting.  

I can't honestly think of a single time that a long term "regular" client/provider relationship has ever blossomed into something more, except for friendship of course. I am racking my brain to recall the couple of dozen real relationships I have had with providers, and how they started and I can't think of a single one where I didn't at least have an inkling that there was something more after the first couple of visits.

Funny, I have a few ladies where I am a "regular" of sorts, and although  I would be open to dating a couple of them, because they really "do it" for me, which is the reason that I continue to see them, to be perfectly honest with you and myself, I know it's not in the cards for us to be more than friends and/or provider/client. If there was a spark with any of them, it would have manifested itself by now.  My loss

because you nailed the answer, "Sometimes people click" there is no deeper answer than that, or maybe I am full of shit as well? lmao

is not really what you're looking for.

meeting with providers from out of state. So it stays a P4P business and not get emotionally attached; except during our GFE meetings.

Sometimes two people "just click" I can't explain it any better than I can explain why two people not in the hobby click. it just "is"

So there isn't a specific reason why, it is just based on the Chemistry between the particular parties in question. However would you say that you tend to get along better with woman who are active in the hobby than those who are not? Would you also say that they would be more compatible to your personality?

I date a lot of hookers because I meet a lot of hookers, If I met only school teachers, most likely those would be the women that I would date the most.

I don't seek out hookers to date, nor do I have a prerequisite that the women I date are "hobby friendly" but I will admit that I do seem to get along quite well with hookers. It might be because they are much more open minded where it comes to sex, or it could be for a thousand other reasons. Either way, it is what it is.

Eat a high fiber low fat diet, get moderate exercise and stay hydrated. That may not make you a regular client, but at least you’ll be a client who’s regular.

There's nothing wrong with that, I know their real name and have their personal telephone number. We catch up at each session and we hold each other and talk about whatever. But when it's over it's over. My motto is derived from a Santana song "you be you, and let me be me". I realize it's an arranged friendship, but it would be very difficult for any woman to fake the feelings we share. But there is a fine line that can't be crossed. We can enjoy those feelings of friendship and liking each other until the hours are up and then we go our separate ways. In this way we are always happy to see each other, we never fight and the only expectations are for the few hours we spend together. This is a wondrous relationship.

I guess I could say I have an arranged friendship or two.

The part I'm wondering about is all this stuff about "never fighting".  My ATF and I often do multi-day engagements, and the GFEness becomes very real very quickly, for both of us.

We've had some really rough moments on a few occasions that felt an awful lot like the kinds of arguments that any "real couple" might have from time to time.  I don't think it has anything to do with (lack of) professionalism on the part of the provider or my being a slob or something.  I just don't think anybody can be on their best behavior every waking moment of a multi-day date.

Don't get me wrong, mine is also a "wondrous relationship", and I'll be seeing this marvelous provider until doomsday, and the feelings in this "wondrous relationship" are likewise not-fake.  I'm just not so sure that an "arranged friendship" must = "we never fight".

Or who knows, maybe our arranged friendship is more real than either of us would like to admit?  I'll break the news to my SO if she breaks the news to hers first!

Naahhhh…..

Why ruin a good thing?  

t, I'm pretty sure the simplest answer is usually the right one. :

Like mister gambler said it just does. 99.9% of the time it's just a buisness deal, ya may even get extra time or grab dinner as friends. No diffrent than a salesman taking a client out. You're comfortable with eachother so it's kind of a friendship of sorts but similar to how you trust you're doctor or accountant. It goes both ways she's comfortable enough where she can share something's with ya and she knows you're not a creep or LE so it's beneficial for her to keep you as a client versus meeting new people.

Don't just pretend to be my GF. Fight with me like we've been married for 30 years. That does sound like a  
"wondrous relationship".

when she decides to quit the hobby. Then she moves on with one special guy most likely another client.
Previously "personal phone numbers" and emails won't work anymore. You ask another provider
what happened and they just scold you and say you should be happy for her. Her other "regulars" say the
same thing out of groupthink. If one is ready for that, it's survivable, if not, well..  it couldn't go on indefinitely.

called an airplane? You could have spent the additional two days with her.

If anyone "needsacure" it's him.

but I wonder how many ladies in this business actually "retire" with a former client and live happily ever after? I would guess it's a rather small number. I know it happens, and if I weren't such a shallow, rutting pig, who couldn't settle for just one woman, no matter how great that woman was, that guy could have been me on more than one occasion, but really, how many women leave this business to be with a guy they met through being a provider?

With so many tempting offers, who could refuse forever?  

Dominance, and Confidence are key. You both display these traits.
Money, and Power don't hurt either.
Unfortunately.. True love is so rare these days.
People don't even know what it is.
Don't get me wrong.
I'm a whoremongerring piece of shit like the rest of us.
But I miss the High School Crush.
Sappy as it is.. It's true.

In most cases, things just stay friendly and benign.  You get to know more and more about each others' personal situations, but for the most part we honor each others' boundaries and good time ensue for years, and in some cases decades.

But there have been a handful of cases where things got out of hand leading to some pretty frayed nerves and collateral damage.  It's part of the life we lead if you let things go too far.

Then there is the case of Bev Fisher and myself: we are getting hitched next year.  I guess I'd call that the most extreme result of getting close.

You don't even have to change your handle!!!

I have seen girls in the cities I have lived in(VCR/SEW/SFO/LA/SD/LV) and some I do see regularly, not so much for the sex but for the time spent. I believe being naked with a sexy girl on a bed and just caressing and chat is sexy in its own way. The seduction and teasing leads to better experiences for me.

I do two days of travel to the major metro area nearest me. It's not two days of driving, but the entire trip takes the better part of two days.  

interesting. I wonder why?

Posted By: inrockfordnow

So I've been a ''regular'' of a certain girl for a few months now.  Recently there have been some dramatic developments which I don't really want to talk about here.  These developments are all good, but also very private.  
   
 But it leads me to wonder about the experiences of others.  So I am asking anyone who cares to answer, what have your experiences been as a regular?  Or to the escorts, what have been your experiences seeing regulars?  
   
 I am especially curious how the ''regular'' business relationship progresses, and how/why it might ever veer off into a non-business direction.  
   
 No doubt some of you may not want to answer out of concerns for privacy.  But maybe some of you are a bit more open about it than I am.    
   
 I look forward to reading your stories.

I'm not sure, but it probably is a combination of there being relatively few escorts on this board (that is, compared to the number of clients), and also a general disinterest in talking to us clients for purposes other than advertisement.

The first and only lady I met have recently become friends also. I have been seeing her for a few times a year for 2 or 3 years. I never expected anything to come from our paid time even though I liked her and had good chemistry with her. It started with her asking me to meet her for lunch the next day. Then we had lunch several more times and eventually started hanging out more and more. we talk or text nearly every day and hang out 2 or 3 times a week as friends. I still pay for our time in bed together sometimes,especially when she needs cash  but sometimes its on the house, but she does usually give me money back or we end up being in bed 2 or 3 hours for a one hour date. Anyway I realize that our relationship is still about money for her to some degree. We just have personalities that match and enjoy hanging out with each other in our spare time. Just be careful of letting emotions get the best of you. And enjoy it for what it is and as for long as you can. Have fun and good luck.

More as friends or old lovers. The sexy time is great, as we are already accustomed to eachothers' bodies, and the overall quality of our time spent together is just better.

Interesting, thanks for sharing.